If you are asking out a girl who is your friend for let’s say coffee, should you explicitly mention it’s a date or nah?

CoachSlyDating · 2025-03-05T16:32:04+00:00

Don’t ask if she wants to grab coffee. Assume she wants to. You need to ask if she’s free to grab coffee.

Don’t call it a date. just confirm time and location. “let’s meet here at x time, sound good?”

also don’t invite until 1-2 days prior to date

Raisin-vert · 2025-03-05T16:18:51+00:00

Definetly not the 1st one lol.

The best approach is go out , and try to have the best moment, and to see if it’s possible to escalate sexualy on the conversation, if you can have physical contact and all the basic shit.

If she stops you, then leave her alone, you are still in the friendzone. You can leave her until she comeback to you and you can clearly tell her that you want something else than being friend

AiSensualGoddess · 2025-03-05T19:02:29+00:00

If you are a beginner yes because the intent has to be clear beforehand since beginners don’t usually know how to create a man to woman vive with girls without setting some type of expectation first. However this can lead to some resistance from her and more flakes.

Advanced players don’t need to because they know how to create a man to woman vibe spontaneously without having to set expectations beforehand, which makes things more smooth and less likely to flake.

As for the third one, you can’t lose your frame that you are the catch, so you have to agree and amplify:

Her: “Yeah, but just as a friends” (she implies she is not expecting anything sexual or romantic to happen and forcing you to accept her terms)

You: “Relax, I’m not that easy” (This flips the frame, making it seem like she would have to qualify for more than friendship, without sounding like you are trying to overcome an obstacle or pushing for something, while keeping the interaction on your terms without resistance)

Hutrookie69 · 2025-03-05T17:16:01+00:00

LMAO. Bro, just ask her to go for some coffee and leave it at that unless you wanna skip the bullshit. If you make the “ it’s a date joke” she’s either gonna cancel which means she doesn’t like you like that or she will agree and now you know she likes you.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-03-05T16:13:04+00:00

No matter how you ask her out, you're not getting out of the friendzone.

You already lost when your scenario is "how to ask out a friend". You should ask out women who are not yet your friend. When they're your friend already, it's too late.

liftingnstuff · 2025-03-05T17:04:25+00:00

Ask her in person, and flirt before asking her so it's obvious that it's a date.

N0b0dy-Imp0rtant · 2025-03-05T21:55:53+00:00

Ask her when a good time to grab coffee would be, you’d love to do it. Let her confirm when and do it. Make it and treat it like a date and see how it goes.

BuyHighValueWomanNow · 2025-03-05T23:13:04+00:00

Either way, she knows whats up.

dogstarfugitive · 2025-03-06T00:34:10+00:00

Say one of 2 things. In a cool friendly way say 'would you like to go on a date with me' Or. I'm going to this cool bar with great cheeseburgers to see a band. Join me. Let her answer. It will be yes, no or I have a boyfriend (who may exist or not). If the second no matter what she says u go anyway. It says I'm having fun whether u show up or not.

MysteryLiezer · 2025-03-05T16:23:44+00:00

“You! Me! Coffee! Weekend! Date!”

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No, let’s be real—she already knows you like her, and has already decided if she feels the same—or not.

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Your job isn’t to remind her of what she already knows!

Neither is it to force or inspire feelings in her, especially against her will!

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No, your only job should be to…listen to a bunch of strangers on Reddit and do EXACTLY what they tell you to, step by step, and to say EXACTLY what they tell you to say, word-for-word, verbatim, until THEIR WORDS make YOUR GIRLS pussy wet!

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I mean, it’s either that, or, you know, just be yourself 🤢

Simple_Fun9268 · 2025-03-06T04:12:51+00:00

Yes. "Let's do a coffee date sometime, sound good?" ... "Ok cool how's your schedule the next few days?"

Feel free to msg me, I can help.

devilkingx2 · 2025-03-06T04:12:57+00:00

If she wants it to not be a date she won’t go or she’ll make sure you know it’s not a date.

I would suggest drinks at a bar since that has better date vibes and is less friendly than coffees at Starbucks but coffee at Starbucks can be a date too.

Mr_Funk- · 2025-03-06T11:16:59+00:00

I had a similar situation and said "ok let's do on Thursday as I will have time to groom for the occasion ;)" I'm not an English native so I don't know if the translation is proper. The literal translation would be "to make myself handsome", so you get the idea. I think it helped set the right frame

WalidfromMorocco · 2025-03-07T11:25:57+00:00

Good luck. I don't have advice for that, but my 2 cents is next time, don't wait until you're friends with a girl to ask her out.

AlfalfaVegetable · 2025-03-05T18:51:36+00:00

Absolutely communicate expectations. And if she'd been your friend, the assumption is that you consider her friendship worthwhile on its own merits, so enjoy coffee with a friend (or if you don't consider friendship with her worthwhile on its own merits, stop being friends, and consider why you were friends with someone I'd you don't consider friendship with them worthwhile on its own merits.

ishlabandz · 2025-03-05T19:20:20+00:00

If you're trying to seduce her, do something in the evening (like drinks). Coffee dates give off a platonic vibe.

Bittesallaizer · 2025-03-05T17:51:16+00:00

yeah sure, you should say "Be aware, I might have romantic interest in you"
cmon man

SaidThatGuy · 2025-03-05T19:21:27+00:00

As a guy from Bangalore. I d go for second one. Just be chill. Calling it a date would set expectations which women may run from cuz she doesn't know if she likes you yet.

david-lee-roth- · 2025-03-05T20:03:48+00:00

If you like her just tell her. It will save you time

Vegetable_Republic63 · 2025-03-05T18:21:22+00:00

If you think it’s a date you might wanna let her know

unevendopamine2 · 2025-03-05T21:38:36+00:00

Next time you see her, tell her she looks hot today and don’t say anything else…

Then the next day say “we should hang out”

You’ll probably still get friendzoned but this will let her know you tryna phuuuuuuck

Vegetable-Ad8452 · 2025-03-05T21:57:23+00:00

Be yourself. Play around. Say “It’s a date” but not with the intentionality that ‘It’s a date.” You’re just friends. Be confident, take things as they go.

Reasonable_Tip7217 · 2025-03-05T16:57:12+00:00

Coffee seems too causal and friendly. Invite her for dinner and drinks.

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