Girlfriend with a low libido rejects sex from me because she "doesn't feel like it" or is "tired", but she still cooks for me, pays for food, and logistically works in my favor to meet me.

Hamilton5M · 2015-06-18T07:10:06+00:00

She's either banging someone else, or she's sexually dysfunctional.

Either way, you are wasting your time.

third-eye-brown · 2015-06-18T08:01:17+00:00

If she just wants to be your maid/cook, let her.

Just make it clear to her that when she isn't sucking your dick, another girl will.

[deleted] · 2015-06-18T13:29:44+00:00

You are her friend.

niczar · 2015-06-18T07:12:06+00:00

Dread game. Use it.

[deleted] · 2015-06-18T12:42:58+00:00

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seattleron · 2015-06-18T17:26:54+00:00

How old are you?

You need some subtle dread game, and you need to stop asking or trying for it. Flip the script. Call her from a place where women are laughing in the background, be vague about things like what time you're coming home or who you're with, post a new pic on social media that will get attention from women. There is no bigger aphrodisiac to a woman than a man other women desire.

Also, as soon as you stop trying to make out with her every chance you can get. You put the ball 100% in her court when you do that and she knows it. Why would she desire a guy who only gets sex from her and she can control it? She needs that healthy amount of anxiety where her hamster tells her other women desire her and maybe he's fucking someone else on the side?? That's what will get her hamster to spin in your favor. Why would she give it to you whenever you want when she's in control? She needs to be reminded other women want to fuck you, and you need to take the power away from her by NOT making out with her and NOT initiating every chance you get. She will feel insecure like she's not hot enough for you, and add in the soft dread with the examples above and it won't be long before she's begging for it again.

Not sure why no one else has told you these things. She's 18 and at her SMV prime, so she needs gamed harder than she would at any other age. You're stoic in everything else in life, you need to be that way with your sexual needs. Then when she initiates it, you go aggressive and SGM the shit out of her and let her know who the man is.

Aerobus · 2015-06-18T17:13:38+00:00

A woman who is sexually attracted to a man will not feel tired all the time.

If a woman really sees you as AF she will want to drop her panties and get it on with you.

What's wrong, why is she rejecting sex from me, and what should I do to fix it?

You have scarcity mentality. Who cares if anything is wrong? Better yet, think that nothing is wrong. YOU are an amazing person who is becoming even more valuable by the day (lifting, improving finances, etc). If this bitch doesn't want to fuck you, drop her, and bang someone else. Abundance mentality.

LeGrandDiableBlanc · 2015-06-18T13:46:43+00:00

How's your sex game?

Just because you are in an LTR with a girl, doesn't mean you don't still need to game her to have sex.

I would reccomend reading up on the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder and the Sex God Method.

The long and short of it is that you have to start off numbingly slow, build up sexual tension over an hour or more, and finally end up in an extremely dominant sexual frame. Get physical. Throw her around, pin her, etc.

secret_barber · 2015-06-18T16:38:24+00:00

You really need to understand that sex is the most critical component of a romantic relationship. BOTTOMLINE: if you are not fucking, you are not in a relationship. If ever she denies you, you need to immediately withdraw emotional intimacy and look elsewhere for a relationship. That said, she may have valid reasons for not wanting to fuck you (like she thinks you suck), but I promise you it is not because she is tired or on her period. Sex feels good, always. Quality fucking relieves menstrual cramping, headaches, stress and more.

If she's too tired to fuck, tell her to go to bed and you then go the fuck out.

Super-Saiyajin · 2015-06-18T16:39:50+00:00

Anavar raises a girls libido.

A guy on Tren makes every girl want to fuck him though!

CryptoManbeard · 2015-06-18T16:49:08+00:00

So your question is should you break up with her or not? It sounds like you could be Ok with the possibility of ending it, great start.

Start invoking some dread game with her. You're already working out. Flirt with girls in front of her, look at other women when she is talking to you, make sure you are dressing sharp. Basically act like you are hanging out single with a buddy when around her, it will imply that which you don't want to come out and say. Which is, "If you aren't going to fuck me, someone else will."

Another tactic is to keep her around and just sleep with other people covertly. If you want to run this as a social experiment, just tell her you don't want to be exclusive. At the worst, you guys break up. At the best, she gets jealous of your suggestion and ups her game (or she lets you bang others on the side).

RPMahoutsukai · 2015-06-18T10:45:13+00:00

There are no valid reasons for a girl not to want sex with a guy she desires, because biologically we're wired this way. Male initiates, female responds. In a proper relationship with two undamaged mates, whenever the male wants sex, the female will gladly have sex with him (barring temporary medical issues). This is how it should happen normally: you get all the sex you need, and she's glad to give it to you, unless she's obviously damaged (like she's having a fever and her body temp is 39C, or she's on a period and in pain). There are no petty reasons not to have sex - both of you being tired, her having bad day at work, not feeling like it - that's irrelevant.

Obviously for her it's not so. And that makes her sexually dysfunctional. That does not mean you must dump her, but it does make her broken, and it's her job to fix herself, not yours. If your SMV is high enough, if you initiate properly in a confident manner (you come onto her, kiss her, press her against the wall, make out, maybe say something passionate or dirty about how you want to fuck her right now) and if you have a place to have sex in that she's comfortable with, then you've done your part of the deal.

If your evaluation of your dymanic is true, then there indeed may be hope. But you'll need to have an honest talk. Tell her you need to talk, seriously. Make some time for it, in a comfortable atmosphere. Hold frame, your frame should be: this relationship cannot continue as it is, because you expect your girlfriend to enjoy having frequent sex with you, the way it's happening is not normal and not natural, it should be that there's just lots of sex and both of you are happily enjoying it together. Tell her you'd love to hear her part of the story, to understand her. Does she think sex is supposed to be frequent? Does she enjoy having sex? Does she orgasm, is that important to her? Does she have preferences, wants, fantasies that are not being fulfilled? Regardless of how she feels right now (she obviously doesn't feel like having frequent sex), does she welcome an idea of a relationship where sex is frequent and both enjoy it? Tell her to imagine, if she would want sex as frequently as you do, and would receive pleasure from having sex, would she like your relationship more? Maybe there's something you're doing that's breaking the deal for her, and you can fix that?

Then, make your decision. If it is to dump her, don't frame it like "you're broken I'm dumping you" but rather just tell her you two are obviously incompatible, and her making effort to please you (cooking, favors) won't change that.

[deleted] · 2015-06-18T11:55:25+00:00

Sit her down.

Ask her if it's a problem if you get your sexual needs met by someone else, since it's quite clear she's not interested in you sexually.

She can either start fucking you more or fuck off. It's not a hard decision, and you can pay for your own meals. Just because she wants to be around you, doesn't give her a free pass to deprive you of a satisfying relationship.

And,considering the only perks of dating her you have listed in this topic are : Pays for your food, travels to see you, and a dozen or so sentences with the word LOGISTICALLY in them, I think you need to think about the LOGISTICS of getting some ass in a relationship.

niczar · 2015-06-18T11:59:40+00:00

Go peruse /r/deadbedrooms, read a few dozens posts, or even a hundred or two ... then come back to us to see if it's worth investing more time with her. Or don't; I guarantee you'll know exactly what to do.

kingofpoplives · 2015-06-18T13:01:00+00:00

How long has this LTR been going on?

She may just be no longer attracted to you due to boredom. This can happen pretty quickly, especially if you live together. It's amazing how fast a person's libido can reappear when a new lover enters the scene.

hrm0894 · 2015-06-18T14:28:31+00:00

If she's not there for you physically then you're not there for her emotionally.

[deleted] · 2015-06-18T14:48:43+00:00

Maybe depression or some other such mental disorder that reduces your libido but still makes you want to hang with people you care about.

RPAlternate42 · 2015-06-18T15:42:51+00:00

She's comfortable with you because you provide comfort, consistency and resources; in her head, she has secured her mate.

Read this: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/4790313.stm

And then start upping the dread.

Read this: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2lpafb/the_12_step_plan_of_dread_book_excerpt_from_my/

94redstealth · 2015-06-18T18:21:06+00:00

take advantage of the meals and fuck someone else. be sure to tell her you are going to get your sex elsewhere

MightyTaint · 2015-06-18T18:21:24+00:00

I disagree with a lot of the responses here. Some women have low libido. It sounds like she does a lot of things for you.

You need to convince her to allow you to fuck other women.

The key is that she knows you care about her more than them. You'll need to straddle a line between cheating and telling her everything; she will not want to know the details of who or when you are having sex with other women. But she will share you as long as she knows you care about her.

dandar4600 · 2015-06-18T19:44:37+00:00

She just doesn't find you sexually attractive. You are her beta buck.

From The Rational Male:

A woman who wants to fuck you will find a way to fuck you. She will fly across the country, crawl under barbwire, climb in through your second story bedroom window, fuck the shit out of you and wait patiently inside your closet if your wife comes home early from work – women who want to fuck will find a way to fuck.

cottonthread · 2015-06-18T07:53:27+00:00

Is she on the BC pill or anything like that? Those things can really screw with some girls' sex drive

slcjosh · 2015-06-18T22:19:19+00:00

Inject some dread game. Start to withdraw and meet other women.

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