Newby here from Holland. Excuse the spelling ;-)
Let me start by introducing my self. 36 years old, married for 6 years and together for 10 years. 2 kids.
Working out for 20 years. Very fit. Clothes etc is okay. I do the finances, make the important decisions. Take charge of family holidays etc. Mostly have a leading role in our marriage.
My wife is also 36. Strong woman, she comes from a very household with a very dominant father.
Sex is only 1-2 per week. She does like it, Always has a orgasm. But she initiates rarely and rejects me about 50/50.
My weak points are definitly frame and OI. When she rejects me silent or passive aggresive or shut down. i know i should not do it but i happends almost automatic. When she shit test my i have to watch out i dont get angry and lose frame.
Sex has become a issue now. Especially because I'm always butthurt when she rejects me.
I'm not sure anymore the initating sex part.
I know my marriage and my sex life would be better. When i read the forum it seems so easy sometimes.
I wunder how you guys became OI, what works and what does not work. For me, STFU when being rejected does not work. My wife sees it as being butthurt. For me it is really one of my biggest flaws next to holding frame. Pretty much the basics.
I hope to recieve some good pointers!