How to become OI

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June 21, 2018
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Newby here from Holland. Excuse the spelling ;-)

Let me start by introducing my self. 36 years old, married for 6 years and together for 10 years. 2 kids.

Working out for 20 years. Very fit. Clothes etc is okay. I do the finances, make the important decisions. Take charge of family holidays etc. Mostly have a leading role in our marriage.

My wife is also 36. Strong woman, she comes from a very household with a very dominant father.

Sex is only 1-2 per week. She does like it, Always has a orgasm. But she initiates rarely and rejects me about 50/50.

My weak points are definitly frame and OI. When she rejects me silent or passive aggresive or shut down. i know i should not do it but i happends almost automatic. When she shit test my i have to watch out i dont get angry and lose frame.

Sex has become a issue now. Especially because I'm always butthurt when she rejects me.

I'm not sure anymore the initating sex part.

I know my marriage and my sex life would be better. When i read the forum it seems so easy sometimes.

I wunder how you guys became OI, what works and what does not work. For me, STFU when being rejected does not work. My wife sees it as being butthurt. For me it is really one of my biggest flaws next to holding frame. Pretty much the basics.

I hope to recieve some good pointers!

Thx


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Title How to become OI
Author dumbell81
Upvotes 6
Comments 40
Date 21 June 2018 03:46 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204311
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/8ssxni/how_to_become_oi/
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[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (5 children) | Copy

How to improve OI:

long method- lift, sidebar, internalize, patience, repeat

short method- bang a hottie 10 years younger and suddenly realize your wife's vagina is one of many and not special or unique in any way

[–]dumbell81[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

I have to become abundance to here I some way. I depend to much on what she thinks. What worked for you ?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Abundance is an outcome, not a strategy. You either have it or you don’t. So what works? Being attractive and seeing yourself as the prize. You need both of those pieces; one is external and the other internal. Because if you can’t go out and fuck a hottie 10 years younger tomorrow, or you just aren’t willing to go there ever, you don’t have it. Period.

[–]dumbell81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks a lot! I’m still to much thinking about the outcome of sex and getting stuck when I am rejected. I need to find a good strategy for something better to do when that happens ! Start thinking more about what matters to me !

[–]simbarlionRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No one has mentioned to give less fucks. It's the other side of the coin from abundance

[–]canooboy2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

My RP journey started with the MMSLP, and in it, one of the basic techniques Athol outlined was to have a plan B for when you are rejected.

Ideally it will be something you are looking forward to doing. Even better, it will be something manly you are looking forward to doing.

When you receive the rejection, you smile, say "no problem babe", kiss her on the forehead like she's your little sister, and proceed to do your manly thing.

A second technique he advocates is putting on a puzzled look, kind of like 'well that's weird... why wouldn't you want to' and then going on about your business.

These are more difficult to action at night and even harder at night in bed, of course, but you can still do the "OK, no problem babe", forehead kiss and 1) rollover for a good nights sleep like you're looking forward to it, 2) read/compute for a while or 3) actually get up. She will most definitely ask where you are going, if you action #3, so have a good answer. I have even used "I'm a little too horny to go to sleep right now, so I'm just going to do a little XYZ", again with the forehead kiss and a relaxed, "see you in a bit babe".

I have also found that timing is important when leaving the vicinity. Don't be all in a hurry, because that will come off as butthurt. Calm, Alpha, 'just moving on to the next good thing you're doing', is what you are trying for.

And as always, 'fake it till you make it'.

[–]dumbell81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks ! i find it hard to focus my attention to something else in the beadroom at night. If i get up then she sees it as butthurt and when i turn around i start thinking.. any tips on that ?

[–]johneyapocalypse1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

This worked for me:

Refuse to succumb to a devastating illness for years, "like a champ" I'm told, though internally another story, until that illness turned into a death sentence where my lifespan could likely be counted in months instead of the five or so decades I had intended.

Then go through hell on earth - something so bad and awful and painful I could not have previously envisioned it could be so miserable - and somehow - seemingly - possibly - in 8-9 months I can say "perhaps likely" - beat that thing - at least part of it - and realize there's a lot fucking more to life than a woman's vagina.

But before realizing that, first try negotiating for more sex, because that should work, right? Even though I looked for a while like I'd just left treblinka, but much worse?

Then, start to recover, come to my senses and lift like a mother-fucker to become a machine. Then lift some more. Then keep fucking lifting until I could see abs, obliques, intercostals, veins, striations, and other glorious parts of my body I hadn't previously realized existed.

Then get my adrenaline going as much as humanly possible. Then do crazy things, all kinds of things.

Then go places, anywhere, anytime I fucking feel like it.

Then fucking live like there's no tomorrow, because who knows, maybe there's not.

That worked for me.

Edit: A couple important edits.

[–]dumbell81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

thanks for the insite !

[–]robertwservice19741 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Stop focusing on it.

The more you think about OI, the harder it will be to get it. I focused on other things (lift, sidebar, mission, etc.) and OI just happened.

[–]dumbell81[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I guess that’s a good point. Just need to put the pressure of things. But do you keep initiating sex ? Because i don’t really feel like that right now..

[–]robertwservice19740 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Only when I want to initiate. If you don’t feel it, don’t do it.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Read the sidebar books

[–]MrChad_ThundercockChief Autist in Charge0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

It’s an internal thing faggot. Stop thinking in terms of a specific line to say.

It stems from not needing validation from anyone or anything other than from yourself. Your own internal validation, internal locus of control. You are the only one who can judge you.

Let go of the outcome, focus on the process. If you feelz attached to the outcome, it means you’re trying to take something... what are you trying to take?

Get to work faggot.

[–]dumbell81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for the insight faggot ;-) ! Good response !

[–]ac3jc-4 points-3 points  (12 children) | Copy

Sex only 1-2 times a week????!!! I haven’t had sex in 2 years

[–]dumbell81[S] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Pfff that’s tough...! Divorce ?

[–]ac3jc0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Yes. We’re separated at the moment. I’ve been thinking about sharing my story. Maybe soon

[–]PersaeusRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

you know there is vagina running around everywhere right?

Maybe soon

this type of attitude is why it's been 2 years

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

That’s a joke, right?

You’ve been on Reddit for 6 years.

You’re probably a fat chef.

You stumble into the greatest sexual strategy sub in all of the Reddit nation and all you have to say is, “I haven’t been laid in 2 years!!!”?

I guess you’ll start, when you’re ready.

[–]johneyapocalypse1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re probably a fat chef.

Best sentence I've ever read on MRP.

[–]ac3jc0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Actually I’m not. I’m 39 5’9” 158lb pretty fit. I lift about 3 times a week. I don’t know my max lifts. My 6 pack is not totally visible yet but getting there.

[–]hack3ge0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

At 5’9” 158 u should be shredded - I’m the same height at 155 and am about 8% BF with full abs unflexed.

You are skinny fat - get back to lifting.

[–]ac3jc1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Im working on it! And seeing results. I’m close. I’m more skinny than fat now. I’ll send you a shirtless pic later 😉

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So it was just a statement of fact.

Not a problem for you to fix.

Most here are trying to fix it.

Glad you’re happy with your stats.

Thanks for stopping by.

[–]SepeanRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, so he should just settle for a fucking mediocre life.

And there are 40 year old virgins so why should you try to improve your shitty life?

[–]FoxShitNasty830 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Lucky bastard.. 4 for me

A good start ac3j is to post oys weekly instead of on the tittydrop sub

[–]simbarlionRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

WHAT?

4 years no sex! That's no way to live

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

OI comes from abundance. You depend on her to have sex. That's the problem.

When you reach the point where you don't need her to get sex, because you can get from someone else with low effort, then your reach OI.

[–]dumbell81[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Thx for the response. How did you reach that point ?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Failure.

Meet new women, embarass yourself, fail big, and survive. Next time you'll be better. It's like lifting. You know you progress when you fail to complete one set. You found your limit. Then push through it. Do it thoroughly and soon you're able to lift weights others can't.

It works for your job too : I took on a ridiculously hard challenge, worked my ass off, succeeded despite the odds after some major failures (which I learned a lot from), and now every main player in that game wants to hire me. I have choice, thus I do what I want.

If you want a guide : if you're a noob and fear to do something, start with 31 days to masculinity (check it on The Family Alpha). If you're not a noob, read "The rules of the game", by Neil Strauss, and do it (much more challenging).

In a nutshell : you'll never find the answer on reddit. Go out and get a life.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Time and years of practice and mistakes.



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