Intuition about girl feeling safe

VelvetSinclair · 2025-07-13T10:50:59+00:00

Can you explain what you mean?

Are you just saying that you backed off a little when it seemed like the girl was nervous?

Also, you say you're in your 40s? How old are the women you are dating? Just out of interest

Back2theCouture · 2025-07-13T10:51:59+00:00

So many times! This is where “don’t chase her” mantra comes into play. Which of course always mistranslated by the “dumb and dumber” guys by thinking they’re not supposed to talk to a girl.

Yes, we should be clear with your intention. And that shouldn’t be contradictory with the “don’t chase her” part. Even just by talking to her she knows that you’re interested. Interested enough to talk to her. But not that interested that we’d treat her like the only attractive girl in the world or by putting her on a pedestal.

Our primal brain as guys is mainly aiming for sex thus it’s just simple and linear, but for most girls they need time to process all that because first and foremost they’ve been trained that safety is their number one concern, which is understandable from their pov. I even remember the first point Mystery taught decades ago was the girl needs to feel safe first. I said “most” because there’s always an exception to every rule; where some girls like to live dangerously, having a ONS here and there as if their safey radar is turned off. This is where you gotta pay attention which kind of girl she is.

Life-Income2986 · 2025-07-13T11:09:11+00:00

Don't creep women out? Noted. If anyone is creeping women out, don't.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-07-13T16:29:21+00:00

Anyone should want to make a woman feel safe and you should want to feel safe as well. My current girlfriend was essentially assisted through a friend that we both knew and so I know multiple friends of hers and vice versa. I was introduced to her through someone she already knew and thus we could also vet each other through third parties. Trust is an important element of safety.

Over time, I started thinking more about safety such as meeting in a well lit public place at first. No going back to either of our places that day. And I often add to Facebook as well so she can snoop for congruence. It's nice to see when women have busy lives outside of dating with friend circles, hobbies, an active career and so forth.

Most-Famous-Wasabi · 2025-07-13T10:54:27+00:00

Yes.

I've never talked about this with anyone. Partly because I think it's very advanced. And partly because I don't think anyone would understand.

I've been trying to think about how to communicate this in a way that can be useful. And I haven't figured out how to yet.

That intuition is a completely natural animal instinct. And many men - probably most of the men attracted to learning seduction - have become insensitised to it.

Learning game both harms and helps that natural sensitivity.

"Game" harms the sensitivity because when you are using the training wheels you have to be kind of in "robot mode": forcing yourself through the motions, learning about "attraction phases" and trying to systematize everything. It blunts the intuition.

But also when you get enough experience and have been "in state" enough times for long enough, you can resensitize yourself to those instincts.

I also think that it's kind of advanced in the sense that if you tell learners about it, they won't get it. It's not in their universe yet.

You have to go full circle with some of these things. The idea of "tell her about your feelings" is totally useless to an AFC or learner. It doesn't seem that there's any practical content in it. They've all heard it and are frustrated to hear it again. But you get to a point where that exact same idea is actually really useful.

Telling learners to employ empathy or intuition may not be useful to them. They won't get it and won't seem practical. But I think that could be exactly what you are doing.

Every time I have an encounter, I try something new. A while back I decided to try to use my intuition - try to feel into what my body was telling me about what her body was telling her. And I got results immediately.

I'm very far from having mastered seduction. I don't think I ever will (and I'm ok with that).. But there is something certainly very powerful about what you and I have discovered here.

I haven't read Models yet, but it's on my list.

epimpstyle · 2025-07-13T12:12:52+00:00

Curious how you were able to tell when a woman is nervous, given that women are masters of disguise. In the worst case, they'll tell you they need to leave before you even see them being nervous.

DiligentQuantity4315 · 2025-07-13T15:53:58+00:00

What models book are you talking about I’m curious

LimbBisquet · 2025-07-14T02:06:31+00:00

Virtually all advice here is to out your hands on a girl as soon as you see her and escalate, escalate, escalate in the most socially retarded way possible. Nobody tells these guys they will have a much easier time getting girls in bed if they are pulling away from them instead of trying to creepy pushy overpursuers

chelco95 · 2025-07-14T15:43:23+00:00

Hey This Is It

So you just adress the nervousness?

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-07-13T13:00:23+00:00

At 19 I went on a stag with a group of guys and the first night I did badly. One of the older guys said I was too intense. I relaxed it a bit The next night he said I was on fire and it has been like that since.

Title	Intuition about girl feeling safe
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Date	July 13, 2025 10:36 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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