Do you think physical appearance matters?

xweert123 · 2026-01-27T23:09:14+00:00

It matters in the sense that being attracted to your partner is an inherent requirement for a healthy relationship, however what people consider attractive doesn't always strictly align with what is considered "conventionally attractive".

mylesaway2017 · 2026-01-27T23:24:26+00:00

Physical appearance does matter but it's not the end all be all of finding a relationship.

Exact_Wrongdoer_147 · 2026-01-27T23:34:40+00:00

Yes. Idc if I’m superficial. I’m not having sex with someone I’m not attracted to. Most people will read this and assume it means you need to look like a Greek god but what I’m attracted to may not be what someone else is attracted to. Everyone likes different things

Jthemovienerd · 2026-01-27T22:55:13+00:00

It does matter. It's the very first step of being attracted to. Now, this is where is splinters off. Their personality can flush it down the drain. Or, it can enhance the attraction. For most people, there has to be some sort of physical attraction. Has to be. And this is where personal preference comes into how attracted they are. Remember, no one's exactly alike. Some people place physical attraction over everything else.

gmindset · 2026-01-27T23:18:01+00:00

I used to be bullied over my looks in my late teens to early 20s and have been called ugly so many times. now close to my 40s, after putting effort on improving my appearance I hear occasionally that I am a good looking man from men and women. Although I am not handsome by any means. I have experienced a close to non-existent sex life, and currently the woman I am seeing does commercials and modeling gigs as a side hustle. That might sound a bit allegorical I know. But all I can say is getting myself to look more attractive made my dating life absolutely better and less frustrating

meleyys · 2026-01-27T21:30:11+00:00

I mean, it matters to some degree in that you ideally should find your partner at least somewhat physically attractive. But it's not the most important thing, not by a long shot.

VictrolaBK · 2026-01-27T23:35:46+00:00

Yes. You have to be physically attracted to someone in order to have a physical relationship with them.

xvszero · 2026-01-28T01:25:47+00:00

Absolutely it does.

But how much does it matter, and what else matters, yada yada? Those are the big questions.

Also, keep in mind that everyone has different ideas of what is attractive. There is no one objective attractiveness.

navya12 · 2026-01-28T03:12:18+00:00

Physical appearance matters but not as much as personality and compatibility.

Plus what's conventionally attractive is always a trend. Like what an individual finds physically attractive will vary drastically between person to person.

KindlyPizza · 2026-01-28T07:08:45+00:00

Yes, very much. This is a common and well known thing.

yuhanimerom · 2026-01-28T13:19:29+00:00

Yes. But once you love someone, don’t think it matters. Unless they are actively doing things that makes them look bad. Accident that makes them completely disfigured? Fine. But someone looking bad from neglecting themselves? Hmm..

AssistTemporary8422 · 2026-02-01T08:21:05+00:00

Then by your definition of "superficial", 95% of the population is "superficial". Nearly everyone has a type physically. A big part of relationships is sex, and the visual aspect of sex is important to many people. And just because someone has looks preferences doesn't mean they don't care about personality, or don't find someone conventionally less attractive people appealing.

PutsWomenOnPedestal · 2026-01-27T23:35:09+00:00

Yes, it matters a LOT. Yes, I’m superficial. Sexual relationships are superficial. So what?

Dandy-Dao · 2026-01-28T16:25:40+00:00

Of course it matters. Reducing someone to their mind is just as shallow as reducing them to their body.

Title	Do you think physical appearance matters?
Author	Flourescendrama
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Comments	52
Date	January 27, 2026 8:46 PM UTC (5 months ago)
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