So I started improving myself a few months ago.. cardio now weights in the past month. Dropped 25lbs since May. Also cut out emotional bullshit (whining to my wife, sucking up when she’s mad, etc). Realized I don’t need her in my life (sure I love her but don’t need her for my happiness). Everything was improving. She seemed happier and I was happier. Was beta for over a decade so this is very new and I’m taking it slow.
I showed her the results of my weight on Wednesday and that I hadn’t been this skinny (still fat at 220 and 6’ 2”) since high school. At this point things started going downhill. She was mad that I was later Thursday night than usual because of an appointment she knew about. I just said yeah I was and moved on. Yesterday she had a Dr appointment so I was going to get the kids ready and she starts giving me step by step instructions. I told her I know what I need to do and don’t need to be instructed like a child.
Since then she’s been very distant - cold shoulder, near silent treatment,,”don’t touch me”. Yesterday I STFU and ignored it just went about my day. No emotional reactions, stayed positive, lifted, rode the exercise bike hard for 30 minutes, took care of the kids, etc. she’s still acting pissed and I feel it’s almost getting worse. Last night we were watching a movie with the kids and I was talking to my daughter. She told everyone to shut up, I whispered my last sentence I was half way through and she got kissed and left the room. One of the stupid shit I’ve tolerated is when she gets really mad she’ll take her wedding ring off. I fear that’s next despite me doing nothing (that I can see at least) to escalate this.
What’s your advice here? I’m way too early in for any thoughts of divorce. Is this a massive shit test already? It is causing me stress but I’m taking that out on exercise and keeping busy. How long could I expect this to go on for?