Does it make sense to fail comfort tests on purpose?

Monsta-Hunta · 2025-01-22T13:43:55+00:00

Comfort test is identified by who she's talking about. You or her. If she's talking about how she feels and it's all about her, she's seeking your comfort.

If you don't care that she walks out on you and shacks up with Betabux Billy for security then go right ahead, ignore her. Just stfu and change the subject or tell her that you don't play love games, all you love is her fat ass.

Reddittuser9 · 2025-01-22T13:44:44+00:00

The more comfort I supply the less I get of what I want. So I be careful to only reward the behavior that I want. I may have pushed it too far though. She started getting panic attacks when I’m gone for work. However, started getting nudes texted to me while I’m on the road and a nice up tic in enthusiasm in the bed.

Her: You only tell me you love me after I suck your dick.

Me: That’s when I love you the most :)

This takes conscious effort for me bc my default is to treat her as I would want to be treated. That doesn’t pay well though.

hmpanon · 2025-01-22T16:28:44+00:00

The fact she is saying this is likely cause she is feeling some dread. What you do depends on where you are on your journey. You can say/do one thing early on get a response and then say/do the same thing later on in your journey and get a totally different outcome.

You kinda know what you want, (no I don’t want to be with the bitch you are now, I want the person who you were before). But I would definitely not say this early on, and definitely not say this early on when she is on her period.

I think this is a shit test. When you say “ I plan on marrying the right woman, etc” she will likely, given that you are just starting mrp, give you more shit “what do you mean, am I not what you want, etc.” STFU, lift, WISNIFG stuff, and then STFU more

Tyred_Biggums · 2025-01-22T14:18:35+00:00

You don’t want to tell her the truth since you fear losing her. Don’t have to be an asshole about it. “I’m having fun with you as things are”. Fog. Etc. etc.

InChargeMan · 2025-01-22T17:16:01+00:00

Be more specific if you need help. At the moment can't tell if your stupid or retarded.

Indubious1 · 2025-01-24T16:36:19+00:00

Telling her whatever she wants to hear is manipulation. That’s the crap that gets her to not trust you, and ultimately, find you unattractive.

Be an adult. Own what you want. There’s no need to play stupid games. You want to spin plates and eat ass 24/7? lol that’s your call. And nobody cares as long as you go into something having the balls to just own it. At least that way, she can make an informed decision moving forward instead of thinking you want one thing when you want another. What’s the worst case scenario? She leaves and you keep having to find someone else until you find the one chick that actually likes who you are without you having to lie about it?

Btw- there’s a fine line between acting selfish and entitled vs owning who you are and knowing what you deserve. For the latter, it takes work to create that value. You don’t get to just make demands from a position of weakness, you build up to it.

Title	Does it make sense to fail comfort tests on purpose?
Author	Evervolving
Upvotes	3
Comments	29
Date	January 22, 2025 1:00 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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