The Woman He Supports and The Woman He Wants to Take Care Of

light_n_air · 2024-10-28T16:58:38+00:00

Happy for you! I think you can minimise things changing once your job starts by staying happy and grateful.

My personal theory is that the feeling of how "homey" a space is and how willing a man is to provide has a lot more to do with how his partner makes him feel than the actual things she does. As long as he is not starving and the home is not a huge mess, focus more on your own mood and how you treat him. I have personally seen women fall into the trap of keeping everything spotless and always cooking fancy meals (sometimes while holding down a job), but getting so stressed out and angry during the process that she is an absolute nightmare to be around. My personal experience is men would much rather have a happy wife and a slightly messy home than a beautiful home and an extremely stressed out and annoyed wife.

Top-Break6703 · 2024-10-28T16:19:48+00:00

Aww :)

Right_Apartment3673 · 2024-10-28T17:12:22+00:00

Perfect couple. A go getter (any gender) is popularly valued much more than a non commercial baker. It shows the stark difference between reality and what is fed through media.

That's anything but submission. That's bliss, epitome of each doing what they truly love.

You both have found your soulmates, better halves.

Leonhart93 · 2024-10-28T17:18:37+00:00

You would be surprised by how many men envision this as their ideal, how much they say that they want to have someone to love and protect like that. It's a natural imperative.

But the great irony here is that those are rarely the men that a lot of women chase these days. Which is why you hear so many negative stories now.

I think he wanted to say that to you since before, but men these days are also getting persuaded by the narrative. And so he probably thought that it was something you really wanted at first.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2024-10-28T17:48:56+00:00

I love this. A man who takes care of his woman this way will always be well taken care of himself!

flower_power_g1rl · 2024-10-28T16:26:33+00:00

Inspiring! <3

Equivalent-Ad5449 · 2024-10-28T18:02:19+00:00

This is so lovely

zaftig_stig · 2024-10-29T05:43:45+00:00

That’s so awesome, thank you for sharing your story!

mitsybr · 2024-10-30T02:25:58+00:00

I loved that post so much!!

AutoModerator · 2024-10-28T16:13:19+00:00

Title: The Woman He Supports and The Woman He Wants to Take Care Of

Author Automatic-Praline568

Full text: It's been a while since my last post, so here's a big update.

Previously I was working as an entrepreneur. I wanted to set my own schedule and be my own "girl-boss". I worked as crazy hours as my boyfriend who is also self-employed for over 6 years. He told me he supports me and would be with me through this part of my life.

Well, after 2 years of my go-getter lifestlye my boyfriend asked me if I was happy because he could tell I wasn't. I confessed I'm happiest when I'm taking care of the home, baking or cooking, making our space a nice place to live and reading a good book at the end of the day.

I was scared that he wanted someone who could match his energy. Scared of how our relationship would change when I admited this. To my surprise, he just wanted me to be happy. He said he loves when I have food for him when he gets home and me making our space homey makes him want to rush home back to me.

We decided I'd get a regular job for now while he's building his business to get us our own place and start our life (engagement/marriage) which just wasn't possible when we were both "getting it out the mud".

A couple months later, and he told me in a moment of tenderness that he just wants to take care of me. In the months while I was finding a job (the market is insane for my industry) he refused to let me buy anything ever. He'd even get "upset" when I'd bring out cash and say "I'm taking care of you. Stop it."

I feel so blessed. I now am employed, but we have such a different dynamic than before. I feel like a princess in every day life. He takes such good care of me, and I him of course. The laundry is done. There is always food or treats. And I don't worry about a single bill or payment. Obviously, things will change again when I have a job, but he confessed to me last night he loves my submission. He finds it sexy and he loves when our roles are cemented in this way. He said he loves that he knows I am confident and can take charge but I trust him to do it and look at him with adoration.

All this to say, create the life you want with your person now. Establish the dynamic now. You'll see if you have the man of your dreams.

I'm blessed to say I absolutely do!

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WorldlinessFormer700 · 2024-10-28T16:44:23+00:00

Since you are both happy, why get a job, and won’t that change the dynamic between you?

Title	The Woman He Supports and The Woman He Wants to Take Care Of
Author	Automatic-Praline568
Upvotes	84
Comments	29
Date	October 28, 2024 4:13 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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