BG: 5’11” 175 pounds 16% BF Navy method still skinny fat without abs showing but improving size and definition elsewhere. 5x5 plan Bench 190 OP 120 row 175 squat 200 deadlift 220 (hurt my back Monday and am going to have to deload now-shit)
Married 18 years 4 kids MRP 3 months dread level 3 learning and failing but getting better. Have read sidebar. Reading NMMNG again now.
On to question. Found NMMNG a year before finding MRP, tried it and fucked it up and went back to beta. Found MRP in October last year.
Just before finding MRP I was going back to NMMNG and mentioned the book to my wife (know in retrospect it was a fuckup but Glover recommended it in the book)
Anyway fastforward to this week, doing well, passing shit tests with AM and AA humor instead of anger for first time in a while. Held frame and refused to apologize for taking a stand with her on Sunday. sex has been more frequent and energetic.
Yesterday she called me at work to complain about the neighborhood car pool.(woman passive aggressive drama with neighbor lady) I offered a few solutions and once I realized she just wanted to talk feels I said: “I’m at work which means I am in problem solving mode. I need to take care of business now. So let me know when you have an idea what you want to do and I’ll help you execute”. Then ended the call.
She acted pissed for a few seconds and then moved in to sweet and apologized. Was nice and demure all evening.
She was out last night until late with her recently divorced friend down the street, they stayed at her friendshouse as far as I know as didn’t go out.
Kids were in bed and I took a muscle relaxer and went to bed on time to fix my hurt back.
No idea when she came home. Pill knocked me out.
First thing she asks me this morning is if I ever finished that book I mentioned, NMMNG? I just played STFU and was noncommittal even though I am rereading now.
I read it as an ebook and it isn’t anywhere she would see it and be reminded of it. Weird question out of left field.
Then she texts me this video.
Now despite the fact that she appears to finally be getting the fact that I am not mirroring her mood anymore I don’t want to fall into a trap... which now has me in her frame.
I have not responded yet and trying to figure the best way or just not engage and STFU.
Shit test? Comfort test? Nothing?
Thanks in advance.