So the net is closing in on the Narcissist Wife re a paternity fraud situation. I recently met a retired police officer at a divorce support group with a keen investigative mind who knew people very well at her company.

I was telling him of the sudden nature of my marriage breakdown and he suspected an affair and things kicked off from there.

A bizarre situation my wife would have never imagined would happen.

Now I have confirmation of an affair around the time my first son was born. He’s the image of the AP and nothing like me. There were also some weird things that went on at that time, like her mother gushing about this man. This man’s wife approaching my wife asking if she knew anything of this man’s affairs.

I also always remember her going on work trips and seeing her putting false tan on her ass and crotch. Mad really.

She also chose to take our son to a doctor other than our long term family doctor who we were very happy with at the time.

She’s recently discarded me recently and filed for no reason pulling in a BS narrative to discredit me. Silver bullet type stuff but no OP yet.

As I work through the mechanics of recent events and how they’ve played out I’m wondering if she had concerns about being exposed later on by an indiscretion by a friend or a genetic family DNA test, could she be pursuing divorce as a way to minimise a potential future fall out.

As the children are now in their teens she’s lost control over what they could potentially do. They could arrive home with a 23 and Me Family package tomorrow.

Because of this lack of control and image management being paramount maybe she feels she has no option but to divorce.

If a paternity issue arises 5 years down the line after separation and everyone is living separately it will have a far lesser impact.

BTW from what I’ve seen and heard over the last 18 years I’m 95% positive the test will be disappointing for us all.

Thoughts?