My ex has been a pain since separation and lawyers almost concluding divorce filing.

Recently, I have had to ask my lawyer to communicate with her without me. She lies blatantly now in her email response to them. I used to know she could do some white lies. It’s just horrifying to see that she would full on lie to my lawyers.

I am copied (blindly) in the email. So she doesn’t know I was copied. She responds to the email with lies about things I have already informed my lawyers about efforts to resolve them amicably in the past.

I wonder if she thinks they’ll not show me the email or she thinks she can turn my lawyers to be on her side. It reads so juvenile and I am sure she didn’t seek any legal advice in her response. It sounded more like the usual lies and deflections she used in our marriage.

You’d ask her 4 direct questions to provide information and at the end get no clear answer on any. Just aggression, deflection, refusal and pretending to be ethical.

I really don’t see how coparenting is going to work with her. Yet, I cannot abandon my child with such a person.

Every chance of not seeing her as a threat keeps depleting the more time goes by since the separation. Initially, I was open to limited communication with my child using telephone or video calls. When the patterns of passive aggression, ghosting and gaslighting won’t stop, I restricted all communication to a coparenting app for documentation.

My STBXW kept leaving our marriage throughout the years, and complained about how miserable I made her. One would expect that now that I have let go, she would do everything to not create new negative experiences as coparents. But she clearly wants the drama to continue. To what end, I have no idea.

She pretends like she wants me to have a relationship with our daughter but cannot clearly act in good faith or minimize conflict to allow such to happen. It is one of my greatest regrets that I had a child with someone who has no issues with lying to get their way.