When I am in love with a woman, I find both her and everyone with similar physical features and mannerisms to her become more attractive to me, while women with opposite or significantly different features become less attractive. Does this happen to other people?

wtknight · 2024-06-27T20:20:24+00:00

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Demasii · 2024-06-27T20:43:55+00:00

Mere exposure effect - tendency to develop preferences for things simply because we are familiar with them.

kongeriket · 2024-06-27T22:00:00+00:00

Like maybe when I met her, she seemed like a 7, but now she seems like a 9

Pair-bonding is a thing, contrary to what extremists and disinformation agents on the Internet claim.

Also people's priorities change with age. We rarely care about the same things when we're 40 compared to 20. And we almost never have the same priorities.

Me and the missus are the odd ones out that we still enjoy traveling after we've seen 100+ countries and in lived in a few and all while raising a child and trying for a second. Most people stop living life that way after a while.

Still, we certainly tolerate each other's quirks easier now than 16 years ago. Because, again, pair-bonding is a thing.

As for sexual attraction, that hasn't changed that much, except my tastes aged slightly with me.

toasterchild · 2024-06-28T00:45:04+00:00

Sounds pretty normal to me, but it also works in reverse. When things go bad I suddenly find their features unattractive on other men.

No-Rough-7390 · 2024-06-27T20:05:28+00:00

It’s called “wife goggles”.

RubyDiscus · 2024-06-28T14:31:04+00:00

Same happens to me with my bf tho some characteristics I just like in general

Fun_Push7168 · 2024-06-28T17:15:05+00:00

All the time. Same name, hair type, really anything.

HTML_Novice · 2024-06-27T19:42:58+00:00

Yup I know what you’re talking about. It’s just how our man hormones tell us to breed with her, suddenly every attribute she has becomes your type.

It can really fuck you up if things don’t work out well with her btw

FunkGetsStrongerPt1 · 2024-06-27T22:26:55+00:00

That happened with my first girlfriend. Ever since her I became attracted to thin fair women with plainer faces. It just stuck. Even though she didn’t treat me well.

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Planthoe30 · 2024-06-29T06:20:28+00:00

I also am more attracted to my husband now than I was. We were both better looking objectively 7 years ago but because of pair bonding our attraction grew together. I thought he was cute then but damn am I in love now. Everytime I learned something new about him I loved him more.

ElegantEvent1431 · 2024-07-03T06:53:30+00:00

Yes, I grew up in a very small village where only the people of my nationality and culture existed. I met a black woman who's now my girlfriend and although I originally didn't find her attractive (physically I'm generally not attracted to women outside my race) I really liked her personality and wanted to get to know her more. We've now been a couple for 8 months and I find her very physically attractive and I find other black women attractive as well which I never would have done in the past.

McPigg · 2024-07-17T18:47:03+00:00

Yup i think thats how all my preferences kind of formed, most of it can be traced back to some girls in my youth.

banthaaa · 2024-06-27T19:37:24+00:00

Wouldn't know, never seen the stars reflected in the reservoirs.

sprckets21 · 2024-06-27T19:28:50+00:00

When I have a thin white gf, I tend to lust for thick mixed race girls. When I got a thick juicy gf, I’m checking out thin ones. If I got a girl with big butt, then I want big tits, and vice versa. It’s a real quagmire I wish I was like you.

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