My divorce is old news and my ex wife, her new bloke and I get on great (now). Ex and I have 2 kids 12 & 10 and so does he at same age plus they have a 2 yr old themselves now.

I look after all 4 kids for weekends when they need help and despite being at FULL divorce war only 3 years ago, moving on and being happy is the fucken best.

Now!!! To the point. Myself m38 have started dating a new girl f41 who also has 2 kids 6 & 8 and she is mid-divorce process and ex is spitting fire all the time and still trying to control her …. like full abuse on msgs but pussy in person.

Anyway, it has been about 5 months and she stays with my kids, stays with us here when not on her 50/50 and they love her but I am the ghost who walks in her life due to the fear this bloke puts with his abusive tactics.

She is being very stoic but time is coming when the ghost may have to walk to out of respect suggested intro to the ex husband in advance of anything getting back to or kids becoming aware out of respect.

This guy is kinda unhinged, I have done and been through this before but curious if anyone has had to deal with a new partner’s irate and abusive ex husband and where and how they managed initial contact.

I thought my time of this shit was over with my own situation but here we go again.

Thanks lads. Appreciate any ideas.