How to deal with regret of not approaching?

southparkslope · 2024-11-03T14:40:06+00:00

You overthought it and you’re under activated (because you over thought it).

Next time just say hi as you’re walking by and move along. It will lighten the load you’re carrying. Don’t worry about saying anything else - if it happens it will happen. Do that for a couple weeks. Then see how you’re feeling.

LA_Amadeus · 2024-11-03T14:03:10+00:00

There are 4 billion women on the planet, approach the next one

Fantastic-Willow-754 · 2024-11-03T14:39:03+00:00

To deal with it, don't fantasize about someone and acknowledge the mentality that no girl is special. If you repeatedly think about her, you'll regret not approaching or feel very anxious if you approach

KoleSekor · 2024-11-03T14:21:38+00:00

For one, courage is sexy. Women like it so you need to build it.

Two, how much courage do you really need to chat up a girl? She's not a lion or shark that can hurt you. The worst she can do is say no thanks when you ask to exchange social media.

hunterpua · 2024-11-03T14:41:14+00:00

On one hand, you should feel bad that you didn't go for it. Avoiding discomfort is often a more powerful motivator than running towards pleasure.

On the other hand, the more you do approach and the better your track record is for taking opportunities over the years, the less the instances where you don't go for it will bother you, because the fact that there will always be other opportunities will have sunk in for you.

So the solution really is to just go for it whenever an opportunity presents itself.

Wean1eHu11 · 2024-11-03T18:15:31+00:00

Don’t “deal with it”, use it as fuel for your next approach. Take a snapshot of how you feel now and remember that the next time you want to approach someone but don’t, this is how you will feel. Do you want to feel like that over all the unknown possibilities that could come from the approach?

OCDisaBruhMoment · 2024-11-03T14:15:05+00:00

We’ll get em next time. She prolly had a boyfriend anyway.

JackSquirts · 2024-11-03T16:31:56+00:00

Don't make the same mistake twice in a row. I still kick myself for not engaging the girl in the green dress right after my separation when my game was super rusty. She was gorgeous and I blew it.

5thquad · 2024-11-03T22:42:51+00:00

Approach strangers as if they are friends you haven't seen in a while. Makes the conversation easier as well.

SoggyTangerine451 · 2024-11-04T00:42:47+00:00

just stop thinking about it. once you meet her again in the gym, just approach her and dont think, just do. If you take your chance and get a good outcome, good for you; if not, you didnt lose anything

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2024-11-04T01:44:53+00:00

Did you ever play sports? On to the next play.

Dwerg1 · 2024-11-03T14:49:30+00:00

Think about it and not do it a bunch more times until the thought of the inevitable regret is more unbearable than whatever would happen if you just did it.

epimpstyle · 2024-11-03T15:22:40+00:00

Approaching girls in the gym is taboo - there are lots of reasons why it is not a good idea to do so in the gym(even your instinct has stopped you doing this). Approaching a girl should not be an act of bravery, but an act of efficiency. Go to places where it is easier to talk to women, you will make your life a lot easier.

Professional_Kick149 · 2024-11-04T00:56:02+00:00

by approaching

heartrob22 · 2024-11-04T08:55:13+00:00

Just start with casual hi and hello...ask her about the exercises and all and this way you could start the conversation

mjornir · 2024-11-04T21:33:16+00:00

Let the regret stick in your mind and use it as motivation to approach the next woman you find attractive

pummel369 · 2024-11-05T13:39:17+00:00

I'm in the same boat as you A cute girl sat across from me on the train, and we looked at each other multiple times, even after getting off :(

One problem I realized was that I kept telling myself there’d be a better moment to approach her once we got out, but we ended up parting ways quickly, and then she was gone. So next time, I won’t wait for a better moment and approach her earlier

Teripendiicecreamyum · 2024-11-03T14:07:17+00:00

Your best bet is to ask her to spot you on some exercise and pretend to go for more reps and then thank her for motivation(fist bump)

Title	How to deal with regret of not approaching?
Author	Good-Week-6131
Upvotes	17
Comments	31
Date	November 3, 2024 2:00 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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