" Boyfriend is leaving me because I’m overweight. "

I should end this right here. This is gold. What a move. Great job holding your woman to a standard, king.

This girl was living with her boyfriend during quarantine and I think had the wrong read on her dude. The story continues from there:

" Admittedly before quarantine I used to go to the gym regularly and I was very fit "

Then what happened?

" After quarantine I think I got too comfortable and I just started overeating and not doing any exercise. I gain weight terribly fast so I’ve easily gained about +44 pounds. "

44 fucking pounds? In like 4 months? That's amazing. I'm surprised this guy stuck around as long as he did.

" When I had gained about 22 pounds my boyfriend started commenting on how we should start eating healthier "

See, you don't have to be an asshole about your rules. The boyfriend here, although a little bit too late (22 pounds gained lmao) 'suggests' that his girl starts eating healthier. This is a nudge. If your girl is in the proper state (ie not comfortable) that should be all it takes to get her radar going and have her behaviour change. She was comfortable. She did not start eating healthier.

" I saw the change in our sex life, he didn’t even want to cuddle and he started acting very cold. He wouldn’t even kiss me.When I’d insinuate to sex he would act like he was tired or not in the mood, I chose to believe him and didn’t think twice of it. "

He gave her another warning. He's being nice here, which I wouldn't, but again, giving her the warnings. She's just a dumb bitch who chose not to notice it, again, because she was comfortable. (Also, as an aside, people like fucking people they like. If your girl is suddenly 'not in the mood', it's not because she actually has a tummy ache. Take that as a huge warning sign.)

Ok, enough of my rambling, lets get to the good part:

" Well, today we were watching some TV I was eating some chips and he sat on the couch next to where I was sitting. He turns off the show, gets up and says : ‘Would you stop eating for fucks sake don’t you see your self in the mirror?’ "

Oh. My. God. HAHAHAHAHAHA. You know what? I bet she got really horny when he did that.

" I immediately start tearing up but he continued. He didn’t yell, he just stood there and calmly explained to me how he had no physical attraction to me anymore and my unhealthy lifestyle disgusted him. "

" He said that if I didn’t get my shit together he’d be gone, "

" I told him to get out and leave already if he’s disgusted by me. He actually left the room and packed his things. "

" Before he left he told me to think about what he said wether (sic) I chose to be with him or not. "

" I can’t stop crying and I need advice and for someone to explain what the fuck just happened right now. "

- Honey, you got fat, and your man isn't some dweeb who think he'll never be able to get another girl if he leaves his current one, that's what happened.

Lessons? There's a few. I think the main lesson here is that this guy definitely did things poorly before he did things right. His poor start though necessitated his strong finish. Had he, at the outset of the relationship, made it very clear that weight gain was a deal breaker, than he may not have had to go to the nukes on this one. I feel he started passively aggressively tried to start 'enforcing' a weight gain rule his girl wasn't aware he had after she had already gained 22 pounds. That's way too late. If he had done the 'lets eat healthier' thing when she had gained 10 pounds, then it might have worked. Of course, as I said earlier, if he had at the outset that weight gain was an issue, it may never come up as an issue, because the girl is aware of it.

Still, he probably actually loves this girl so he let it slide until it hit 22. Then when she didn't change her behaviour he let her know he did not like it by withdrawing sex. Good move. But I may have been more of an asshole and let her know that the lack of sex had to do with the weight gain. In fact I would have made that very clear. But overall a fine play.

The dumb bitch just didn't get it and kept eating. Here we see the nuclear option, IMO, deployed fairly well. I just think if you vet your girls and make your rules clear from the beginning, you can avoid having to go nuclear in the first place. But if you do have to go there, by all means, go there.

The best part of his nuclear game was that he wasn't making an empty threat. She tells him if he feels that way he can leave, and he immediately goes and packs up and leaves. There is no negotiating or apologizing. That's why the move had power: it feels real. If he had made the threat and not then gone and immediately packed, this bitch would be hitting 66 pounds gained soon.

So good girl management at the start of a relationship is essential to avoid this pitfalls, but if you find yourself in these pitfalls, do what this dude did (eventually). Bring it up, and make the future of the relationship dependent on whether or not the girl lives up to your expectations.

And this shit works vice versa too, guys. Comfort equals death. If you're comfortable around your girl, she's bored. If she's bored, she isn't happy. Make your girlfriend uncomfortable about the security of the relationship, and she will behave better.