"Dont worry, I'm not hitting on you sweetheart"/"my intentions are pure"

tukipenda · 2024-05-26T01:45:54+00:00

This seems strange to me. You are hitting on them, you know it, they know it, and there's nothing wrong with it. Pretending otherwise comes across as awkward or like you're trying to hide your intentions. I would own your intentions confidently.

SaaSWriters · 2024-05-26T01:44:12+00:00

Why would you say something like that?

Just let them know what you want. They’ll agree or say no. Don’t complicate things.

In any case, when you say it, the girls know you’re scared to make a move.

Ok-Shock8867 · 2024-05-26T02:04:52+00:00

One of the top problems men have today is feeling like they need to pretend they're not hitting on a woman.

It's incredibly feminine to try to obscure your underlying masculine desire.

"Don't worry miss, definitely not hitting on you. Maybe we could get a drink sometime and I'll definitely not hit on you further. And I definitely don't want to have sex with you. Not me, heavens no."

Women actually like it when you're bold with what you want from them.

bannedcanceled · 2024-05-26T03:01:36+00:00

Fucking stupid is what i think of it lol

Electronic_d0cter · 2024-05-26T04:39:27+00:00

Don't sit on the fence, make a move or don't

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-05-26T06:39:08+00:00

Dreadful

Wing_Inevitable · 2024-05-26T02:36:21+00:00

"Dont worry, I'm not hitting on you sweetheart"/"my intentions are pure"

It sends a very wrong message . And that message is : “I’m not for sex . I’m one of the nerds that pays money for dates and maybe after 7-8 mounts I will fuck you (if you let me of corse )”

What do people think about saying something like "don't worry, I'm not hitting on you" after you approach? In person or online, dating apps or social media.

Even worse .

In a setting like a gym or workplace it seems like it cpuld help lighten the vibe but it would potentially make a man to woman dynamic more difficult in a general sense.

Wait you know ?

Then why the fuck would you think it is a good idea .

What do people think about let's say, using this to ask someone out for coffee/,drinks/a walk etc?

Hahhahahah . No you are paying for her .

90% of the time you will get some variation of “I’m a lady , spoil me “

I've only tried a few times but I've actually seen pretty good responses so far - 2 out of 5 people agreeing to dates...

I’m shocked . 2 ot of 5 . That is wayyyyyy more than expected .

If that worked You will have a hell of a time getting laid .

Wait they mistook it for friendship . ( no money spend + pure intentions = friends )

punktfan · 2024-05-26T04:48:28+00:00

Thinly veiled intentions are creepy as fuck. If you're hitting on her, own it. And don't belittle her by calling her sweetheart right off the bat, you're not doing yourself any favors by doing that. The most effective way to flirt is to be honest, transparent, and confident about your intentions while making her feel good!

shittybillz · 2024-05-26T06:56:47+00:00

Don’t do this. Ask yourself whether you want her first impression of you to be dishonest?

Women like bold men. Skirting around the fact that you are hitting on her, doesn’t do you any favours

Shadow__Account · 2024-05-26T08:11:17+00:00

This is the core of why people are unsuccessful and have big regrets. You have to understand that saying what you want and going for it is attractive. Weaseling around and manipulating is the opposite.

Imagine a guy friend hanging out with you laughing joking but actually he wants to borrow money, but he is building a friendship to wait for the right moment when you are weak to borrow money.

Think about what you are signaling to a woman with the just fiends approach. You are like a lowely hyena hanging around accepting you are not a leader but waiting for your chance to strike.

Women subconsciously know very well that these guys want to fuck them so they keep them at distance and use them for resources and attention. That is exactly where it will get you.

imfjcinnCRAAAAZYHEY · 2024-05-26T09:17:52+00:00

Sweetheart is like calling someone buddy, or pal. You want to cultivate the magic, not kill the magic.

DaygameCode · 2024-05-26T19:39:35+00:00

It’s apologetic, approval seeking and disingenuous behavior, and it makes women get the ick because you are basically saying that being hit on is something they should worry about and that hitting on someone is somehow not considered pure or well meaning.

It subtly hints that you don’t understand women or dating, and it projects insecurity, because offering reassurance when it was not needed can make the woman feel suspicious and uncomfortable.

Hitting on a woman is perfectly fine provided you do it right, but being apologetic about hitting on a woman only shows insecurity. It’s the same when you say stuff like “you are pretty no offence” or “with all due respect” or “i don’t want to make you uncomfortable but you are kinda cute”..

All you are doing is show insecurity by saying this, and trying too hard to be accepted.

Confident men don’t justify their actions like this.

Don't apologize to girls for making them feel uncomfortable if they haven't complained about it.

There are many guys who, for example, approach a girl in public at work in front of other people, and then get her number or whatever, and then when texting her, they say things like:

"Hi, I'm Jack, I hope I didn't make you uncomfortable asking for your number in front of your colleagues or interrupting you if you had something else to do, it's not my intention to make you uncomfortable, I just found you interesting and couldn't pass up the opportunity."

Don't apologize for things she hasn't complained about. The same applies to any other similar example where you're tempted to apologize just in case.

Apologizing because you think something might make her uncomfortable without her telling you it has, is for insecure losers.

In other words, you gain nothing by apologizing just in case you've made her uncomfortable, you only lose.

So it's better to reaffirm what you've done and act as if what you're doing is the best in the world, the most desirable, the most acceptable, and the most normal and most welcome thing in the world, than acting as if you had to say sorry for doing what you wanted to do in case she didn’t like it.

boom-wham-slam · 2024-05-26T21:02:16+00:00

You're halfway there, try this:

flirts a bit and comes on to her Now I don't wouldn't want you to think I'm hitting on you... pause I want you to know that I'm hitting on you.

puma085 · 2024-05-27T06:50:57+00:00

I am not sure about the quote you have mentioned itself but I think it can be quite effective to act a bit "off script" and not behave like the girls expect you to behave. Austrian guy here that is living in the states until january for work related education. I got lost at one point and my cell phone had no battery anymore. So I was forced to something old fashionend and asked for direction. A rather hot women was the first person I saw. The first thing she said after i said excuse me was I am not interested I am having a boy friend. I then said that's nice but as you can hear from my accent I am not from here and I just wanted to ask you for direction. Her attitude changed all of sudden and she turned out be quite helpful. I was in a hurry and had no time to talk more to her but I really found it funny how women react when they are caught off guard. lol.

Title	"Dont worry, I'm not hitting on you sweetheart"/"my intentions are pure"
Author	DDDystopia666
Upvotes	0
Comments	21
Date	May 26, 2024 1:40 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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