Divorced my wife this month. I have some questions and am looking for some guidance/advice.

honda_vfr · 2020-08-17T15:33:45+00:00

I don’t want to think they are all like this.

None of us want to think that.

But after a while, you get this sad feeling.

For me it was a realization that I really did not know women. What I learned here and on YouTube surprised me. And made me sad.

They don't love like we do. Women are not like the movies.

Most of us have given up finding a woman of our dreams, because our dreams were not based on reality.

anonymous578033 · 2020-08-17T15:35:08+00:00

The temptation for you is to find antoher girl to replace what you have lost. But please take some time for yourself. And believe me they are all like that, check out Coach Greg Adams and his marriage wheel or any other of his videos. Life is great once you full realize the red pill then you can focus on self actualization. Seems also you are in the denial stage which is normal. Next you will go to the bargaining stage by thinking if I act a certain way I can attract a certain girl. Next comes the rage phase when you fully realize the truth of female hypergamy and how you are just a transaction to them. AFter that is the self actualization when you focus on what you want in life and goals.

souris101 · 2020-08-17T15:22:23+00:00

Take at least two years for yourself. It sounds like you already have your toes in the water again, checking to see if it's safe enough to jump in. Slow down.

Maximum_Afternoon · 2020-08-17T16:10:38+00:00

I've dated a couple dozen women over the last 40 years. Every time, I left them.

Why would year 41 of the search result in anything different?

usnraptor · 2020-08-17T17:18:39+00:00

Ever hear the phrase "a bad day fishing is better than a good day at work?" Well, a bad day single is better than a good day being married.

Iqbal40862715 · 2020-08-17T16:51:12+00:00

Welcome to MGTOW brother! It’s nice to hear you’ve broken away from your wife.

Yes they really are all like that. It’s a tough pill to swallow but it’s true. We offer you truth and nothing else.

Keep in mind our minds know all women are like that, but our dicks disagree. They are dreamers that will never give up on the hope of a unicorn virgin.

Don’t forget there are no rules/laws/culture/social norms to police female behavior these days. This makes women undateable and not marriage material.

At the same time our dicks will still want to fuck them. Get a hooker fleshlight doll rub and tug to get the poison out.

Good luck

user_miki · 2020-08-17T16:43:41+00:00

We all hoped.Never will happen that to me.

-Baby I will never do that to you.

you are on the first phase.

-Denial.(Not all women are like that,cannot be, isn't it)

https://psychcentral.com/lib/the-5-stages-of-loss-and-grief/

My brother in law was the same as you after his wife cheating and divorced he jumped again, 3 months after divorce he had another woman.One that is worse than the previous one.

She is abusing him a lot he is like a doormat he thrown his own kids out of his house because of the new women.He is so afraid of her, he is not allowed to speak alone with his mother or sister.He is a shadow of his former self.He is dead inside.

The moral of this story is, if you jump to another women there is no guarantee that will be better.It can be worse much worse.

2020-08-17T18:26:05+00:00

I think they all have a “survivor” instinct and will always put themselves over you. Unfortunately, rich girls, poor girls, fat, skinny, white, black, they all run off the same logic

I am in my early 30s and can tell you, they are all the same at the end of the day. Just worry about other things, if you ever want to get back into it, no rush, there will never be a shortage of women out there.

TigPlaze · 2020-08-17T19:16:38+00:00

It's next to impossible to find a loyal woman. My mom is. She's been married to my dad for 60 years, but they're World War II generation. That's what people did back then is they married and stayed loyal. My mom stayed with him even when his company went bankrupt and he barely had money. But they're the older generation, pre-boomers. They have religious beliefs that the vows they took were sacred before God and are never to be violated. Women don't do that anymore, thanks to feminism, not even the religious women. Today's women will knife you in the back as soon as they find a better deal or a perceived better deal. Today's women have been "liberated" from all that awful stuff like considering marriage a sacred commitment and being loyal to your spouse. They do whatever the whim at the moment suites them at the time.

generic-affliction · 2020-08-17T17:34:16+00:00

Even your mother AWALT

AncientMGTOWWISDOM · 2020-08-17T18:00:13+00:00

I have a nice GF, she just graduated college and got her first job as a mech engineer, shes from a foreign country and is quiet and submissive and very nice to me. but i still worry that when you take them in, and make it official it will eventually go to hell. She seems so smart at times, then i look at her watching her stupid tik tok videos, and then i remember. lol

MGTOWayoflife · 2020-08-17T20:07:51+00:00

Are they all the same? Generally yes. The trick is to not find out if she is the same or not. So don't get married. Pump and dump.

Good women? Sure there's a few out there. There's also needles in haystacks. Most women are good women at the start because they are trying to manipulate you into commitment. Then you commit and you find out the hard way that she wasn't a good woman. The key is to rent (hit it and quit it, relationships that are a maximum of 6 months and not during the months of December (Christma$) or February (Valentine$ day)) instead of buying.

silly_birb · 2020-08-17T18:43:11+00:00

Briffault is known for what is called Briffault's law:

The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place. — Robert Briffault, The Mothers. The matriarcal Theory of social origins, p21

AWALT explained

simpleguychilling · 2020-08-17T16:19:55+00:00

Yes they are all like that.

Beegbeegbeegbeeg · 2020-08-17T19:10:18+00:00

They probably aren't all like that, to be totally honest. The problem is you won't know a woman's true colors until it's far too late for you to gracefully recover from it.

With a divorce rate of 50%, and a fraction of the remaining 50% being satisfied in their marriage... statistically speaking, my best move is to just avoid the situation altogether.

You could potentially find a unicorn, but you'll never be able to tell one from a woman who just wants to take advantage of you.

BluesSinger77 · 2020-08-17T19:52:35+00:00

A lot of it is up to you. If you are a man of strength, you have a better chance to find and keep a higher-quality woman. No guarantees though, unfortunately. That’s why all you can really do is be the best man you can be, guarding YOUR mental and physical health ABOVE ALL ELSE.

Ocjab · 2020-08-17T20:09:28+00:00

Here is something you need to learn.

External validation will never give you what you want. You need to understand that someone liking you can change from 1 second to another. And because of this fleeting thing, you will always feel depressed. The moment that person doesn't like you anymore, you feel crushed and hard broken. That in it self, is asking for becoming insane.

Women are women, either love them or understand them. You can't do both.

What is your definition of "good" ?

You might be able to find a woman that will give you what you want but chances are VERY slim because of feminism and social media.

It used to be hard for women to have a backup man, but now they have 1000's because of tinder. So the moment a better guy comes along, she will view you unworthy.

closer_1 · 2020-08-17T16:40:23+00:00

Are they really all the same? Statistically, no, but it depends on where you live. GenX, and the generation after the Millineals is supposedly ok but its a crap shoot.

Are there any guys on here who have found good women? I am not looking, AWALT

What are your thoughts? Red Pill rage will hit you, you will be pissed that we were conditioned to believe that if we were chivalrous and acted like women said they wanted us to act that everything would work out. Sadly, when you see that its all a lie you will get pissed off. It will pass but it is a journey.

Men love, women choose, stay single, find a hooker or a FWB don't risk it, the stove is always hot.

MigPOW · 2020-08-17T21:24:32+00:00

My mom wasn't like this. Her two friends were and worked on my mom for a year until she divorce raped my dad.

He married a unicorn and got divorce raped just the same.

TXJohn83 · 2020-08-17T22:11:39+00:00

Are they really all the same? For the most part they are.

Are there any guys on here who have found good women? Yes and NO, I am fucking a few awesome girls but I would not ever live with any of them, or date them for much besides sex.

Marriage is a shit hole, designed to force men to do what women want. Don't get married don't let marriage be an option, and don't expose yourself to another rape.

n0t__t0day · 2020-08-17T15:35:00+00:00

Yes, there are conservative females. But the chances to find one are slim to none, you would also need to qualify as a beta Chad provider. Don't even bother, get a hobby.

mgtowdaddy · 2020-08-17T17:15:32+00:00

Well you tell us. Make a bigger sample and see how that works for you. In the mean time, 50% of marriages fail. How many more live in deadbedrooms or even worse bit stay together for whatever reasons??

PaPaKAPture · 2020-08-17T17:47:30+00:00

Perhaps not. Not all women are like that, but ALL women have the ability. and in terms of parental and marital rights during a divorce, they ALL have the ability to fuck your world up.

CeleritySteam · 2020-08-17T19:33:55+00:00

Are they really all the same?

Some are worse. Without knowing you probably got the average experience, so half are worse. Half are better, but there are no victory conditions. Only different sorts of fail conditions.

So you can learn your lesson now or keep eating the poisoned candies. Not all will kill you, some poisons will do worse.

sajuck001 · 2020-08-17T23:38:58+00:00

I don't think they are all like that, but it is like looking for a needle in stack of needles. The squeeze is not worth the squeeze.

I say that not because of my own experience, but because of my parents. They have been miserable together but that's more due to their personalities. But my mother stayed faithful to him despite his previous indiscretions. She works a hard physical job at 60 while he sits at home/works part time and then gives away her paycheck to him to manage. She cleans his house till it's spotless every week. Washes his laundry and the only thing he does is cook for her and take care of "man's" responsibilities at home.

So I'd confidently can say my mom is a unicorn. But that has to do more with her personality then anything else. She's the biggest coward I know. She is clueless at technology and very much old fashioned. But while there are exceptions to the rule (always are), that does not invalidate the rule.

MattFoley79 · 2020-08-18T05:20:45+00:00

There are a few who maybe aren't extremely manipulative, but if that is the type you attract, then it is likely any others who want an LTR with you will be the same way.

I speak from experience on this.

edgysecularist · 2020-08-17T23:00:56+00:00

AWALT since the creation of Lilth/Eve

GeneralDruid · 2020-08-18T00:11:54+00:00

They are all different to begin with, but all end up the same.

MuchIndependence · 2020-08-18T01:27:57+00:00

Are they really all the same?

Yes.

Are there any guys on here who have found good women?

Yes.

Buy a boat and be free.

deadBeefCafe2014 · 2020-08-18T01:42:06+00:00

They are all crazy in their own way. So none of them will ever be like your ex. Some aren’t as bad. Some are worse.

However, all of them are allowed to be monsters. They will he cheered on by the sisterhood, the simpanzees, and the unwashed blue pilled masses.

There is no undoing the red pill.

It is okay to mourn the loss of the life you were promised and to feel wrath at the lies of what you used to hold as truths.

Global_MGTOW · 2020-08-18T02:34:17+00:00

I don’t want to think they are all like this.

By all means, go find your next unicorn and tell us how that goes. Some men never learn.

fetchmesumtimbers · 2020-08-18T04:48:27+00:00

First of all as we all know in here, the laws are all in womens favor. Women are most of the time granted the benefits of alimony and child support. Secondly, society always supports women and grant them every benefit of doubt, which is why false accusations are endemic. Thirdly, women not all women are decent people. Some women are decent but its hit or miss and its hard to judge a book by its cover.

And if you want to be absolutely cynical about this, then consider that you could get laid a lot more often with a good looking sex worker for a lot less money. Although I prefer abstinence, entertaining this thought gives me the peace of mind that women are just not worth my money.

IceyBear988 · 2020-08-18T07:05:43+00:00

The surface of MGTOW being mainstream these days is a indicator that AWALT is AWALT. No exceptions, the good news is you are not alone in this, the 200k(minimum) users in MGTOW here is a good sign the corrupted belly is up and it's being shoved above the waters and people is having enough of these bullshit.

Shimakaze4 · 2020-08-18T07:43:29+00:00

They're all the same. Sure, you might have some fun with a woman, especially at the start of a relationship, but in the end, they are all the same. Just look through this forum, look through dead bedrooms, look on youtube for MGTOW content, all over, you will see the same stories. How do you think we know so much about women? They are predictable in their behaviour and all of us have seen it before in women we dated, are related to or been friendly with.

RampantRyanLion · 2020-08-18T07:57:22+00:00

"Past statistics have shown that in the U.S. 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce." Psychology Today

Cestus_Saphrax · 2020-08-18T08:42:25+00:00

They are all the same. The ones that pretend to be unicorns are chameleons.

The only good women out there are the ones you call, give them money, have sex how you want and disappear afterwards. There are no incentives in living with a woman.

Sounds bitter, but it is a hard learned lesson.

Work on your personal goals, work on yourself and fullfill your dreams. Don't let a woman destroy your life

Tailback · 2020-08-18T16:06:05+00:00

I'm 50 ish and been married 22 years. She's a traditionalist and also a submissive. She's kept her looks mostly because of good genes and not having kids. I don't really have anything marriage wise to complain about.

That having been said, women spend a ridiculous amount of money on useless shit. Hair care, skin care, clothing, knicknacks, furniture, got to have a nice house, want a nice car etc.

If I had never married I'd be way ahead money wise than I am now and could probably almost retire. Instead I have to work 9 more years.

If I could do it over again I wouldn't have gotten married. I'd just get an escort every now and them to scratch that itch.

jws755 · 2020-08-19T05:03:22+00:00

They are all the same. They get even more alike as they age, and the baggage piles up.

I thought I found one, kept reading here and dealing with her, having some fun, till it ended.

When a woman says; "I'm not going anywhere without you", She's lying.

When she says ; "We are a team, you and me" , shes lying.

When young, we want a woman for sex, validation and help paying the rent, and maybe kids.

As we men age, the needs we had for women becoming less and less, till you have no use for them at all. My life is far more fun and pleasant than it was with a woman running it.

The_Whorror_Show · 2020-08-19T07:33:35+00:00

Everyone in real life wants to attack me and say I've had bad experiences and just had the wrong women, but what really redpilled me is that all the women I attracted were good girls, all of them treated me lovely, only my first cheated on me ruthlessly, but whatever, deepthroatpies on demand made up for it. Essentially I got to be with many good girls and what opened my eyes was how much bullshit that they did despite being one of the good girls with father figures around. It got to a point where I noticed all women I dated had the same behaviours and operated under the same AWALT behaviour. This was the basis of my redpilling, it wasn't that I got fooled by some gold digger, I already knew about bad women, I never lead with money, I lead with personality and humour, and I manage to get some cutiepies that men would have married ASAP if we lived in different times, and all of these women have gone bad over time.

AdamSavageLord · 2020-08-17T19:33:32+00:00

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Title	Divorced my wife this month. I have some questions and am looking for some guidance/advice.
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Date	August 17, 2020 3:17 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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