How do I tell my boyfriend I don't want to do something sexual anymore?

tefadina · 2024-08-23T19:21:52+00:00

What’s the worst possible reaction you think he would have?

Wife_and_Mama · 2024-08-23T20:19:53+00:00

I think, in this situation, it's best to bring it up in a non-sexual moment. Just tell him you're not into it anymore, that it doesn't make you feel good. Make sure you note that that you were into it before, so it doesn't come across as you accusing him of something. Just tell him you want to be honest with him and see where the conversation goes. You can't plan out much more than that.

plein_old · 2024-08-23T20:36:07+00:00

What's his psychology?

Some men pride themselves on pleasing a woman in bed. If you drop hints that you're not into XYZ, maybe that's all that's necessary, for the sake of his own pride?

Some forms of sexuality are really prized by um, men who are not into women. Here again, you could drop some hints that help your bf to understand your dislike for certain behaviors, and maybe help him want to distance himself from those behaviors, possibly

Jenneapolis · 2024-08-24T14:51:56+00:00

It’s going to depend on how critical this kink is to who he is and what he wants. If it’s something he can live without and he really loves you then he will probably get over it. But if it’s extremely critical to his ability to enjoy sex, it may cause problems.

banana_commando · 2024-08-23T21:35:47+00:00

Just say, "Boyfriend, I don't think I'm gonna do hamster style anymore..."

little7bean · 2024-08-24T22:02:37+00:00

maybe state how it makes u feel, remind him tht u still love him and enjoy intimacy w him, and then suggest some possible alternatives. approach gently and w care if ur scared of hurting him!

sensitive_pirate85 · 2024-08-23T20:16:52+00:00

I’m not sure where I read it, but it said something like, “When it comes to sex, you can only move forward not backwards with men…” the implication was, that once you were sexual, together, the expectation was that you would remain sexual with eachother…

I personally think this is a bit sexist, but it makes sense to the way that most men think: Once you are intimate together, you’ll forever remain intimate… At least for as long as you’re together.

Taken to its logical extreme, once could argue that once you participate in a particular sex-act together, you’ll forever have been intimate in that way… However, you always have the ability to change your mind, and the right to consent to any type of sexual activity.

cubatista92 · 2024-08-24T03:48:27+00:00

If there are other kinks you guys engaged in, nd sure you highlight your interest in those

TheXemist · 2024-08-30T19:32:27+00:00

Do you do “aftercare “after you’ve been degraded?

I read that is necessary to do, to confirm that what happened was only for the bedroom and not how they think of you all the time. This is stuff like hugs/cuddles, saying nice compliments unrelated to the event, going out for ice cream, whatever your love language is. Rather than you just get degraded, and he ends the night with “thanks honey” and leaves you alone in the dust. I think that’s the least he could do.

ueberryark · 2024-08-23T19:26:46+00:00

You discuss it transparently and not with a fixed outcome in mind. Remember the RPW advice "bring him the problem, not the solution"? - your objective is not to definitely not participate in this kink anymore, your objective is to communicate to him the feelings that have arisen in you about it, and to receive his support/feedback on that.

TheBunk_TB · 2024-08-24T00:23:27+00:00

Are you ready for him to leave?

AutoModerator · 2024-08-23T18:42:39+00:00

Title: How do I tell my boyfriend I don't want to do something sexual anymore?

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Full text: We are both in our late 20's and have been together for 3 years. Our relationship is good otherwise but I am unsure how to approach this sensitive topic. There is a kink we've participated in together for the time we've been together but I am no longer into it, it leaves me feeling degraded and bad about myself afterwards now.

I know to not say yes to anything I know will make me resentful, but this obviously needs a sensitive approach as it's a potentially precarious topic due to how much men value sex and how vulnerable sex is.

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Title	How do I tell my boyfriend I don't want to do something sexual anymore?
Author	DependentInternal875
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Comments	42
Date	August 23, 2024 6:42 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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