Question on hard no's

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2017-09-21T17:14:50+00:00

Do you want to bench 225? Of course you do. All the time. So you go and try to bench it, but the weight gives you a hard no. You know why of course, you aren't there yet. You need to build yourself up more; your confidence, your strength, your form. The bar isn't passing judgement...it's just your barometer. You keep building yourself up regardless. When you can finally lift it, then you'll know you're there.

redsprinklersystem · 2017-09-21T19:31:26+00:00

First, you must realise from reading here that you're not in such a bad position. Many guys here try frequently but don't get their dick wet for literally months (even years!) on end. Your wife is initiating consistently but giving you hard no's when you try......

Sounds to me like a control thing. You get to fuck on her schedule / when she decides to or not at all. My instinct says you need to turn her down when she initiates, but its playing with fire so don't fuck it up. Work on your kino and game. Not like a needy lil bitch or a horny goat, just low level stuff. Give her ass a squeeze when you kiss her goodbye, or plant a good one on her when she's expecting a peck. Make approving noises when she's naked or in underwear. Basically let her know that you're frequently thinking of fucking her. Continue to initiate whenever you're actually horny.

Then comes the kicker. She initiates and you're all like "Sorry babe, killer gym session yesterday. I couldn't stand it." or better yet, if you can predict when she's going to start you should arrange to have some important shit to do.

See what happens next time you initiate on your terms.

cholomite · 2017-09-21T16:42:11+00:00

You need to stop feeling uncomfortable around your wife before anything else. Stop giving a fuck about her feelings or what she thinks of you. As long as you have her as a concern on your mind, it won't matter what you do because you'll be doing it within her frame.

My advice is to go home tonight and piss your wife off on purpose. Nothing too crazy or nuclear, but you have to be comfortable making her upset, and letting her stay upset. Be independent of her instead of trying to figure her out for sex like you're some kind of sad puppy.

Bencousinwater · 2017-09-21T18:32:47+00:00

There's a lot of work before you. This isn't a quick fix and you will discover many more hard truths about yourself.

You sound like you're not very fun. If you're uncomfortable around the person who knows you best, who are you comfortable around? Be fun. Don't give a fuck. Be goofy. Tease her. Joke with her. Scare her (playfully).

We know nothing about you...you say she's hotter, ok, by how much? Have you read MMSLP? The author posits that if the sexual ranks are different, inevitably one partner becomes unhappy and searches for better options. Is your wife doing that now?

Do you lift? Lifting will inspire confidence within yourself and thus lead to you being more comfortable and, ultimately, fuckable.

red-sfpplus · 2017-09-21T18:41:16+00:00

Sex once per week, she always initiates or makes it completely obvious for me to do so.

Either this is a lie, are you are in a very unique position. Most guys in the same situation are in a dead bedroom.

You need to stop focusing on the sex and get your confidence fixed. There is no reason to be uncomfortable around your wife. Take her off the pedestal. Hit the gym, STFU and work the basics.

JDRoedell · 2017-09-21T19:23:38+00:00

The sexual initiation dynamics of your marriage tell me that your wife is dictating the time, place and frequency of sex. Is she dictating everything else in your relationship? If so, fix that by leading and taking charge.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-09-26T16:57:55+00:00

I'm getting repeated hard no's. I'm talking 0 for last 12 or so

Another unhappy woman fights to the death to maintain control of her beta.

Staying positive and using seduction and Kino is not possible with 12 nights in a row of shrill harpy bullshit. I would try to initiate every other night, then every third night and so on. I thought Dread Level 3 was "get busy" so now is the time. Get busy doing things other than worrying about the sex denying, dominant male screechtard you call a "wife."

matrixtospartanatLV · 2017-09-21T17:14:29+00:00

You are one month in on a minimum 12 month course. You have an immediate problem and need an answer right now. You want to be a nurse, but you need a job right now, so can you get a job as a nurse since you just started the classes? No.

There are no quick fixes.

BUT, we might be able to give you a bandage big enough to stop the bleeding if you give us a bit more information.

Why is the marriage on the rocks? Is it all about the (lack of) sex?

Is divorce imminent? Why?

One month in?

Sidebar.

You're in a hurry, which means you'll be prone to skipping shit, going RAMBO, and making it worse.

If you don't have the time to do it (MRP) right, when are you going to have the time to do it over?

Do it right the first time, and you won't have to do it again.

I just read the painful/depressing post history of someone who was skipping shit, and doing the shit he did for all the wrong reasons.

9 months of time in MRP.

He could have been on his way to awesomeness, but he cherry picked shit and skipped shit until his life became shit and now she wants a separation.

DON'T BE THAT GUY.

This is a linear course, just like an education in anything else. Everything builds on the previous thing.

Read the 3 prerequisites, cherry pick the WIKI that interests you the most, but DEFINITELY put DREAD high on the list, and be sure to end up reading ALL the WIKI. Determine which drunk Captain you are, match that protocol to beginning dread and get to work.

There are no quick fixes, but based on what I've read today, you'd rather do it slow and steady and get it right for 4 months, than go fast and furious for 9 months, fuck it up, and have to do it over.

Welcome to MRP, where turning ships takes time, but the new directions and destinations are ALWAYS worth the time and effort.

Edit: Once a week sex is an intermediate goal for some around here. And she initiates or makes it obvious/easy? You left out what the emergency is..

Title	Question on hard no's
Author	Facinganewreality07
Upvotes	0
Comments	55
Date	September 21, 2017 4:36 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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