How do I avoid coming off as a creep/weirdo? What should I be saying when I approach?

Rhino3750ss · 2025-07-19T14:50:53+00:00

To women a "creep" is anyone that they perceive as not preselected, because non-selection is what triggers their internal safety mechanisms and makes them feel like deer in headlights. Just have the patience, calm temperament, and outcome independent mindset of someone that already has women.

Simp4Aurelius · 2025-07-19T14:37:10+00:00

69 inches, bud? Just lead with unsolicited dick pics…. Please skip my wife though.

Dasein_7 · 2025-07-19T16:09:59+00:00

You’ve identified at least one or two problems that you have. One of those is that you don’t know what to say around women etc. That’s something that you need to work on. If you are not socializing with other people and then expect yourself to perform when you’re with a girl that you’re interested in, you’re probably not going to succeed at that. So what I would say is start with trying to be friendly with all different kinds of people, not just women, and not just women that you’re attracted to.If you could have a conversation with pretty much anybody, then you should have an easier time talking to women that you’re interested in.

New_Banana3858 · 2025-07-19T16:56:09+00:00

you're too stuck in your head.
you have to let go and live in the moment, to be really attractive in women's eyes.

Realise this, Women don't really care of what you say to them.
It's more how it's comming off...

if it's comming off from a vibe, that is taking value, they will find you super creepy.

If it's comming off from a vibe off abundance and not the EGO. you'll be super attractive, saying the exact same thing.

sit still infront of a tree or flame or something for
1+ hour to a minimum. Sit in complete stillness no thoughts no nothing.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-07-19T14:43:24+00:00

Just even entertaining the thought of that you could be interpreted as a creep greatly stunts your success.

The better mindset is I am going to talk to this person to see if I like them. Cultivate a warm expression.

Creeps are guys that have an ulterior motive for sex many are socially maladjusted in that they don't recognise cues from nervous females.

If you are approaching you give them options to back out. You create exits during your convo.

I'll give you an example of this:

I was out on lunch break, while walking I could hear a group of girls talking loudly behind me. I interjected on the convo and we talked a bit. They were walking so I walked with them. I held back a bit behind them so I could gauge the vibe. They looked back to see where I had gone. Then called me back into the group.

I then said I had to go back to work and have a wonderful day after that they went in the opposite direction
which means they were following me which was awesome.

When you are rejected just say have a nice day and leave.
Creeps loiter around women way past the point where they are welcome.
Don't argue and don't try to persuade them thats what a creep would do.

Once you're not welcome just get out of there.

If you are good you'll gauge women accurately so that every approach will at least be cordial.

TLDR: If you're not needy then you won't appear creepy.

Independent-Cod-5938 · 2025-07-19T22:23:46+00:00

You have to hold the frame that what you are doing isn’t creepy and you aren’t a creep.

-Twyptophan- · 2025-07-19T16:50:23+00:00

If you're well groomed, decently dressed, have a smile/good energy, and leave if they say no, you're most likely not going to get the creep treatment

Some women will always be cold, but that's just the way it is. Life isn't without risks

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-07-19T22:06:43+00:00

What makes you creepy isn't your appearance, it's your lack of conviction that approaching a woman is right. When you doubt yoruself if approaching her is good, when you act guilty for approaching, for having desires,... that mindset is what causes you to act cautios, wary, apologetic, fearful, nervous... And women feel those nerves you have, they feel you aren't sure if you should approach or not, they just feel it even if they can't fully word that soemthing is not right with your vibe when you start talking to them, and that's exactly what creeps them out.

You can't win in this game if you are not fully conivnced that talking to the woman you want to talk is legitamte, because the beleif is what causes you to hesitate and act nervous and when a woman feels your nerves and can't understand why you are nervous, she gets uncomfortable thinking you must have bad intentions even if you don't.

If you just had the full conviction that approaching her is right, and acted absolutely sure of it unapologetically, then even if a woman questions about why you are approaching her, you wouldn't justify yoruself, you wouldn't say sorry, you would just doible down and say "because i want to" without having to go on the defensive, without caring about any judgment...

You wouldn't start doubting yourself, you would show leadership and that's something will respect more than the guy who is whishy washy hoping a woman won't be too hard on him, and basically looking for mercy before he even approaches her.

Your bigest problem therefore is your insecurity and your lack of conviction, that absurd need of trying to get approval from a woman, acting like you can only do things if women say it's ok for you to do it. I approach bevause i don't give a fuck if a woman thinks is right or not. I approach because i beleive it's right, and my conviction is way stronger than the woman's.

So my opinion matters more, and if some woman doesn't want to talk to me, so be it. But im not gonna apologize just because she doesn't like talking to strangers. My truth vs hers. She doens't get to tell me if should or should not appraoch girls, because she is not my boss, she is not the law, and she doesn't speak for every woman on earth.

StardustIIX · 2025-07-20T01:02:49+00:00

Never feel inferior or feel like you have to walk on eggshells due to your skin color!

Congratulations and thank you for wanting to overcome your quiet kid phase of your life. I recall feeling the same way and it feels so liberating to want to express yourself.

That being said, before I give advice on what to say, also remember that: You NEVER need anyone's approval, validation or assurance from anyone, that's something that was always within you, therefore you dont need it. Give yourself the approval! (Disclaimer: I'm referring to confidence, ALWAYS get consent and no means no!)

What to say: What do YOU want to convey?

If you think she's cute, say it. Like her outfit, say so. She's got a cool vibe, let her know.

Ex: Excuse me, I think you're (compliment).

After the opener: Cold read or qualify her.

Basically make statements that get her to invest or talk about herself because it better to have her talk 70-80%.

Ex: That's a cool shirt, so I take it youre one of those underground spoken word girls.

Or: Nice dagger earrings...I bet you dont even use utensils.

Or: So tell me, what do you think is your most positive quality.

I reccomend the YouTube channel: The Dark Needle.

As for avoiding being a creep..let's be honest, if you're just starting out, you're going to creep girls out. Not because you're doing it on purpose but you may come across as nervous, hell. Even confident guys are considered creeps.

Bottom line, the more relaxed you are, the less creeped out and relaxed she'll be.

"She feels, what you feel".

All you need to worry about is coming off as genuine as you can while also respecting (physical) boundaries and if a girl says no.

burncushlikewood · 2025-07-20T07:14:09+00:00

What should I be saying when I approach?

You said it, if only we all knew how to say the perfect words to get the girl, what if I told you you've been training your speech skills your entire life, waking up going to school to learn and expanding your mind, so you know how to talk! Talking to women is easy, in fact most of the time I don't even talk I let her talk! They love to talk about themselves all people do, don't be creepy, invading personal space, being rude, or following her, not good.

Ugly_Target0110 · 2025-07-20T13:09:06+00:00

You mentioned nothing about your face. The first step of not coming across as a creep/weirdo is looking presentable. Like facially.

Title	How do I avoid coming off as a creep/weirdo? What should I be saying when I approach?
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Date	July 19, 2025 2:33 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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