How to become OI

wildnight98 · 2018-06-22T05:34:10+00:00

Stop focusing on sex as your only priority. I think for me it went something like this.

Make a list of everything you would do if you were single, and you don't do right now because you are afraid of your wife getting mad at you. E.g. go to see a movie that you want to see, by yourself, or with a friend or whatever. Or go to the gym after work instead of racing home because she is making dinner at a certain time. Or watch sports, work on a hobby in the garage, whatever.
When you get a sexual denial from your wife, think of the next best thing you would do if you didn't have to ask permission. Then be happy that you were denied and go do that thing instead.
Learn to keep telling yourself the following phrase: what is she going to do, divorce me?
When your wife gets mad that you are going to do whatever you want to do or accuses you of being butthurt, be happy, joke around with her, but go on and do that thing and let your wife get mad.
When she confronts you at some point, don't apologize, just say you are an adult and a man and you are going to do what you want to do when you want to do it.

Don't be a jerk; don't leave her hanging with chores, kids, whatever. But do what you want to do. When you realize that maybe you aren't getting to have sex, but you are getting to do the next best thing, and you stop being afraid of her getting mad at you, then you will start feeling OI.

Meantime, lift, sidebar.

youscum · 2018-06-21T15:55:34+00:00

How to improve OI:

long method- lift, sidebar, internalize, patience, repeat

short method- bang a hottie 10 years younger and suddenly realize your wife's vagina is one of many and not special or unique in any way

canooboy · 2018-06-21T18:47:00+00:00

My RP journey started with the MMSLP, and in it, one of the basic techniques Athol outlined was to have a plan B for when you are rejected.

Ideally it will be something you are looking forward to doing. Even better, it will be something manly you are looking forward to doing.

When you receive the rejection, you smile, say "no problem babe", kiss her on the forehead like she's your little sister, and proceed to do your manly thing.

A second technique he advocates is putting on a puzzled look, kind of like 'well that's weird... why wouldn't you want to' and then going on about your business.

These are more difficult to action at night and even harder at night in bed, of course, but you can still do the "OK, no problem babe", forehead kiss and 1) rollover for a good nights sleep like you're looking forward to it, 2) read/compute for a while or 3) actually get up. She will most definitely ask where you are going, if you action #3, so have a good answer. I have even used "I'm a little too horny to go to sleep right now, so I'm just going to do a little XYZ", again with the forehead kiss and a relaxed, "see you in a bit babe".

I have also found that timing is important when leaving the vicinity. Don't be all in a hurry, because that will come off as butthurt. Calm, Alpha, 'just moving on to the next good thing you're doing', is what you are trying for.

And as always, 'fake it till you make it'.

rocknrollchuck · 2018-06-21T17:03:18+00:00

johneyapocalypse · 2018-06-21T17:20:38+00:00

This worked for me:

Refuse to succumb to a devastating illness for years, "like a champ" I'm told, though internally another story, until that illness turned into a death sentence where my lifespan could likely be counted in months instead of the five or so decades I had intended.

Then go through hell on earth - something so bad and awful and painful I could not have previously envisioned it could be so miserable - and somehow - seemingly - possibly - in 8-9 months I can say "perhaps likely" - beat that thing - at least part of it - and realize there's a lot fucking more to life than a woman's vagina.

But before realizing that, first try negotiating for more sex, because that should work, right? Even though I looked for a while like I'd just left treblinka, but much worse?

Then, start to recover, come to my senses and lift like a mother-fucker to become a machine. Then lift some more. Then keep fucking lifting until I could see abs, obliques, intercostals, veins, striations, and other glorious parts of my body I hadn't previously realized existed.

Then get my adrenaline going as much as humanly possible. Then do crazy things, all kinds of things.

Then go places, anywhere, anytime I fucking feel like it.

Then fucking live like there's no tomorrow, because who knows, maybe there's not.

That worked for me.

Edit: A couple important edits.

robertwservice1974 · 2018-06-21T19:14:57+00:00

Stop focusing on it.

The more you think about OI, the harder it will be to get it. I focused on other things (lift, sidebar, mission, etc.) and OI just happened.

JoATMoN9 · 2018-06-21T17:56:02+00:00

Read the sidebar books

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-06-21T16:58:07+00:00

It’s an internal thing faggot. Stop thinking in terms of a specific line to say.

It stems from not needing validation from anyone or anything other than from yourself. Your own internal validation, internal locus of control. You are the only one who can judge you.

Let go of the outcome, focus on the process. If you feelz attached to the outcome, it means you’re trying to take something... what are you trying to take?

Get to work faggot.

ac3jc · 2018-06-21T15:59:30+00:00

Sex only 1-2 times a week????!!! I haven’t had sex in 2 years

maitre-pingouin · 2018-06-21T16:36:15+00:00

OI comes from abundance. You depend on her to have sex. That's the problem.

When you reach the point where you don't need her to get sex, because you can get from someone else with low effort, then your reach OI.

Title	How to become OI
Author	dumbell81
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Date	June 21, 2018 3:46 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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