3 months in and have been adhering to the STFU guideline as much as possible. Lately my wife has been doing some stupid shit that has pissed me off but I haven't said anything about it (i.e. holding frame). My way of handling it has been to remove myself from the situation or ignore her. I am curious as to how and when you guys bring shit up with your women.

For example, every year on Christmas I drive her and her parents to their family's. Our agreement is that I drive there and she drives back so I can drink. On Christmas Eve we established that she would drive so it's not like a covert contract or anything. Christmas comes and while I'm at her family's and at least six drinks in she tells me that I'm driving because she wants to drink. I tell her no, keep drinking, and ignore her. She keeps drinking but eventually stops and starts driving home.

On the way home she was driving like an idiot not because she was drunk but because she was flustered. I was having to spell every detail out for her (put your blinker on, start merging, etc.). She eventually blew up at me in front of her parents. I held frame, told her to pull over, and drove the rest of the way home without talking or reacting to her attitude. This really pissed me off so the next day I used that energy to workout, work, and socialize.

There have been a couple of other things like this that have happened in the past week or so. Is it worth bringing up now? If so, how?