In my last post, I was trying to figure out the disconnect between many women who claim to have constant or lower physical standards for casual sex compared to LTRs and conventional wisdom that hookup guy is much hotter than relationship guy. I've concluded that it's mostly a segment of women who look for casual sex with random strangers who seem to have drastically different standards for hookups vs LTRs. Other factors seem to matter as well, including:
- Whether she approaches the man first and makes it super obvious that she's looking for casual sex.
- The gender ratios in the environments in which she meets men
- Whether there was alcohol involved
- Whether casual sex occurs on the man's terms or the woman's terms
It seems that women who engage in Tinder hookups are more risk-tolerant than women who don't engage in random hookups with strangers. Assuming she is aware of the dynamics on dating apps, I would also say that mutual attraction is not high on the list of priorities either.
Studies on college students show that only about 10 percent of hookups are one-night stands
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/202201/the-truth-about-casual-sex-today
The majority of casual sex occurs between friends and acquaintances rather than between people who meet the same day.
89 percent already knew their most recent casual sex partner when they first had sex with them. (On average, people knew their partners for a couple of months before having sex with them, and 20 percent knew them a year or longer.) For 61 percent of people, this was not the first time they had sex with that partner, and 65 percent had sex with an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend at some point. Sex with someone met on the same day was exceedingly rare—only 13 percent of men and 10 percent of women reported this.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/strictly-casual/201408/what-type-casual-sex-are-people-really-having
Furthermore, very people, at least among university students, reported using dating apps for casual sex.
|| || |39Griffin et al. (2018) [ ]|M SD 409 U.S. university students, heterosexuals, both sexes ( = 19.7, = 7.2)|Online survey|39% of participants had used a dating app, and 60% of them were regular users. Tinder was the most popular dating app. Top reasons for app use were fun and to meet people. Very few users (4%) reported using apps for casual sex encounters, although many users (72% of men and 22% of women) were open to meeting a sexual partner with a dating app. Top concerns included safety and privacy.|
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7557852/#:\~:text=Very%20few%20users%20(4%25),partner%20with%20a%20dating%20app.
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