A friend told me that I should invest in new experiences. His idea was joining a co-ed gym type group, or kiteboarding or whatever.

This inspired me, perhaps not in the way my buddy expected.

So a few nights ago, I got on a site, and found a provider. I messaged her and she got back to me the next day. I booked for 2 days later, which gave me some anticipation time. This was both stressful as hell (because I had no idea what to expect), but also was something that truly got me truly excited with anticipation.

She was a BDSM provider, something that I had not really thought about. I got her lower priced "kiss and cuddle" session. I paid for 90m, and asked to meet at a coffee shop first so we could say hello.

We had coffee and then she took me to this cool ass dungeon place (it was a normal looking house in a sketchy neighborhood ). There were upside down neon crosses and jesus dildos lying around. There was also the "pain room" that she said we would not be visiting given the nature of the visit.

It was clean and safe.

I asked her slap the shit out of me and spit in my mouth during the cuddle session. Again, not something I anticipated but I asked for it after getting into the groove. She was hot.

The point of this post, anyway is not that you should go visiting a sex dungeon.

It's more about that you should try some random shit that you could not do before the divorce, and see how it goes for you.

Best of luck y'all.