In the same time a woman can get an abortion a man should be able to completely sign his rights away

63daddy · 2026-04-27T23:49:52+00:00

Women have many ways to legally surrender parenthood, after conception has occurred. abortion being just one of them. They can also take the morning after pill or abortion pill. They can surrender a child after birth or give it up for adoption. These are for the most part opt out options unavailable to men.

Men should of course have at least one means of legally surrendering parenthood. As it stands now, women have reproductive rights whereas men have reproductive responsibilities. There’s nothing equal about that.

BowtiepastaMasta · 2026-04-27T23:43:54+00:00

This is contradiction feminist try to mental gymnastics their way out of, and it’s crazy to me. How can they argue reproductive rights while simultaneously taking it away from the fathers?!?

Lionheart27778 · 2026-04-28T01:34:26+00:00

Imo it's mostly on the government why this isn't a thing.

The governments of the world don't want to foot the full bill for all the single mothers out there - so they fuck over mens reproductive rights to save money.

Feminism/women/society backs them up because they think the government is standing by them - when in reality it's just about benefit money and keeping the population going.

brainhack3r · 2026-04-28T00:14:12+00:00

I realized you can make this matrix to better understand the problem:

https://imgur.com/a/RO9yMH1

I'm curious what you guys think.

It CLEARLY illustrates the problem.

I think if the man wants to 'walk away' he should be able to.

Then women have the AUDACITY to talk about "deadbeat dad's" when they DIDN'T WANT TO BE A DAD!

You forced him!

mw136913 · 2026-04-28T23:27:53+00:00

If a woman can abort her parental responsibilities, a man should be able to abort his parental responsibilities

Blacksunshinexo · 2026-04-29T06:30:31+00:00

So many women have children and don't even tell the father's until a few years in. Happened to my ex. She knew he didn't want kids, got pregnant via one night stand with him, left the job shortly after and then called him 3 years later once she heard he moved out of state to tell him she had his kid and was going to file for child support. Men really do need to establish a lobby for men's reproductive rights.

Dubya_85 · 2026-04-28T01:03:44+00:00

Shit go over to R abortion and read.

They’ll literally say “I have a boy. I’m pregnant with another boy but wanted a girl.” And then talk about getting an abortion without telling the father

And feminists will “you go girl!” Her.

meltedcheeser · 2026-04-28T01:47:03+00:00

I think there are plenty of women who would be on board with this.

It’s the state that refuses to let you because the state doesn’t want to pay for your child. They want you on the hook for child support not the state.

I am 100% in favor of men being allowed to sign away paternity as long as we allow for programs to exist for the support of the child.

I’m also 100% in favor of most abortions.

TwerpOco · 2026-04-28T02:09:59+00:00

I agree. Men have far fewer reproductive rights than women. Women can have abortions depending on the location, or even carry to term and give up the child to adoption, or surrender the child at a safe haven. None of which are easy choices, obviously, but they are options that women have unilaterally that men do not. While I'd like to see this improved, I will say that it's still tricky to actually legislate any kind of paternal opt-out solution.

At what point is it too late for the man to sign away his rights? Most states do not allow abortions beyond the second trimester. Okay, so let's assume it's limited to the same time restrictions as abortion. What if the woman doesn't tell the man she's pregnant until it's beyond the time limit for him to opt-out? Okay, that's a problem. So now let's say the woman has to 'serve' the notification of pregnancy to the potential father before he is "on the hook" unless he opts out. How long does she have to serve this notice to give the man ample time to make a decision? What are the reprocussions if she doesn't? What if she crosses into a state where paternal opt-out isn't legal and has the child?

There are also ethical considerations. Does the right for men to opt out put women under more pressure to have abortions? Maybe so. The alternative is forcing men into being financially responsible for the child, and having less rights than women who may not feel that they can support a child. It's a tradeoff to consider, and one that I think the voting populace might be divided on. I think many would vote in the best interest of the child, regardless of the father's lack of reproductive rights. The state absolutely does not want more single mothers on welfare, and are happy to sacrifice men's rights to eliminate the financial burden on the state.

There are a ton of legal and ethical considerations, these are just some of the obvious ones.

This-Top7398 · 2026-04-28T00:25:02+00:00

Yeah sure goodluck with that. Glad I got a vasectomy

Icy-Friendship1163 · 2026-04-28T06:34:48+00:00

This is the only risk free option for a man :

r/vasectomy

1245789630 · 2026-05-31T16:11:34+00:00

Women must carry 100% of the babies due to basic human biology. Based on your logic, this fact is also some kind of discrimination for women lol.

A part from biological realities, men and women have all the same rights. Both parties can walk away from the child together if they agree to put the child up for adoption. Either party can also walk away from the child independently and pay the custodian parent child support.

Are you advocating for the man to not pay to support his own child financially? Who should pay then - random men that have nothing to do with the child? Wouldn't that be an actual injustice - putting the financial burden on random people? Or should the child starve/go homeless?

cashreddit2 · 2026-04-28T17:59:21+00:00

If it is fairness you are after, the better way is to limit abortion. Don’t make the kid you sired die for your choices.

Future-Stretch-401 · 2026-04-28T00:18:15+00:00

Im sure you'd like that, but I don’t agree to let you take my money to pay for your kid. So … no. Pay for your own kid if you can’t keep it in your pants.

scotty-utb · 2026-04-28T07:32:45+00:00

No.
“Just sign away your rights” isn’t responsibility—it’s dodging the consequences. Its running away like a coward. You are no coward are you?

Freedom comes with responsibility. If you want control over the outcome, you take control on the front end.
If you’re not ready to be a father, act accordingly. Prevention is in your hands—no government, no courts, no loopholes needed.

You want control? You already have it.
It's your sperm which does cause the pregnancy. You CAN prevent this upfront. (You, because i do)
Simple: use Condoms
Permanent: Vasectomy.

Yes, an approved male birth control pill (or any other next-gen option) is overdue.
You can not get baby trapped at all if your sperm is just not usable.

There are still some projects in study/trial, all driven by startup companies, all lacking funds.
No big-pharma is left (they do not see a market?)
With some luck, the first option may be approved within 5 years...
But, male birth control is 5 years in the future, since 70 years constantly.

Ok, there are some 20k users of 'andro-switch' already (approval scheduled for 2029), i am one of them, and some additional ones using copies of it or the predecessor slip.
Side effect? "mild skin irritation" (Be a man and bear it, it's nothing to fear about)
There are users of spermapause, or lowtech soaking their sack in just bearable hot water for 45min/day.
(Pearl-Index 0.5 typical-use)

There are a lot of "thermal male birth control" user groups in France and french speaking countries (Swiss, Belgium), molding own rings, sewing special jockstrap slips. There is also a group in Canada, there are some groups in Germany.
what's missing is the US. Your Administration is against contraception and slowly restricting access? You are bluntly baby-trapped? You want to take action to prevent the need of abortion upfront? Men, there is a contraceptive option already usable.
Push, tell about, use it if you dare.

The hormonal weekly injection was binned because of side effects, but 80% of the participants wanted to continue back then! This injection is still available for prescription in (at least) France and Panama.
Others (ab)use steroids/testosterone
(Pearl-Index 1 perfect-use)

Noid1111 · 2026-04-28T00:43:18+00:00

Well women can realistically have 1 child a year whereas a men could potentially get alot of women pregnant in a year which would put an immense amount of strain on already broken welfare system so not being to sign away financial responsibility is not entirely a bad thing

Title	In the same time a woman can get an abortion a man should be able to completely sign his rights away
Author	Fancy_Clown_88
Upvotes	268
Comments	111
Date	April 27, 2026 11:40 PM UTC (2 months ago)
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