Kissed a girl and now crickets

IcyBjorn84 · 2024-04-30T19:44:58+00:00

Really hope I'm not too late to stop you from doing something stupid. DON'T listen to these other guys. Apparently they skipped over the part where you wrote how she said she was abused a lot and guys always expected sex on the first date and she said she wanted to cuddle with you. You did good mostly but a few things you could have done.

You have a heart, and that's GOOD. You took into consideration the things that happened to her in the past and didn't want to make her feel that way again. You have care and concern. This is not beyond saving and you still have a chance.

Do this instead of what these other guys are saying on getting to "score", text her and tell her that you took everything into consideration that night and didn't know how to approach it because you didn't want to seem eager. Because if you were you would not have been so nervous, would not have cared about how she felt and just rushed it.

Tell her the reason why you kissed her like you did. You obviously really like her and think of her as a wholesome woman that you want to hold and show her what a real man is. So apologize to her about just going for the kiss and tell her why you kissed her and tell her that you want to show her that you are a man compared to those guys. What you dropped the ball on is that she wanted to cuddle and your timing was terrible. But at the same time she could have cuddled up to you as she said she wanted to. However considering what she has gone through I can see why she didn't approach you, sit next to you and cuddle with you. So tell her that you were nervous and didn't want to scare her. That will tell her you actually care and are a good man.

Communication is important and key to any relationship, especially when one could develop and grow.

gtaIIIstan · 2024-04-30T15:45:34+00:00

You were more prude than the girl. It's over. You likely could've hooked up with her that first night in the car or better yet invited her over THAT NIGHT. Then you were given a second chance and same story.

You're another guy stuck in a romantic default. You're also way too literal. When a woman says "guys just wanted sex on the 1st date etc" it doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't want to have sex with you. In fact, it often reveals that sex is very much on her mind. She just wants it to be a good experience, and not be ghosted thereafter.

Mexcol · 2024-04-30T15:41:40+00:00

You didn't pull the trigger, she felt undesirable.

You didn't show masculinity.

Why would she lose more time with you? There's plenty of dudes that would have given her a good time

Also, dont listen to what she says, watch what she does!!! She shaved her legs, invited you over, turned her back to you!! almost pressed her cheeks against your parts!!!

Viktor2500 · 2024-04-30T18:00:22+00:00

Y'all both sound inexperienced af but for her it's negligible, whilst you will have to learn from your mistake and accept he role of being the one that has to make the right moves most of the time.

That night you sat all night and just talked you could have just went like let's watch something, prepare some snacks and when it's all ready just sit next to her and hug her straight away. It's that simple! You just learn what you can and can't do with experience.

Definitely meet her again, shoot her a message like when are you free today and go pick her up. Take her for a walk, hold her by the hand and give her a kiss at some point. You just need to be confident.

MosbyYOrs · 2024-05-01T02:09:02+00:00

So you're the first one to TREAT HER RIGHT?

Daamnn bro... hahahahaha

I think you should do your best to pursue her. But keep an open mind and realize that you still have other options. Thats all.

cemj86 · 2024-05-01T01:16:24+00:00

You're a guy?

What a complete fail.

First of all a woman's past doesn't matter. Don't be one of these weak guys that live in the fantasy that want a woman to make the first move. She told you countless times the way women do that she wants you yet you're too judgemental and weak to just go for what you want.

Be forward, have a little push she'll tell you if she's not down but in this case you yielded at every green light.

Women desire men who aren't afraid of them but not only showed her that you were afraid of her but also afraid of yourself... Weak.... how do you expect her to be free, feel safe and protected with a man like that.

Trust that she's with deebo around the way who accepts that she's a woman and allows her to be one.

LMAO you slept with her (correction, beside her) hesitant to even hug her or initiate anything sexual THEN you wait until you drop her off THE MORNING AFTER to kiss her? bro just leave the poor girl alone and brush up on some game.

I dare a woman to tell me she's shaving her legs. I'm coming back with "you better wear something sexy to go against that pretty soft skin of yours" or something to show that you are down.

Don't let it be an accident to fall into some box next time fam. She was horny as fuck.

thewhiteafrican · 2024-04-30T15:51:32+00:00

How many crickets? Stop kissing insects.

unevendopamine2 · 2024-05-01T19:32:46+00:00

You’ll never see her again
She wanted you to BE A MAN and handle the situation… you didn’t

I’ve been there atleast twice. Girls HATEEEE that shit

She told all her girlfriends about how she wasted her FUCKING TIME even shaved her legs…

You need to learn how to escalate

MichaelKnight80s · 2024-05-02T01:54:33+00:00

It’s funny how a girl will tell you all of that about herself, complain about other guys wanting sex, but if you don’t do what those other guys did she will cold-heartedly cut you. She most likely would be an entirely different girl if you would’ve made a move. It can also be that you made her feel she would have to initiate everything because you didn’t, and she thought that would be too hard and decided to leave the situation alone.

But you’ll probably never really know what it was exactly. I’ve seen girls say that and when another guy comes along, they initiate Everything. You’ll think they’re an entirely different woman it’s almost shocking. They go off your moves as a Man she wanted to have sex for sure so you know anything before that night in the same bed didn’t blow it. The next day it was different, sometimes it’s a subconscious thing she probably doesn’t know why she doesn’t want to talk, but she felt she put herself out there a few times it definitely was in a mixed signal type of way which isn’t right, but she wanted you to lead, wanted you to be more confident. Some girls will act like this they’ll seem innocent, but on social media, they’ll like posts saying that they hate a man that cannot lead and probably laugh and talk about you to their friends but give you mixed signals that make you pivot because you have more of a heart for her.

It’s all game some girls have different characters for different dudes but if you confident and you know game and you pick up on the signals, you can break down and through any character that a girl is playing. Usually these are the type of girls that can break your heart because they give you mixed signals and they seem so innocent but will cold-heartedly do you a certain way leaving you wondering and you’ll never see it coming but now you can learn from it. It could be good intentions and maybe she really is scared but you won’t really know if she’s not responding. Some girls will like you more and you may scare them so they run from you. They may like another dude also but not as much as they like you, they are just attracted to the other dude sexually but with you sexually and emotionally but they’ll move fast with the other dude and act different because they feel it’s less work, and it’s not as deep so no heartbreak.

You probably gave her to much deep conversation, so it’s like she was automatically put in a state where she has to act like she doesn’t want it as bad. Sometimes girls lose interest of the games that they play but they didn’t expect to lose interest so it’s kinda like they mess their own chances up sometimes not knowing what they want exactly. I wouldn’t text her again or reach out because now your showing a scarcity mindset in Women lose interest off that too, let her reach out to you if she doesn’t than go no contact in remove her from everything you got her on because technically you’re the one that got did wrong. It basically looks like she planned to ghost you or is planning to ghost you having a backbone and showing her that’s not OK that’s attractive. Not in an emotional way just quietly remove yourself.

SaaSWriters · 2024-04-30T19:12:26+00:00

Let her. Forget about her. Never contact her again.

Or you'll regret the day you met her.

Holiday_Treacle6350 · 2024-04-30T16:59:48+00:00

I got you bro. Make her a song and send it to tell her how you feel. Corny af but works like a charm - I made one with just your post for reference (https://suno.com/song/2a140e96-55e4-403c-b3e6-62a8618ffa13)

Videogamesarereel · 2024-04-30T21:27:53+00:00

Sounds like she was giving you all the signals and you blew it. It may seem unfair, but you as the guy have to read her actions as women can't just say "hey jump my bones" because she will be shamed for it.

I personally think it's silly we still have to play these games on 2024, but here we are.

Take it as a lesson learned.

Character-Ad5563 · 2024-04-30T22:54:32+00:00

hall of fame fumble

JussVibe4Life · 2024-05-01T15:51:16+00:00

You have not lost her just yet I don't think. My concern is, has she put you in the friend zone since you didn't make a move?

Any female that says, I got to shave my legs, that's giving you the green light. Now, I'm not saying just go jump on top of her, no. But that's your go head to make a move and see where things go. Start kissing her and feeling up on her. She can tell you to stop at any point, you know what I mean. Yes, Take it slow, but also make a move! Now, her telling you her past and stuff is so you know about it, and know she has insecurities and she may need reassured that you do like her. She told you for a reason, not sure what her reasons are exactly, but that right there shows she interested. Now, let's say y'all do get intimate, cuddle her after even grab her coffee and breakfast before you leave in the morning. Or if you end up going home that night, send her a text saying you enjoyed the evening and would love to take her out again, that You will talk to her tomorrow. Short and Simple.

My advice, text her and she if she would like to go out on an actual date and pay for the dinner! Take her out this time and make sure it's somewhere you know she will like. Even ask what type food she's in the mood for. But you pick the place. Show her what you got man. Most girls love to eat, invite her to go eat and then see where things go. Ask if she would like to Go for drinks after dinner. And then see where it goes. And if you've had too many drinks, grab an Uber, and grab you whip the next day. Pay for it. And When you go to drop her off, IF she invites you in, she's telling you to make a move. Same with the Uber, if she invites you in, make a move for damn sure this time. You have been a gentleman this whole time. Now let her know you can put it down in the bedroom too.

Hope she hasn't put you on the friend zone just yet. Hope this helps!

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-04-30T19:49:09+00:00

The only time I had a girl in my bed who I didn't fuck was when I had too much to drink and passed out.

TheWhite_death05 · 2024-05-01T17:33:31+00:00

Any updates?

Silverthrone921 · 2024-04-30T21:42:53+00:00

Typical girl that doesn't know what she wants. These other answers don't make sense to me. If she's just playing with your emotions like that i'd probably just ghost her and move on. I don't think you blew it at all here. If she ghosts you for not having sex that's on her not on you and it also means that she's not relationship material

domdomdom333 · 2024-04-30T22:11:39+00:00

Be happy dude you've gotten further than many others have. You're in top 10% for sure

Title	Kissed a girl and now crickets
Author	OnAJourney89
Upvotes	141
Comments	66
Date	April 30, 2024 3:21 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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