Separated from my stbxw for 1 year and 3 months. Divorce is supposed to be final at the beginning of December. Came to a realization today that seems to have solidified in my mind. We both had issues. I’ve grown since the separation, she is the same as ever. I realize now that not only was she incapable of loving a romantic partner but also she isn’t capable of BEING loved. All the times I tried meant nothing because she simply existed in her complete solipsism. I feel bad for any person she may find in the future. Part of me is actually glad she left. It wasn’t that way at first. The rejection has a way of causing pain. We have kids together, so we have some contact, but outside of that I want nothing to do with her. Did anyone else experience an ex like this?