Getting numbers is super easy but can’t get a single text back or date

HTML_Novice · 2025-10-10T23:49:27+00:00

It’s easier for them to ghost than reject you to your face, its just another form of rejection

Glacier_Sama · 2025-10-11T00:45:48+00:00

Stop asking for numbers quickly. Ask them to hang out right now, or ask for a date tonight. Talk a bit if you can.

Hungry-Forever4108 · 2025-10-10T23:45:14+00:00

The times man, these friggn times

Conjoined_Triangles · 2025-10-11T00:53:03+00:00

There's various things that contribute to this problem. The most important thing to focus on is solid interactions. If you're not getting a solid conversation with high investment, consider that number dead if you text and she doesn't reply back.

Watch this interaction and ignore any of the factors like the camera being there or it being a street interview. If your conversations don't look like this (except for daygame), you need to change it up. It's not a requirement as I've had neutral reactions lead to solid numbers for a regular date, but it help a lot. I've focused less on volume these days and more on making every interaction as solid as possible, and sometimes I get a solid number from my first approach that I don't need to do any more, the rest is just for putting into practice.

WhatsTheAnswerDude · 2025-10-11T02:32:30+00:00

Major thing I've seen in the last few years that's confounded the shit out of me as someone's thats read up on the game since the early 2000s or so and then finally did so out in DC with a great wing in 2011 or so.

Since like 2022 it's like a switch just happened and I've asked others about this as far as if they've had the same experience or not or what they're thinking it is.

Since 2022 up until fall last year, I've gotten maybe like twenty numbers or so out and about? I texted, followed up....blah blah blah.

Not shitting you....all of them....fucking ALLLLL of them went NOWHERE!

Just for reference and not to sound like a douche....but I've literally been with over 70 women prior to that....so I'm not some noob or dude that can barely make a conversation or something like that that'd be easily to explain why ..

And I've tried to wreck my brain around it and couldn't ever configure wtf it is.

Like, maybe it's just my city at the time? Maybe girls don't wanna reject me but then do over text (I've loved daygame for over ten years so if I was hideous or some shit I'd probably have gotten the clue already lol)? Like it makes NO damn sense and honestly been pretty frustrating.

Nonetheless the only thing I could maybe think of is girls don't wanna reject but that's so stupid (but I get guys have blown up on girls before over rejection).

I think honestly though, it's a couple things....for one, I feel like women kinda just want a distraction or entertainment or validation. Like I get so annoyed when I hear, women wanna meet men organically again. Okay I'm here? Already doing that. Very inexperienced. They DONT want that. They say they do and then bullshit.

Also, I do think there's some viability as well to the younger generations just NOT being able to handle discomfort in person WHATSOEVER. It's not about safety. They GENUINELY can't sit in ANY level of discomfort and just tell someone, "hey I'm not into but that's thank though."

With the experience I have I KNOW that some people will flake and it happens....I GET that. It's completely normal and just a part of the numbers.

But going ZERO for effing twenty kinda really fucked me up a bit, more so that I have genuinely NO fucking idea what's chasing the issue or where the lever or crux that is causing it is....

Other than kinda....sorry but a lot girls just want validation and to feel entertained by the daddy but won't go farther.

It's annoying as shit tbh.

EmployFew2509 · 2025-10-11T11:28:52+00:00

It works way better if you chat it up and get friendly with them for a bit then get their number. At a bar or wedding, etc. (Offering to cook dinner can also be a good opportunity for her to text back and make a date)

Trying to get a # quickly and then leaving never works anymore, ever. Woman will just give their number (or even fake one) just to get you to shut up and leave.

LustfulLoveQuest · 2025-10-11T12:26:40+00:00

Hundreds, bro? In the last few weeks??

Seems like you're not establishing a good enough connection as you're talking to them.

PhantomMangaka · 2025-10-11T13:18:06+00:00

hundreds of numbers in a few weeks sounds like youre just collecting data points instead of actually connecting. my sisters always tell me quality over quantity (they track their dating advice success rate haha)

StealPantera · 2025-10-11T13:51:26+00:00

I like the Johnny Soporno approach. Don’t take her number until she’s had your cock in her mouth.

HarlemsLuke · 2025-10-10T23:45:39+00:00

Same here, and Im usually fine

Big-Date8342 · 2025-10-11T03:52:26+00:00

Number closing to soon. Number closing is a last resort. Insta date or f.Close.

Chemical-Abrocoma-97 · 2025-10-11T00:13:18+00:00

that means you're not actually making an impact or connecting

FixAccomplished9993 · 2025-10-11T02:12:12+00:00

Women collect numbers nowadays because it's a potential social media follower for their dream of becoming super popular influencer one day.

ENTER-D-VOID · 2025-10-11T06:48:27+00:00

r u short or below a 6.5/10?

Aiud2000 · 2025-10-11T06:59:32+00:00

are you just saying hi i think ure cute whats ur number ??

PalTonk · 2025-10-11T07:20:00+00:00

I wonder if you need more time with them before leaving with their number, meaning they don't like you enough when you part ways. Do you have any thoughts on why this might be?

RazzleDazzle1537 · 2025-10-11T11:59:33+00:00

It’s easier for them to give you their number in person and then block you right after.

Several-Two738 · 2025-10-11T14:53:39+00:00

OP where are you getting numbers?

The key is to get dates, not numbers. Have at least a 2 minute conversation then ask to either continue it at a date that night/next day or night with their number. In this day and age, women have severe ADHD so you gotta keep their attention.

holladayy · 2025-10-11T15:59:21+00:00

Personally, I like giving my number out rather than taking their number, and tell them them to text me instead of the other way around. Usually works👍🏻

Far-Plantain-1176 · 2025-10-11T18:26:04+00:00

Totally agree, just be normal and you have a 100% chance of getting numbers but when it comes to getting a texts back or even setteling a date its over

DirtySanchez8--D · 2025-10-12T11:56:22+00:00

Used to think I was getting successful when I pulled numbers of baddies smh .. The amount of flaking is unreal

topher_atx · 2025-10-13T06:23:37+00:00

This is really common. My advice is don't make getting numbers a high priority. My female roommate in college once told me, if she's interested she'll make sure you get her number.

Now I don't take that advice literally, but there's some truth to it. What I do now is if I think she might be interested I'll ask to exchange contact info just in case, but I don't expect things to go any further. You're just keeping the door open.

If the interest level is high, you're going to know it.

But yeah, do not feel bad about this. Keep finding opportunities to meet and talk to women, then when (a good) one shows signs of interest pursue her. In reality, women pick men for the most part. Car salesmen probably think they sell cars, but people that buy cars were already planning on buying a car and probably knew what they wanted before they came to the dealership.

TopBlacksmith160 · 2025-10-13T13:42:12+00:00

Is this in person or dating apps?

Matter_Still · 2025-10-11T02:45:30+00:00

I’ve got a theory: if you’ve “collected hundreds”, it’s only natural that any single one is not important. Maybe (here’s the theory) you’re giving off that vibe.

When I was 23 I met only the second girl that made me go a bit crazy. Unlike the first, I focused all my energy on her. That focus was a stunning success, unlike any other I had.

For a time, why don’t you pass on collecting hundreds and go all in on one. Screw “oneitis”. Let her feel your passion.

Of course, that requires a girl who will rock your world.

Title	Getting numbers is super easy but can’t get a single text back or date
Author	AscensionInProcess
Upvotes	38
Comments	43
Date	October 10, 2025 11:39 PM UTC (9 months ago)
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