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Wife thinks when I’m avoiding her shit test I’m being sneaky or shady

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September 27, 2018
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My wife is an interrogator. Control freak for sure. And nosey when there’s no reason to be. Over the years I’ve learned to provide comfort. Dread (probably too much) and pass shit test from her.

A lot of the times she will be extra nosey about things that just don’t involve her or things I don’t want to tell her. Just because I feel like she’s asking for no other reason than to keep a tab on everything I’m doing. It usually is nothing too. But I get so sick of the bombardment of questions that I will try to avoid them completely either by Stfu. AA. AM.

when I do this she will say.

“Why can’t you just tell me. Why are you being shady?”

Or tell me I’m so shady. I know this is happened because she’s used to me answering all her questions like a good little boy. And since I stopped she doesn’t like it. I can see this as probably being a good thing and gauging I’m on the right track.

But any good advice to AM my way through this?


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Title Wife thinks when I’m avoiding her shit test I’m being sneaky or shady
Author DoubleDisatitagain
Upvotes 14
Comments 27
Date 27 September 2018 05:05 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/203966
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/9ja05j/wife_thinks_when_im_avoiding_her_shit_test_im/
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[–]youcantdenythat17 points18 points  (2 children) | Copy

It's another shit test to see if you are genuine or not. A&A to absurdity. Start singing or something if you have to:

I'm Slim Shady, yes I'm the real Shady All you other Slim Shadys are just imitating So won't the real Slim Shady, please stand up

[–]FoxShitNasty835 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Extra bonus points for dancing on the sofa, kids love it.

[–]youcantdenythat1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Or even a table dance

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine14 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy

“she’s asking for no other reason than to keep a tab on everything I’m doing.”

Only Betas have leashes.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

leashes

Man your one liners make me hard sometimes.....

[–]DoubleDisatitagain0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yea I don’t have a leash but she tries

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Seems to me she's saying things to get you to justify your behavior. Like she's getting you to judge your own actions? Like there's a book for that.

Use the tactics from WISNIFG. Once or twice is a shit test. Constantly is a boundary violation. Tell her to knock it off and withdraw attention for poor behavior.

"I have nothing to hide, but frankly I don't take well to this constant questioning. I'll be at x until you can behave."

You can't get on the crazy train if no one is at the station.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am not sure why you give a fuck.

Sometimes no response is necessary. You are falling into the same trap of giving her feedback. Positive or negative feedback is feedback. Give her nothing.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

You need to master that thing the rock does with his eyebrow to enhance you stfu.

What's all this "I feel" shit. No one gives a fuck about your feelings. Especially her.

Give less fucks about her questions.

If you were training a child to sleep by itself through the night you just have to endure the shit fits it throws out untill it breaks and gives in to the new way of doing things.

Treat her like a child.

[–]threekindsoflucky2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

'It's not your concern'

or

'Shady? Did you finally figure out my double life as a Colombian drug lord? I've killed for less.' Or whatever works for you.

[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Columbian drug lord? That’s lame af. That won’t get her hamster going; it will just piss her off.

[–]threekindsoflucky3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thus the 'whatever works for you'. My wife would laugh at that sort of stupid shit. Precisely because its 'lame af'.

[–]SepeanRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

And since I stopped she doesn’t like it. I can see this as probably being a good thing and gauging I’m on the right track.

Not seeing the problem here either.

But any good advice to AM my way through this?

Smirk and STFU.

Or AA it, say something over the top, or the worst thing she could imagine.

[–]Fritz_Frauenraub1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You have to laugh at the audacity of her framing. "Shady" implies both "morally suspect" and "furtive". It implies that you're doing bad stuff but without any kind of bad boy glamour. It's a perfectly contemptuous term.

It doesn't really matter what you say...the delivery is everything. The typical AA, served up with a butthurt smirk, is in itself shady af.

Instead of acting like she's your mom and she's not the boss of you, just do what you like when and why you like it and then answer her questions straightforwardly and honestly.

Inner frame is the opposite of shady.

Once you have inner frame then you can AA like crazy... but at that point it doesn't even matter anymore.

[–]2ndalRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Who cares what she thinks?

[–]DanG31 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My response is blatantly and confidently, “You don’t need to know everything.” She doesn’t. In fact, their quest to be all knowing goes back to Eve ... we all know what happened with that - how Adam failed to lead - and the RP lesson we all should have learned.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

The fact that you GAF is a failure of the shit test in and of itself

[–]CalvinRichland0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Specific example?

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"I don't want to talk about it."

You don't need to be a jokester about everything.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tell her Stacy gets jealous when you share your guys' conversations with her.

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I get so sick of the bombardment of questions that I will try to avoid them completely either by Stfu. AA. AM.

This is common. Women control the sex, the conversation, the behaviors. They are constantly policing men. It is what they do.

Your response can be acceptance and amusement at her cute little hamster. Or it can be anger & defensiveness. Either way, verbal intercourse is optional. You have no duty to be interrogated by the wife.

What would happen if you told her that henceforth, all Depositions are limited to 30 minutes a day. Further questions may be submitted in writing?

she doesn’t like it. I can see this as probably being a good thing and gauging I’m on the right track.

I think this is a very poor gauge of progress. First YOU are the measure of progress, not the wife. Second, 'she doesn't like it' is a measure of progress? What?

She complained bitterly but less than 2 hours later she gave me a surprise BJ while we were watching TV and then told me how much she loves me.

That is a better measure of progress than "she doesn't like it" but still looking for external validation.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

“Why can’t you just tell me. Why are you being shady?”

The real truth....I'm living a lie... I think I'm a transgender lesbian living in a man's body. All I can think about is fucking pussy, it's like an obsession...

[–]freebase1ca0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I would respond with "Let's see how you like being bombarded with questions." Then proceed to bombard her with similar questions.

She may respond for a time, but ultimately she will just say "You're just being annoying" - "exactly".

You may have to do this more than once.

Also, keep in mind that people who don't trust, often have a reason for that. Whether it be past hurt or guilt....

[–]justpickanyusernameRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

ultimately she will just say "You're just being annoying"

And then her pussy will dry up and shrivel so much and so tightly that you will see her keel over, wince, and say "ouch!". Being more annoying than her is not attractive. In fact, it's unattractive. Coming down to her level is not attractive. In fact, it's unattractive. Engaging with her from your own frame or not engaging at all shows you are above the annoying pestering talk. Think of a little kid tugging on your shirt to get your attention. You can either ignore or with a caring pat on the head tell the child to move along. You don't owe a child an explanation.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you lifted, you would laugh this shit off. My wife asks shit like this, I just laugh, then tell her to stop cracking jokes because my pecs hurt

Disarm and defuse



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