How to learn texting women

MrTerno · 2025-12-04T22:40:11+00:00

Well, I'm still working on it but when I text girls I follow 3 principles: 1 - Be her drug dealer not her therapist (no boring texting); 2 - Ask Questions for her to qualify for you; 3 - Don't overinvest in the conversation. I have been finding some success but I see as a numbers game so if I ghost them or they ghost me I see it as part of the process.
Hope this helps you.

ThrowRA_fajsdklfas · 2025-12-04T22:18:03+00:00

Start with proper grammar and punctuation.

Reading this was difficult in itself.

Vegetable_Anty · 2025-12-05T03:02:01+00:00

Texting too many women at once can seem overwhelming.

Matter_Still · 2025-12-04T22:53:20+00:00

Texting has just about replaced face-to-face first encounters. This plays well for the shy who would struggle approaching a girl at Starbucks or after class.

It is the default method of initiating contact for younger people who, seemingly, are unaware of its many liabilities. Do you have an engaging smile? It can’t be seen. A voice as inviting as Tupelo honey? It can’t be heard. Can you charm birds out of trees? Who knows.

Texting demands a degree of verbal dexterity which is lacking in far too many people. Texts like this are not uncommon.

“Just looking for fun. LOL, hbu?”

So, unless you can charm with words, texting is likely going to end in disappointment.

SolidBat · 2025-12-04T22:52:59+00:00

dont text

CelicnisGhost · 2025-12-05T00:05:27+00:00

I'm writing a book on how to get the relationship of your dreams and one of the latest lesson is about texting. Find lesson #18 in this link:

https://drive.google.com/drive/u/1/folders/1GyR5vwLjd9ZA31sZafI4hx7NRS3g9YpU

It is far too long to post with the 10k character restriction but tl;dr:

Don't send a boring/classic first message. Find something on her profile, respond to an instagram story with something relevant, or use cold reading.
Induce emotions in the girl (humor, flirting, teasing, push-pull)
Be the buyer, not the seller. Get her to qualify herself to you. Baby-step her from adding you somewhere more private all the way into a date.
Try not to have texting go on for too long. Turn it into a date without dragging it on for too long.
Try to have multiple conversations going at once without appearing too needy. If you send a message she has to think about responding, you may well be busted right there. If you have multiple things she can respond to, she can respond to what she's into, and avoid the topic she doesn't like.
Keep response times unpredictable.

SnooMacarons4180 · 2025-12-05T00:42:25+00:00

Never try too hard. Text like you’re just texting someone you know.
Do not reply right away, show you’re busy.
Be interested in them and listen more than you let out. Mystery is attractive.

FinancialEmotion3526 · 2025-12-04T22:24:19+00:00

Are you asking questions? Are they personalized?

artsyaika · 2025-12-05T00:30:17+00:00

Quality over quantity, focus on genuine conversations, not numbers.

12605 · 2025-12-04T22:23:22+00:00

You’re boring.

SnoopyCactus983 · 2025-12-05T04:11:19+00:00

I struggle with this tbh. In person or on the phone, I can have a normal conversation that flows. Via text, I suck. My friends tell me that I text like a 45yo dad. Idek what to do there.

Tozza101 · 2025-12-05T06:29:21+00:00

What I do is match their energy.

Shadow__Account · 2025-12-05T09:58:46+00:00

Build your flow tree. But have an underlying understanding of a succesful flow.

Spike attraction, build some comfort and escalate!

You need to escalate very quick otherwise its just another chat buddy that will get ghoster for any spike of emotions.

Move from chat to phone call or other social media really quick, than plan meetup also quick.

You need to always be aware where you are on your flow tree.

Ah shes not attracted enough right now, so we go for one of the attraction spikes.

Ah she is really enjoying herself right now, time to escalate, hey im in your area next week for work, im sure i can squeeze in an hour for a drink, lets meet up.

Title	How to learn texting women
Author	Terrible-Pie1410
Upvotes	56
Comments	31
Date	December 4, 2025 10:04 PM UTC (7 months ago)
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