You can't get girls if you don't feel good about yourself, and if you need girls to feel good about yourself, then you won't get girls and thus you are in a vicious cycle. In reality you don't need girls to feel good about yourself, that's just a choice. You are choosing to use women to give yourself permission to feel good about yourself, but that's an enormous and unfair burden for women.

They did not ask to be responsible for your self-esteem so it's not fair that you unilaterally decide to make them the answer to the big question in your mind "am i good enough?" "do i have a right to like myself?" "am i inherently flawed and an error of nature, or is the way i am fine?"

In order to answer those questions, you've decided that women are the best metric for that. If a woman connects with you, then you've decided to interpret that as proof that you are enough, and that you finally have a right to feel at peace with yourself.

THe problem is women are naturally repelled by that energy which they can feel instantly. They don't need you to say this outloud for them to feel that you are not content with who you are. They have a good ability to sense it, they might not be able to put it into words, but your behaviour when you interact with women projects that insecurity about yourself.

She might call out a flaw you have, and the way you shrink, you blush, you look down because you are ashamed, or the way you get defensive, is what gives it away to them that you are still not at peace with yourself and thus they get turned off.

They don't feel at ease with you it feels like you are pressuring them to give you validation, and it's impossible to connecct and relax around a person who is desperately begging people directly or indirectly to tell them "please, tell me im worthy, i beg you. I don't like myself! Convince me that there is something worth loving abotu myself".

Dating and seduction is not about begging people to like you, or to prove your worth, or to conivnce them that you have qualities that are likeable and that they should give you a chance because of that. It’s not a performance, it’s not a pitch... It's about taking ownership of your entire being, owning who you are...

To stop treating flaws like they are a problem, stop tryign to justify them, and just say "this is me, yes these are my quirks and i aint gonna apologize for having them or hide them, if you like it great, if not i don't give a fuck. Ill still be happy that i gave you a chance to connect"

You are not there to audition or get a job, you are there to see if they are worthy of your time, and meet you where you are. You are the one offering her the opportunity to expereince the real you and walkin away at peace knowing u offered something real.

You are not there to be chosen. You are there to choose. You approach not to get something from them, but to see if they deserve something valuable, your time, your attention, your plaufylness, the emotional stimulation you are capable of giving, and to see if they deserve to expereince your ability to make their day better and their life more fun.

So remember, thhe most attractive men arent the ones who try to fix their flaws. They are the ones who stop seeing them as flaws at all and treat them as quirks of unique flavours instead.