Wife Shit Testing

fuckmrp · 2018-11-04T14:16:55+00:00

Always painful when reality peels back our protective self-delusions to expose the ego to truth.

Bartender showed you your wife lacks appropriate boundaries. Your wife showed you she gives two fucks about what you think.

Truth often hurts but be grateful. Like it or not you’re better off today than you were yesterday. The only thing to consider is how you choose to react. And any reaction that includes words or anyone else is a waste of fucking time. Change the inside and the outside will change in accordance.

jakethesnake5000 · 2018-11-04T13:49:34+00:00

You know what needs to be done, so go out there and do it. Lift the weights, read the sidebar and books, and instill the dread. The stay plan is the same as the go plan, never forget that.

An_Actual_Politician · 2018-11-04T22:24:52+00:00

Here's what I do as soon as I touch down somewhere for business and I know I'll have at least one night free. I fire up a couple dating apps and do some swiping. Sets my location and puts me at the top of girls decks as fresh meat. Usually takes a few hours, then the matches start. Make some jokes, be fun, let them know I've never been here before and am looking for someone to go to some fun new places with.

The beta/provider hunters fall off fast. Pick the best looking one and make plans for the free night. Spend night with them, which invariably leads to a close as I play to their business man in a nice hotel who they don't have to worry about bumping into again fantasies.

Given your wife's apparent activities in your absence, I'd recommend you try it. Even if you just catch and release - it builds abundance which will come in handy on the home front.

Oh and this also gives me extra motivation to go ham in the usually lacking hotel gym before heading out.

Red-Nerd13 · 2018-11-04T17:01:35+00:00

Would simply turning around and leaving in this instance be a decent choice? That's my first thought. Just turn around and leave, go do something else, whether that's a good time elsewhere, or mission focused.

To me that shows you DNGAF and that you'll do your own thing with or without her. If she wants to be apart of it, then she has to behave and respect you. If she doesn't, then you will set her aside.

Stay plan is Go plan.

It might not be the right call, but I would have just left. I'm not going to stay and watch that. This will likely piss her off, but then that allows her to come to you angry and you can talk to her about it from your frame.

She asks why you left her there, you explain that her behavior was inappropriate and you're not going to put up with it. Your words meant nothing to her, but taking some action means everything.

Actions speak louder than words, you complained to her, but you stayed and put up with it. She knows she holds the cards. The moment you take action and STFU, you just shuffled the deck.

That's my take, others can chime in on that.

Zoddo · 2018-11-04T22:15:07+00:00

Let's be honest here, you didn't vet this woman properly before committing yourself to her. She is not marriage material, and no amount of frame, and lifting is gonna change that. I don't know if you're in denial, or you're actually this foolish, but if you think she's just flirting then you need to wake the hell up. If she's willing to behave in such a disrespectful manner in front of you then just imagine what she does behind your back. She's probably been fucking other dudes for the entirety of your marriage, maybe even before.

Taipanshimshon · 2018-11-04T13:31:44+00:00

So basically you whined to your wife like a faggot about some dude manhandling her and giving her tingles and you expect her to not treat you like a faggot ?

The problem is you being such a faggot that your wife let a guy manhandle her without consequences.

Do you feel better after the puke ?

screechhater · 2018-11-04T17:04:59+00:00

Stay plan is the go plan.

It’s not giving a fuck, but it’s also showing frame in these situations, and truly realize what’s going on.

Lift. Read. Keep your eyes and ears peeled on her behavior.

Next her if you must

Downtowndex72 · 2018-11-04T12:40:24+00:00

My bullshit detector is also going off regarding them trying to set the bartender up with your wife's friend. I feel he pulled an AMOG on you, and worse of all, it's entirely his frame. He's got bouncers and the law on his side, as your wife didn't seem to mind being picked up. Both he and especially she have some nerve to do that in front of you.

I agree with you on frame, but I think it's not so much time to get lifting as it's time to instill dread and possibly leave her if you can't control this behavior.

Suppose you lifted and got to look like an Adonis. Would that have changed the outcome of what happened? Would you have physically assaulted the bartender? Would you have said something to him or her? I feel that it would have cost you dearly in her eyes to do that.

adeptintact · 2018-11-04T17:36:20+00:00

More likely than not, your wife is cheating on you. You complaining to her about her flirting is the weakest beta move and makes her turned off even more. You need to alpha up and be ready to leave her.

bucSlayer · 2018-11-04T17:04:31+00:00

Man, the guy fucking picked her up in front of you and she let and kept talking with him. What do you think she does while you’re not around? That she just flirts? Man wtf is this passiviness of yours? I don’t mean you have to argue or hit her, but are you gonna stay with her after this? WHAT THE FUCK. You should tell her “my wife would never do such thing, bye” and fucking forget about her, like she is less than a ant.

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2018-11-04T20:58:36+00:00

The only play to make is in the handicap washroom. You have to look yourself in the mirror and accept that this is the result of the decisions you have made up untill this point. I would suggest at this point, seeing as how you are all alone, maby have good cry. Get the booo hooos out. I think a solid cry is in order seeing as how we have had 2 threads on it lately.

Then wipe your fucking tears off and start making different decisions. Start with STFU, lifting, and shots of testosterone.

MrPurplePoison · 2018-11-05T23:59:43+00:00

Trust your gut, start the go plan. This was not the first time this has happened and it won't be the last. She doesn't respect you and you shouldn't waste time fooling yourself into thinking you can earn it. You have been cucked.

She chose to live her life this way, you get to choose how to live yours. Now it's all about you, you, and you. Rise, pheonix, rise!

And get tested.

The_Litz · 2018-11-05T18:23:07+00:00

Brother, your gut is telling you something is not right with this picture.

Calm the fuck down, and then get to the bottom of this.

From the sounds of it your wife is leading the charge and her friend is the passenger.

I hate to say it, but it would not be a bad idea to snoop/track your wife from what you describe. Snooping is a beta low value exercise, but being the last to know is even lower.

Don't view the evening as a win/lose event, see it as a heads up, an information gathering exercise.

Keep 'em peeled brother.

Bedtimeshine · 2018-11-06T23:07:42+00:00

Gotta handle it in moment. I don’t care if it’s fucking Brock lesnar... I’m telling him to put my wife down. And I would have called bullshit to her face about him barely even talking to her friend. And I’d ask to see her phone. She played it off because you allowed her to.

VancerX · 2018-11-10T15:44:59+00:00

No kids, you know you didn't vet and chose wrong, Man make this the happiest day of your life! Fuck, you're free man. Dive into lifting and learning like it's your career, focus on nothing else but that. Look up in 6 months and you'll start seeing the makings of a badass if you do it correctly and stay out of her frame. Then next her, because if she's so insecure to completely disrespect you while you're standing there, she doesn't have the morals and values (or maturity) to even be in the same room as you. But ONLY if you do the work and deserve it. You have a whole nother' life out there waiting for you that you just can't see yet, but clearly others do. But to get the prize, you have to do the process.

HERE2SHILL · 2018-11-24T02:43:59+00:00

Time to divorce OP. And improve yourself.

friendandadvisor · 2018-11-26T02:33:05+00:00

AT this juncture, I'd like to say: If you've already served her with divorce papers, go ahead and bang her friend. You've already got a start on the deal.

Further, I have requested a follow up, and I'm anxiously awaiting more, since your post in the Infidelity sub was 9 days ago, and Thanksgiving 4 days ago.

This is too hot to not be kept up to date on! Thanks.

lionmenden · 2018-11-07T21:07:49+00:00

Do you have kids with your wife?

friendandadvisor · 2018-11-26T01:49:12+00:00

Please don't let wife know until she has her subpoena handed to her.

Eyeswideopend · 2018-11-26T18:00:24+00:00

Stop drinking with her if she can’t handle her drink, and elevate his status.

Become a better man

Eyeswideopend · 2018-11-04T19:27:08+00:00

I’m pretty new to this stuff and fucked up with a post before reading the sidebar, in my humble opinion letting them decide which bar to go was a mistake,

Men can walk into any bar on their own and get a feel for the place, quality women can’t do this...

Suggest a bar you are very comfortable in (maintain frame)
Suggest an unfamiliar bar you walk in with 3 women - women already in the bar will be curious about you. (Dread)
Pass on drinking with your wife and her friends and drink with men (stimulating conversation)

Two_kids_in_a_coat · 2018-11-04T12:34:56+00:00

So what’s your question?

Title	Wife Shit Testing
Author	throwawaystarkness
Upvotes	37
Comments	58
Date	November 4, 2018 12:25 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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