Wife mad because I "destroying her dreams" and "her life"

psinguine · 2024-11-15T21:39:26+00:00

Tell her she's free to go.

fix-the-man · 2024-11-15T21:45:51+00:00

Buy her a big, expensive suitcase.

Praexology · 2024-11-15T21:55:25+00:00

Your options:

1) Stand your ground and risk having her leave.

Pros: If she stays, you now have the ability to reconstruct the tone and mood of the household.

Cons: You wil be perceived as the bad guy.

2) Capitulate and Comply.

Pros: You get to put off another fight until the next time.

Cons: Your life is dominated by a bitchy woman. (And not in the cool latex way.)

Or something more your speed:

Bitch and moan while simultaneously doing exactly what she says so that not only do you not get the benefits of simply complying with her, but you also further train yourself to be an insufferable soft pink pussy.

Pros: You get to tell you friends that you "stood up" to her, without ever actually risking anything except your respectability and sex life. (Both of which are already 0, so no total sum loss there.)

Cons: Honestly, none.

I vote 3.

MrPetrikov · 2024-11-15T22:44:24+00:00

this has nothing to do with the home

GRIZZ-3 · 2024-11-15T21:38:41+00:00

Hint: It's probably not about the house or the stupid furniture.

If you want real answers, cut the shit and tell us how much you suck.

grimbasement · 2024-11-15T21:47:33+00:00

I never comment here but read the side bar. Especially NMMNG. She hates you because you aren't leading and she's the captain. No more bitching here, read, do the work work on you. you aren't responsible for her feelings but you are responsible for being a little whiny bitch that she hates. You got here you need to get on a track to know where you're going before you can leadm

MonkeyThrowing · 2024-11-16T00:43:19+00:00

My brother had the exact same thing happened to him. His wife was always bitching about the house and everything else. He bought her a bigger house. She cheated anyway.

SunderedValley · 2024-11-16T00:35:27+00:00

Did one of her friends recently break up?

2wo2wo3hree · 2024-11-16T07:31:51+00:00

Tell her it’s not your fault she married a loser.

Peace0fMind102 · 2024-11-16T07:24:27+00:00

You must’ve done (or been idk) something that was the last straw

Environmental-Top346 · 2024-11-16T00:39:10+00:00

If she wants to pay for a bigger place, she’s free to do that. You’re don’t have to be her slave, you’re just choosing to be.

DMH_75032 · 2024-11-16T15:29:36+00:00

She's pissed off at you in general. The house is the outlet. Solve the real problem or split another debt in divorce after she now hates the dream house you had to buy for her. BTDT.

SelectAirline · 2024-11-19T14:48:03+00:00

When I was in high school I worked construction jobs during the summers, and even at that age I recognized that most of the kitchen remodels that we did were only happening because the cunty wife hated her doofus husband. The husband had already bought her the house, given her carte blanche on decorating, and ceded control over any of the household decisions. I saw lots of "man caves" out in the garages, and on the rare occasions that the residents were home I mostly saw men who were getting laid far less often than I was.

https://youtu.be/_x581NYKOaI?feature=shared

Give that a watch. Sounds like your wife is insolent right now. Buying her a house for acting like an entitled twat will push her directly toward contempt. Don't reward bad behavior.

I'd also suggest drawing a hard line on the divorce talk. Nuke that shit from orbit, and if she crosses that line again then go ahead and file for her.

Livid-youngone-543 · 2024-11-16T15:44:07+00:00

What are your dreams? Do you have mutual goals you are working towards? This sounds like a communication issue. Women want to be saved -- even if they say they don't they do. Does she work? When was the last time you went out and truly talked to each other? The new year is coming up, can you work together on goals/dreams, and figure out what all these things will cost and what would need to change in order to make these things happen?
totally solvable problem, if you are both willing to talk and communicate.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2024-11-16T16:20:31+00:00

Unless there is some asymmetric factor like her being a malignant narcissist or something, she’s pissed because you weren’t her first choice. Anytime you run into a cunty woman it’s because she married her fourth round draft pick and not her first round draft pick.

If anyone is “destroying her dreams“ it’s her. And she’s making herself unhappy in the process. Whatever the fuck you do, do not go into a lot of debt buying her a big goddamn house somewhere because when she has that, what the fuck does she need you for? She’ll send you packing get the house the court system That has been Weaponized against men will make you pay for summer all of it. So yeah fuck that shit.

Find out who the best five or six divorce lawyers in town are. Go visit all of them so you can conflict them out if she decides to divorce you later. Figure out what steps you need to take in anticipation of her, leaving and suing you for a bunch of cash in a divorce. I would probably slowly bleed off some money and keep it in a shoebox, somewhere safe, or in a safe deposit box in a corporate name. I’m not saying you should do that, I’m saying that’s what I’d probably do.

And whatever the fuck you do, after you get out of this situation, do not get married again. All that does is invite the state into your relationship and then it’s two on one.

businessstravel · 2024-11-16T00:38:15+00:00

lol

Sidebar, lift, and shut your yapp, fatty.

RPsodapants · 2024-11-16T14:06:55+00:00

Bye Felicia.

Frank24602 · 2024-11-16T14:23:12+00:00

Talk to a lawyer and find out what a divorce would look like, get real numbers, not just internet advice. Unless you're living in a situation that is both well below your means and clearly way too small, not just relatively 5 move to make her happy. You can't make her happy, and if you give in, she will just threaten divorce over the next big thing she wants. Don't do things you don't want to do, don't make decisions that hurt you and your goals (like spending more money so you can't save, or living somewhere where you hate the commute more than you like living there). You can give her everything, and she still has the right to leave, so don't do it for her. And next time she thratens a divorce go ahead and file, THAT you can give her.

Kevlar__Soul · 2024-11-18T05:24:29+00:00

Think the only answer to a threat like this is to call her bluff.

A bigger houses and nicer furniture will never make anyone happier for long. I can also assure you that her getting divorce only makes that dream much harder. Only option here is to stand your ground. If she wanted bigger and better right now she should have told you years ago so you could make a plan.

IntelligentSpeaker · 2024-11-18T17:29:41+00:00

Bigger house = bigger/more problems.

architectintx · 2024-11-18T22:44:06+00:00

If its her dream then she should work to realize it, why are you being guilt tripped about it?

w3ave7 · 2024-11-19T00:09:07+00:00

This is about control. Depending on how you respond, we may need to send you a sewing kit for Christmas to see your balls back on

Title	Wife mad because I "destroying her dreams" and "her life"
Author	RedSpeedManiac
Upvotes	28
Comments	29
Date	November 15, 2024 9:27 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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