How does everyone pick up girls in the club?

Duke_Roses · 2025-04-06T23:24:04+00:00

Eye contact

KingTrey7 · 2025-04-07T04:03:30+00:00

In my experience, I usually was the one getting “picked up”. At the club, I never really liked cold approaching and didn’t have much success going in completely cold. As I became more experienced with women, I developed an understanding of how they were actually shooting their shot with me nonverbally. Either a certain look or repetitive looks indicated she found me attractive. Knowing this I would approach if I was feeling it. At that point, I would walk up and just talk to her about the environment/moment at hand. It was more about dancing with her and physically escalating appropriately. This got me a couple of the women that I ended up with from clubs/parties.

However, as mentioned before, women pulling me was much more frequently successful. What seemed to draw them to me was that I would be vibing and dancing with a big smile on my face. I was just having pure fun on my own or with friends and then women would walk up to me and begin conversations with me. Most of them would initiate and continue to further the physical escalation. They made it very easy.

entitledwank · 2025-04-07T03:55:59+00:00

think of the club as 2 parts. dance floor and non-dance floor.

overall non dance floor is better for actual gaming.

1) dance floor find the girl that is dancing and partying the hardest, those girls like to have fun. if she’s in too big of a group then she’s probably with her friends and not looking for a hookup. when you see a target you can either match her dancing and make eye contact and hold your hand out, you can bump into her then apologize and ask to dance, or you can outright ask to dance. the key is on the dance floor there’s minimal talking and all about energy

2) non-dancefloor. this is by the bar at a table or lounge area. then you have to do basic cold approach. don’t immediately ask to dance. i always recommend approaching groups of 3-4 people and make the whole group laugh then isolate the girl you want, either take her to the dance floor or take her to another area where you can go for the kiss

Plastic_Friendship55 · 2025-04-07T10:09:22+00:00

Notice who is interested in me. They will show it no matter if the want to or not through subtle signals and vibes. There will always be a handful of them.
Chose if there are any of them I’m interested in. (Usually 2-3 would catch my interest)
Send subtle signs that I have noticed that they are interested and that I are interested in them. Observe their reactions.
Enjoying my stay at the club while occasionally sending signs to the women that I’m into them. Flirting. Sending vibes that it’s safe for them to approach me.
Making sure it easy for them to approach me. Things like moment where I’m alone. There is room for her. Never get stuck in a both or long conversation with some dude.
Continuing building tension. They will eventually approach. They always do.
Talk to the woman who has approached, escalate quickly to some form of body contact. Bring aware of that the other women who are interested will notice everything I do and how I act with the woman who approaches me. I avoid any form for self sabotage.
If I’m still interested after having talked to her, I take it from there and drop the other women. If she is not I reject her in a good way. Wait a short moment until next woman approaches me and repeat the same thing.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-04-07T01:36:16+00:00

Best way is to have fun and genuinely have fun. Hard to do but works best

al-go-rhythym · 2025-04-07T05:50:00+00:00

Lift with your legs

puma085 · 2025-04-07T10:36:24+00:00

If you do not like the club atmosphere, do not go clubbing. Never do anything just to get women. Guys are doing that give off a strange vibe that works very reliable as a pussy repellend. Just have a nice time at the club, and dance. Sometimes this helps to raise the attention of the girls and some nice interactions might happen.

If you are asking for a method that is working all the time I am the wrong guy to ask. Not even sure if such methode exists in the first place.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-04-07T06:17:57+00:00

The music is too loud for a reason. It to let AFCs get girls. For us, its a hinderance, but that's good if you have poor verbal skills, just use physical or invitational openers. Such as extending your arm and inviting a girl to dance. You don't talk on the dancefloor, it's just pure escalation. See my post on nightclubs.

I escalate to a kiss on the dancefloor and logistcailly escalate to a quiet place in the club to build comfort. That's it.

The table/booth is a waste of money and pins you to a certain place in the club. The guys who are succeeding pays the minimum entry and roams around the venue.

My post on nightclubs shows you the full entire flow. Just follow that.

StoicSoloPreneur · 2025-04-07T11:53:02+00:00

Yeah man, I’ve been there club game can be confusing at first.

What’s helped me is focusing less on “what to say” and more on how I make her feel.

If I see a girl I like, I usually make strong eye contact, smile, and see if there’s a vibe before even saying anything. If she holds eye contact or smiles back, I walk over with confidence, lean in and say something light like: “You look like you’re having way too much fun, I had to come say hi.” No pressure, just playful.

From there, I’ll usually dance nearby, throw in a playful smile or a fun expression to break the ice. If she’s feeling the vibe, I’ll invite her somewhere more chill like our table or the bar. Once she’s relaxed and comfortable, it’s way easier to connect naturally, without forcing any conversation.

I’ve found that in the club, it’s really about owning your space, having fun, and making her feel part of your world. No need for lines or trying too hard just good energy, eye contact, and leading the vibe.

Hope that helps, bro 🙌

Outside_Bowler8148 · 2025-04-07T17:29:19+00:00

I think social circle game and logistics are important here if you aren’t going out with wingmen (and easier than the latter imo). If you have a good club or bar nearby to your pad with a cool group of friends who are brining their acquaintances every weekend, you’ll be pulling left and right because you’re naturally doing a lot of the things (building rapport in the pregame, leading her from one place to the next, there’s also some familiarity from the pregame). Remember YOU choose the field of battle and you should play to your strengths. As an Asian guy who isn’t the tallest or model-looking, I find that I can utilize my strengths (personality, humor, vibe) this way rather than play to my weaknesses. Lastly, in my experiences neighborhood bars or clubs are better than destination clubs (like a marquee or Tao) because people are coming from all over to the latter and either there’s a lot of top competitors there who will pull instead of you or the logistics for the same night lay may not work out on either party. Clubs are great if you are a top looking guy but you wouldn’t be making this post if you were (I am assuming but could be wrong)

Disastrous_Care1877 · 2025-04-08T13:36:51+00:00

I have mostly approached girls when they get separated from their group near the bar or stopping them outside of dance floor.

But my recent game in last few ng sessions has been like this and it gave pretty amazing results. Drink 2-3beers and then me and my wing go into the middle of dance floor screaming😂. People first stare at us, who’re these fools but everyone thinks we’re pretty cool guys. By this time I see few girls that have been noticing us, then when I make eye contact with a cute chick I call her towards me “HEY YOU, COME HERE”, till now this has always worked and then I just dance with her.

These are the steps to pull: After 10-15minutes on dance floor, I suggest its loud we can’t hear each other and we go outside to take a break and talk, then take her to the bar, we get some drink, then go back to the dance floor, where I try for make out. After make out we leave the club, go to eat some food, listen songs in my car and more makeout. Then I suggest I’ve weed at my place or the sunrise is the best from my balcony and pull her like this.

I prefer night game to day because I’ve to talk less and I love clubbing. from my experience if you’re genuinely enjoying people will even approach you both guys and girls. One time I was rolling on xtc and jumping around the club, everyone could tell this guy is on something lmao. That day a mixed group of 2guys and 5girls approached me because of my vibe, and without any game I ended up pulling 1 chick. Not just game, but I’ve even made good guy friends from clubs.

peeper_tom · 2025-04-07T12:20:36+00:00

They pick you

garlopf · 2025-04-07T00:17:54+00:00

My secret? I don' pick up girls, girls pick up me! I just go into the dancefloor pretending i am all alone, not acknowledging anyone, especially girls who are used to attention. I start dancing, slow at first but after a few minutes I am pulling all my moves. I dance like there us no tomorrow, twerking and elvising all over the place. Before long some girls will show interest and come over. I give them a cold acknowledgement or just ignore them completely. After a while they get more aggressive. Then I grab one I like and dance with her for a short while as a demonstration before guiding her on her way before continuing my dance alone.

At some point they finally catch the drift and leave me alone. Edit: in case it isn't clear, this was a joke

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-04-07T00:58:11+00:00

Go to the bar and look across the bar. If I see someone interesting I'll smirk at her turn my head. Then look back again.

Title	How does everyone pick up girls in the club?
Author	Ironboy45
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Date	April 6, 2025 11:16 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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