Romantic Relationships Matter More to Men than to Women - Study

Proud-Question-4479 · 2025-12-01T03:08:45+00:00

When feminists discuss this, they blame men for not having a social network, even though they have no clue about the difficulty of making friends as a man.

thedisliked23 · 2025-11-30T19:35:43+00:00

I've said this most of my life to various scoffing responses. There is literally no information, either data driven or antecdotal that suggests otherwise. It's like saying consumers of art are more artistic than artists themselves. Women are consumers of romance. Not producers. Of course there are always exceptions and I've dated a couple women who were very romantic but in general, women expect romance and romantic love to be done to them, not to participate in the doing.

Almost every study on relationship success says that love has to be treated as an action you engage in, not a feeling. My experience is women treat love as a feeling (I'm feeling it or not feeling it right now) which precipitates more easily throwing it away or disengaging from it, whereas men see it as an action (I need to engage in love activities more to increase it) which makes them less likely to disengage from it.

TheCassiniProjekt · 2025-12-01T09:27:19+00:00

Makes sense, my ex dumped me by WhatsApp, the night before she was talking about travel plans with me, she lost her temper (self-admitted anger management problem), shoved me out the door and down the stairs when she flared up and then went silent until I asked her what the story was. Still have dreams about her and what could have been.

Delvilchamito · 2025-12-01T10:37:30+00:00

Discussion: How can men build stronger, emotionally supportive friendships so one relationship doesn’t have to carry everything?

This isn't the first time I've come across this information, and the solution I found was: the church. Since the pandemic, I've become very traditional, and I realize that we need to return to a pre-globalization era.

That's why I recommend that all men join the church, a sports team, the gym, and, if possible, a country club.

AbysmalDescent · 2025-12-01T02:04:39+00:00

Of course they matter more to men. Men are not socially, romantically or sexually desired the way women are. The entire dating culture revolves around forcing men to chase women, which immediately puts women in a position of power and abundance. Money also matters more to people who don't have it. Food also matters to people who don't have it. Shelter also matters to people who don't have it.

This has nothing to do with men not having supportive enough friendships, this has everything to do with a systemic bias in the way we view and value people, based on gender, and the additional expectations we place on men. Men have to work considerably harder for every relationship they have, and have to work harder to build, maintain and keep those relationships. For a lot of women, relationships are just something that happens to them.

_WutzInAName_ · 2025-11-30T17:57:42+00:00

One way is by opposing feminism, which is responsible for much of the internalized misandry that permeates society today, and the social problems that result from it.

Feminists have waged war against everything related to masculinity for years, and their efforts have turned much of the law, media, and other institutions against men.

This feminist-driven misandry has done major damage to gender relations, partly by contributing to breakups and exacerbating the fallout that men experience in court and social settings.

Hold feminists accountable. Stop giving feminism a pass, call that hateful female supremacist ideology out for its misdeeds, and work to lessen its toxic influence on society.

critical_Bat · 2025-11-30T21:23:09+00:00

Men strive more for relationships because they expect bigger benefits.

Men gain more mental & physical health support from being partnered.

Men are less likely to initiate breakups, often trying harder to hold on.

Men suffer more after breakups, with deeper emotional and social fallout.

Social support is the reason behind this
Women typically have stronger emotional networks outside their romantic relationships. Men usually don’t. For many men, a partner is their only source of real emotional intimacy - so when the relationship ends, the entire support system collapses.

A whole study on mankeeping.

Women probably have more people to talk to in general but I sincerely doubt they have more people to have productive and critical conversations with. Lack of consideration for second order consequences is one of the reasons for this situation as they believe the grass is greener, that their grandmothers were slaves and that the latest bestie from work who is always first to comment cutie on Instagram has their best interest at heart. This experiment will most likely have to run its course and eventually it will be the fault of social pressure that are too much to handle.

Easy-Board4441 · 2025-12-01T03:45:12+00:00

I think that's BS. Most studies based on self-reported data likely are. My first wife and I had a very dysfunctional relationship and we both knew it. She's the one who brought up divorce because the financial consequences were far lesser for her. It's about money, every single time.

Norfolt · 2025-12-01T08:11:48+00:00

WGTOW is the future, rehab is right

rockland_beaumont · 2025-12-01T03:31:22+00:00

As a man I find myself not caring about having friends. I like my isolation and solitude too much, honestly. A female companion's gentle nature was all that was necessary. It aided in my peace, at the time.

My ex on the other hand needed church, needed friends(though she wasn't good at keeping them, and I took the blame for that), and became resentful and dissatisfied more and more with time. I started to catch on that her anger toward me created her loneliness, because I was all that she had for a while, and it in turn drove her to find a group to solace her in her departure of our relationship with kids.

She now has a facade of beauty, and independence, but looks terribly broken in her eyes. Yet I have discovered peace again.

WhereProgressIsMade · 2025-12-01T23:45:45+00:00

Men gain more mental & physical health support from being partnered

Correlation does not necessarily make causation clear. It makes more sense to me that healthier men are simply more likely to pursue a relationship and be attractive options to garner interest.

How can men build stronger, emotionally supportive friendships so one relationship doesn’t have to carry everything?

It can be tricky to find. I've had several close male friends over my life at different points. Just takes a lot of work to find guys interested in that kind of thing.

dudester3 · 2025-12-02T06:19:05+00:00

While I think mores are changing, men have always been more reliant on opposite sex LTR's to build- a family, a legacy- and yet, compete in the world. Studies like this to me endorse common sense.

This can be very isolating, as women have networked among women forever, and men are now learning that they can- and must - network both for business and social/mental health reasons. (Hence the man caves, gyms, and 'male spaces' that women want to insert themselves into.) But to BUILD for the future, most men need women to proceate and/or strive towards/pedestalize to please a 'lady fair.' Many examples thru history.

"I may not be Brad Pitt, but I got lots of money."

World-Three · 2025-12-02T09:49:50+00:00

I think it's less about social networks and more about investments.

Men make the first step, risking their reputation and or job. They spend lengths of time trying to find out a good place to go that she'll like, spend money on it, and then do his best to remain calm and approachable during these times.

They're expected to look a certain way, drive a certain class of car, own or rent a decent place, have enough money saved. A lot of things men are trained to do, men actually aren't doing for themselves but to attract women.

If you invested everything into a relationship, you're likely not interested in watching it go to waste. Men have everything to lose, and typically are the only people who lose if sex was never involved, and that specifically is only considered a loss to the woman if she thinks she's better than him. Women may lose a few days of makeup in the encounter. Men lose a few days of work, and that's the best case scenario.

This isn't to take away from your points, but honestly there's a lot more men go through that make it a bigger deal than simply no longer being in a relationship.

RSA1RSA · 2025-12-01T14:56:36+00:00

1- asking your friends to go out 2- talk about your problems with them 3- do not dismiss their problems and feelings as if it was "unmanly" to talk about it 4- basically do what women are doing... it is working for them!

Local-Willingness784 · 2025-11-30T19:07:13+00:00

friendships and social circles are important but if women had the same difficulty living up to the standards that men put, and not just showing up and picking up whatever they want, then maybe things wouldnt be like this, alas, men propose, women dispose, so it aint happening.

Title	Romantic Relationships Matter More to Men than to Women - Study
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Date	November 30, 2025 5:17 PM UTC (7 months ago)
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