As long as you are not self-conscious about it, then there is nothing weird about going out alone.

VISUALBEAUTYPLZ · 2021-03-07T14:46:58+00:00

While it's sad to see others with company like friends and family, it's inevitable. You've got go alone sometime or other

beach_samurai_ · 2021-03-07T15:15:11+00:00

I go out alone all the time. I’m a rambunctious soul and I get stir-crazy easily, the pandemic has been really awful for that. People have asked why I’m out alone and I’ll tell them straight up, just felt like having a drink and no one else is up for it, but that’s not gonna stop me. I usually think of a more fun way to phrase it, but if anything I think it’s actually very strange and rude on their end to ask why I’m alone - I dunno, same thing you’re doing with your friends? Yep that’s what I’m doing, except I’m out to meet new ones. Should be a no-brainer, but we’ve killed spontaneity so everything needs a justification now.

It’s very strange how we have to be seen with other people in order to be considered worthy of talking to. In this increasingly alienated generation, we ought to normalize doing things alone. It’d help us to remember that you don’t need this curated, predetermined group to set out and do fun and innovative things, and there’s a world beyond your immediate friend group.

Never be defensive about going out alone, own it. Regardless of what the other person thinks, it’s a sign of independence.

DemolitionMech · 2021-03-07T15:41:57+00:00

I agree with this post, but I’d say make a big effort to get a wing. There is no denying that having a wingman makes it all way easier. Having at least one person there with you effects your psychology a lot, in terms of comfort, motivation, courage, feedback, etc.

ahowls · 2021-03-07T18:21:34+00:00

Was at the bar with my friends friday, him and his girl dipped and i said, "aight see ya later" chilled around the bar for a minute, struck conversation with a group of girls, they then invited me to another bar which of course i accepted. Had a grand ol time, with people i literally just met. Ended up hookin up with one of em, and i saw tons of people i know. If you are in the right mindset (and a lil drunk) then you can roll on ur own just fine. Sometimes youll find you actually have way more fun on ur own than you did with your crew lol

pepskino · 2021-03-07T17:16:37+00:00

I actually prefer this I go out alone go on vacation alone only thing I miss about having friends with me is someone to brag to about all my conquest

MisterShogunate · 2021-03-07T15:34:51+00:00

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CutieBootie90 · 2021-03-07T16:05:45+00:00

I use to go out alone cause I don’t have a lot of friends and people I worked with or people in my life would be like that’s weird. And so I stopped, but I miss going on dates with me!

2021-03-07T14:59:03+00:00

Spot-on. I love this post!!

idevastate · 2021-03-07T20:39:54+00:00

I literally spent years going out by myself and then just making friends/meeting girls on my outings. Later, someone remarked "man I think it's so cool when I see you around the bar areas just doing your thing by yourself". Had no idea people were watching.

InternationalBorder9 · 2021-03-07T20:44:01+00:00

Going out/doing things alone is great. Can do.what you want, go where you want, stay out as long as you want etc. And if you meet other people you are 100% free to hang out with them without worrying about anyone else.

boyd73 · 2021-03-08T00:06:19+00:00

That's always been my biggest hangup is that I hate going out and doing things alone.

Once things start going back to normal, I'm gonna have to start working up the confidence to go out alone and see where it leads me. Thank you for this post.

OJSimpsons · 2021-03-08T00:16:12+00:00

So, "I have no friends!" Is the incorrect response?

2021-03-08T00:55:59+00:00

I just say that I like making new friends and pushing my comfort zone. It's the truth and they seem to really respect that (same when I tell them that I don't drink).

yourgirlfriendsdad · 2021-03-08T02:57:58+00:00

Nor is there anything weird about being self coincous about it and going out

blueberrywaffles_ · 2021-03-07T22:45:16+00:00

I like going out alone because then I don't have to worry about entertaining another person lol I can just do whatever I want whenever I want

Rozabellaa · 2021-03-07T22:54:08+00:00

At least lie and say your friend went home cause he got too drunk or something or ima be creeped out

Clariecefun · 2021-03-08T00:00:12+00:00

When I first started studying seduction (like literally the first few days) I went out alone. Danced with several HOT girls, talked to a few and went home with TWO girls. This is coming from someone who suffers with DEEP social anxiety.

Just some confidence for the guys out there.

I ALWAYS go out alone. Before COVID I would game alone at social places. It’s sad since most of my friends are afraid to go out and meet new people.

soltanparham · 2021-03-07T15:35:02+00:00

don't sell hope to people!!! if you want girls opinion , they think : he's alone , maybe no one wants him , maybe he's always alone , maybe he has ho one in his life so i don't want him too
other people think : he's sad and depressed or he can't even have one friend!
don't go to places alone! if it's for work its okay , but don't hit the bars and restaurants alone

Alpha-Charlie-Romeo · 2021-03-08T01:30:53+00:00

I went out with my mates once and they all stayed in one place for the night. Honestly I was pretty bored there and I wasn't really that into the music. So me being me I wandered off somewhere else. At some point during that night I was faced with this question "Where are your friends?". When I explained to her that I'd wandered off and left them, her face went from "Yeah right, who's going to believe that?" into a smile and nod of sympathy.

Not gonna lie I found her expressions pretty hilarious and annoying at the same time. I kind of wanted to reinforce the idea that I was telling the truth, but I knew that if I did it'd just seem more pathetic. In the end I just laughed at the look on her face and excused myself.

Kinopua · 2021-03-08T00:13:09+00:00

I actually prefer going out alone. I find I actually preform a lot better when I throw myself in with the sharks. Sink or swim.

loosetingles · 2021-03-08T03:50:24+00:00

The key to going out alone is going to more local watering hole/neighborhood bar type places. If you go somewhere too loud it makes conversation tough and not as natural. Also sit at the bar if you can help it. Worst case you make small talk with the bartender.

Moldy_Gecko · 2021-03-08T04:50:14+00:00

If you're a hunter, you are typically better alone anyway and likely more successful. When I was hunting a lot, I only went out with friends to maintain relationships, but alone to get laid.

velvetunderground111 · 2021-03-10T01:20:26+00:00

Older guy here: I went out alone all the time in my 20's and it was never an issue. Even got a LTR out of a bar pick up like this. My "wingmen" were, quite frankly, annoying and would often botch things when we met a group of women. Just found better luck flying solo as a kid. If a chick finds you attractive, she is not going to care that you are at a bar alone.

YesImTheAsshole_ta · 2021-03-10T05:21:47+00:00

Going out alone can be highly successful with low effort. Here’s what’s made it easiest for me:

pick the correct venue, it’s probably not a club. It’s somewhere there is a mix of other single guys and cute girls maybe coming in with a friend... idea is to look like the guy at the bar most worth getting to know. How do you do that?
get to the bar early or already be a regular and know the staff. If you can learn to chat up bartenders you’ll have built in wings and status for life. If she thinks you’re such a regular that she jokingly gives you a hard time that you must be there all the time, but you can honesty tell her that you just met these guys that night, it’s powerful.
let her push for the same night lay, you play it cool, get the number, hit her up in a few days or even weeks to get together. You have to turn the lonely loser at the bar concept on its head, displaying any thirst will fuck you up. Being the mysterious, confident guy that got her number but didn’t Come across as needy at all will get her excited when she finally does hear from you.

Title	As long as you are not self-conscious about it, then there is nothing weird about going out alone.
Author	MK2718
Upvotes	626
Comments	41
Date	March 7, 2021 1:01 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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