My family is playing the middle field on the divorce. They say that they don't want to choose and they welcome everyone, and I was the one who brought her into the family for 8 years. This came up as a result of the holidays.

Well today I told them that no real family would ever be interested in having an abusive ex around their own blood. And the fact that they feel the need to include her only solidifies where I stand in the family. They say that I'm immature because it's not fair for me to tell them to split off from her. But I told them that I personally would feel no desire to be around my children's ex if I found out that their partner lied/gossiped, cheated, and stole from them.

I told them that the love that they give me is clearly different than the love I give my own children. Hence why I can't understand why they're so concerned about keeping the peace. They say that I need to give them time because she'll probably just eventually move on. However, I shouldn't have to beg for my own family to stick up for me in the meantime.

When she's gone I will be too, because my family clearly doesn't look out for my best interests.