FWB says we short term, but she acts like it's long term.

Back2theCouture · 2026-05-28T09:05:56+00:00

It’s inevitable. FWB is not for everybody.

Vibejuice-official · 2026-05-28T08:35:21+00:00

Just relax man, if she’s acting that way it’s more than likely you’re her “main” and that’s why she’s being all lovey dovey. She knows the game she’s playing.

Not everything needs a conversation. If you’ve reiterated that it’s not serious and she’s still attached then there’s nothing else to say.

Just let things run their course and eventually attraction will wane once she sees you’re not reciprocating.

Miss_Galoldriel · 2026-05-28T09:40:01+00:00

I've had the same concerns with an FWB, so I get where you're coming from and why it bothers you. My way of handling things is the same as yours: if they suddenly want more, we'll have to part ways because the asymmetry in how we feel could be hurtful, and I don't want that.

I felt like this guy was trying to subtly push my boundaries, as if he wanted to see if I would change my perspective. But he hasn't said it outright, so I'm still trying to gauge whether he's keeping his intentions hidden from me, or if I'm reading too much into things. I'm very averse to the thought of having a relationship (not just with him, but with anyone), so it doesn't necessarily take much for me to become hyper-aware of things that really don't have to be a problem.

I've reiterated what I've said from the beginning to make sure we're on the same page, namely that it is, and has to be, strictly casual. I've been very direct. My experience is the same as yours, though: Even though you communicate clearly and unambiguously, some people seem to think that they can change your mind over time. And as I've had a couple of guys freaking out because of that, I don't exactly want it to happen again.

What is it that this girl does that makes you think she wants more from you?

norwegiandoggo · 2026-05-28T12:46:38+00:00

You are delusional if you think this won't happen with like 99% of women.

FWB is temporary! Understand that! You have a few options to convert the FWB to something else once the FWB free trial period has run its course. Choose your new subscription:

Convert it to nothing / friendship and "break-up"
Convert it to a deeper open-relationship
Convert it to a standard monogamous relationship

Take your pick. But you usually cannot stay in FWB land forever. That is extremely rare / unusual. Most women just won't accept it.

MineDesperate2920 · 2026-05-28T10:53:59+00:00

Lmao yeah man goodluck. Everyone says “bE hOnESt”. This is a good example of what actualy happens.

Been there before too lots and I don’t like hurting people wither but it just seems impossible not to. If you okay the game you will

howtobemisha · 2026-05-28T11:04:11+00:00

The same bro. I started fwb relationships previous year, but I constantly getting hints from her she wants long term

somethinlikeshieva · 2026-05-28T14:58:59+00:00

What is the difference between a short and ltr, I never understood that

somethinlikeshieva · 2026-05-28T15:46:33+00:00

One time I was fwb with a chick, she didn't want to anymore because of something I said, which she referred to as breaking up lol didn't know we were ever in a relationship

dismalprognosis · 2026-05-28T17:56:43+00:00

Happens man. It's walking a tightrope between her growing too distant and her growing too attached. I definitely wouldn't keep reiterating it to her as she knows what you said, but if she starts crossing a boundary to the point where your discomfort is more than your enjoyment, you should cut her loose

chips_and_hummus · 2026-05-28T18:33:15+00:00

If you’ve reiterated and she agrees then just have fun. FWB doesn’t always mean you just fuck and never act like we like each other. If that’s what you want you can consider that a specific type of FWB situation. There are different “types” in that sense.

You either get over it and enjoy the ride, or back out yourself. Or tell her to stop but realize she might back out as a result because you’re not fun to her.

You can act like bf/gf and still be under the understanding that it’s short term.

I understand that sounds weird and it is often the case that one person gets hurt there eventually. But A) that’s not always the case. and B) if you can’t handle that then you can’t handle being FWB.

SilverFoxBurner · 2026-05-31T00:12:22+00:00

A lot of good comments here. So I’ll take a different approach. Have you thought about adding another girl? Just bringing up a third might reinforce your position that your relationship is a FWB. If she says yes then seeing you with that other girl will show her you most definitely are playing the field.

nuckingfuts0 · 2026-06-01T22:10:29+00:00

How often are you taking to her and meeting up?

Deaf_Sentence · 2026-05-28T12:05:28+00:00

Just go with the flow ngl and pretend to be a bf and just do whatever she doesn’t like for her not see you as a bf material.

Nine_ · 2026-05-28T08:26:28+00:00

you’re overthinking it just let it be

Title	FWB says we short term, but she acts like it's long term.
Author	lockandlood
Upvotes	7
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Date	May 28, 2026 8:23 AM UTC (1 month ago)
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