Married 2 together 5 just had our first (13 weeks). I've been working on killing my nice guy and strengthening my frame but this persistent and nonstop shit test started about 2 weeks before Christmas and has picked up steam since.
So my job was going away without a doubt and I applied and got great offer for a job 1000 miles away but with the same employer. This was in May, she was about 3 months pregnant but the offer allowed her the chance to stay at home with some very very modest scarficies. She was all about it and encouraged me to jump on the offer and bragged to her family and coworkers how she would get to live the dream and be a kept woman.
We move, life happens, she starts complaining about being so far away from her mom after her and my families both failed to get their shit together enough to be there for the birth or even to visit.
I've tried logically explaining how it a not feasible to move back as there are no jobs in my field that pay enough and it's a dead area to raise a kid in, Appalachian coalfields. I've done all i can to save face, STFU/AM/AA but nothing has got her to drop it and accept it's not financially possible not to mention I have zero desire to ever come back.
She'd done nothing but shit talk the situation to her mom/aunts/female cousins. I've just gone broken record and told her it's not happening and it's not good for our son. Shes got one more time to threaten to leave before I get papers, I guess. I in no way can afford a divorce without it devastating my life, possibly leading me job impacts, plus putting my son in a shitty situation.
Im doing my best to lead and be the captain but seems she is trying to burn the boat for attention from her family in the form of pity. She seems hell bent in painting me as the bad guy holding her away from everyone.
Im out of ideas on how to handle this.