Had anyone reached a level you can pull one night stand whenever?

Kooba2 · 2025-09-21T14:52:57+00:00

I think a good amount of guys can do this but it depends on your standards on what you want to pull and of course how willing you are to approach.

IamaThrowAwway · 2025-09-21T16:33:58+00:00

I worry you guys watch too much porn or otherwise have unrealistic expectations. No such man exists were all women will say yes to, especially on a cold approach, first time meeting. For every man, there's more failure than success. Even the men who seem like they're getting laid all the time, there were more misses than hits.

Some of you guys are spending way too much time in fantasy land, and asking other men to validate that this fairytale land truly exists. It doesn't.

StreetCatAdopter · 2025-09-21T14:46:11+00:00

I don’t think expecting to pull a ONS all the time is realistic.

But hey maybe someone on here can prove me wrong.

Maybe you can get flirty all the time and get sexual prospects going, that’s more doable for sure.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-09-21T15:37:12+00:00

I’ve been in game 16 years and I’d consider myself decent and no. Too many variables including the biggest ones being myself. Even if I do feel good though the bar ratio may be way off. Not that many girls there. Nights not that busy. Just don’t run into the right girl etc. lot of variables unfortunately

norwegiandoggo · 2025-09-21T15:01:08+00:00

Yeah if you're a celebrity

wheatnathan · 2025-09-21T14:50:24+00:00

it's not about a 'level'.

This isn't a thing where there's like a jedi 'level' where you can say the right words and get any girl you want. That's 100% PUA fantasy marketing! The best 'game' in the world won't even help if you are not remotely her type. I promise! (i've seen enough dating coaches in person to see that!)

The best 'game' will enable to you close a HUGE percentage of the girls WHO ARE ATTRACTED TO YOU, without messing it up (escalating smoothly, dealing with objections and sh1t-tests well etc)

But You can't literally create/force attraction in someone with cold reads and teasing and pushpull lines and disqualification/qualification and good body language etc etc. It's just not how it works. e.g - one could have amazing game. As good as is possible (he's a great 'flirt' and he knows all the pushpulls and reframes and how to pace her reality blablabla) and he could still get rejected 100 times in a row (e.g maybe he's very old and very fat and he's hitting on 18 year old models at the bar lol)

in reality, 'game' isn't even hard. At all. It's all really quite simple assuming you didn't start off being completely unsocialised for whatever reason. None of it is complicated.

Comprehensive-War-34 · 2025-09-21T16:21:50+00:00

It’s a numbers game. You could definitely do it if you approach enough women in one night. You would need to focus on attraction more than seduction.

vtribal · 2025-09-21T18:35:00+00:00

i know guys who can do this but its almost never their looksmatch

a lot of these guys actually desire a stable monogamous relationship more than you think

TextualElusion · 2025-09-21T23:34:06+00:00

One night stands get pointless after a while and you want something deeper and real.

WhatsTheAnswerDude · 2025-09-21T15:30:20+00:00

There's WAY too many variables at place here and it always blows my mind that dudes can control EVERY single one of them. It's stupid to think like that. This is also without going into like location but also how vibes in society change and what not.

So, the bigger thing like people have said is people to get momentum with the girl(s) you CHOOSE to do something

STDs are a thing so yes while one night stands are great, id rather meet the girl and lock the vibe down. Maybe chat maybe make out, maybe she passes out at mine who knows ...but wouldn't really do all that much physically and then come back to it after we've confirmed testing and what not.

Way more people in the last few years I've seen aren't using condoms as well as don't know their ish on STDs either.

Would way rather get her interested and then engage in things safely, personally at least.

Routine-Sky-5529 · 2025-09-21T15:02:04+00:00

Kinda yeah

quinnstorms · 2025-09-21T16:19:49+00:00

I actually want to reach that level. But I'm not as consistent with my approaches

Accurate_Nobody_9150 · 2025-09-22T00:27:17+00:00

One of my friends can do this but he usually carries about 2k in $100 bills. Once you reach a certain age throwing around a lot of cash attracts a lot of women.

spacemangoes · 2025-09-21T14:57:11+00:00

They exist. More in number than you think. You know how they are doing it? You want to know their secret? They don’t have a Reddit account.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-09-22T06:39:04+00:00

I can for the most part

I'm nor nervous or anxious or scared anymore

And if she's not interested I just go "next!" in my head.

cl1p5 · 2025-09-22T14:08:05+00:00

Yes.

I_suckyoungblood · 2025-09-22T01:10:41+00:00

I think it’s because I’m comfortable with what I want to talk about without hesitating as well as focusing on the present moment instead of the past(what I may have said or asked her), or the future, (thinking about how she’ll take a response or comment from me) and just vibe in the moment.

It’s only then when both people truly feel connected and not focused on other factors.

SalesAficionado · 2025-09-22T03:41:48+00:00

It's always been and will always be a number's game.

Vaggs75 · 2025-09-22T19:29:27+00:00

I think in the book by Neil Straus he was still talking about spending 7 hours before getting laid, and one instance, one time took 4hours. And this was "world class PUA". So no, I don't believe it.

Timely_Assistance418 · 2025-09-23T00:41:34+00:00

Practice. Fail fast, fail often

SummerSplash · 2025-09-26T13:53:47+00:00

The basketball player Wilt Chamberlain said in his auto bio he had slept with over 20,000 women and he preferred threesomes.

SummerSplash · 2025-09-26T13:56:19+00:00

I know many WOMEN who can do this ~

Shoddy-Lingonberry-4 · 2025-09-27T16:17:01+00:00

Well if you work at a club or are always there you have a pretty good chance. My friend was a bouncer and regularly got some play.

Affectionate_Boss657 · 2025-09-21T17:15:33+00:00

This level means

Overall_Subject4010 · 2025-09-21T17:16:10+00:00

It depends on where you live. If you live in a beach town with frequent tourists then yes for sure

Title	Had anyone reached a level you can pull one night stand whenever?
Author	FlowSurferFromMars
Upvotes	60
Comments	57
Date	September 21, 2025 2:38 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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