How to AMOG in a group setting?

[deleted] · 2017-01-09T05:49:46+00:00

Men like seeing other men.

If you arent treating him like a peer, then what you do doesnt matter.

Go shake his hand, say hi, learn about him. Maybe hang out if you have something in common.

Full disclosure, i didnt read 90% of your post. If its anything buy whiney, full of irrelevant details, and scarcity. Ill be damned

cholomite · 2017-01-08T17:37:20+00:00

All 4 of your options are wrong because they all put you in his frame, and on the defensive, and yes, mate guarding is beta.

If I were you I would become this guy's friend. Get comfortable enough with him that you can give him shit like he's a little brother. The bottom line is that you need to get over your insecurity about this guy. Talk to everyone, not just him, agree and amplify any shit tests he might give you and just don't give a fuck. Being scared and intimidated by a better man is literally the definition of beta. Don't be beta, go out and have fun with zero fear of this guy stealing your wife. Your only reaction to him and your wife would be to dump your wife if she acts inappropriately. What you define as inappropriate is up to you, but I like to define it as anything that would hurt my social standing in a group. If my girl is a little flirty with another guy, I'll be fine, and I'll tease her about it later. If she is sneaking off to talk to some guy in private and is getting touchy feely, she is making you look like a chump and it will hurt your SMV. That's kind of where I draw the line. Good luck dude.

Oh yea, also you have oneitis and no abundance mentality.

WhiteTrashKiller · 2017-01-08T19:47:57+00:00

You have no idea what you're doing!

This dude could be your best wingman, new best friend, but you have already pissed on your spot marking your territory, why?

If you read anything here, you would understand 1. You cannot control a woman's propensity to cheat, ever! 2. You shouldn't care if she does, cause #1.

Me, I would tease her. It shows your awareness that she finds his qualities attractive, I would then approach every girl in your social environment. If you do not have the SMV to do so you need to work on it. Don't be a creep, but throw so much shit at the wall that something has to stick. The key is, that you are too busy building you and your social circle to worry about if she is checking out another guy..

You have this idea that height means something. Yes initially, so to get a glimpse or her noticing you. But if he looks like he will choke you out in 10 seconds your 5" of height are well, negated. Stop sizing yourself up.

Take Cholomote's opinion make him your friend, he most likely will be an awesome guy! (Most military guys are). If you can build a quality relationship with him, I can guarantee a man that values his friendship, integrity and commitments in life has the intestinal fortitude to withstand your wandering wife's advances(if she moves forward). Mostly because why grab the low hanging fruit, if he is that good.

Loyalty means alot more to certain men than anything else. I have few friends and many acquaintences. The friends get the middle of the night car ride, one state over to pick them up @4am.....

Know that if he wanted to fuck your wife he could, so make yourself into a better you. Start eating and lifting, competition in a social circle is a good thing, just as is constructive criticism. You cannot see your flaws, take the actions and advice of others and build a better you!

It is better to be an equal hunting in a pack, than to wait for the scraps!

ParadoxThatDrivesUs · 2017-01-08T20:15:40+00:00

Something does not add up. Your wife is a 9/10. You say you could get a younger, hotter version tomorrow if you had to. But you're freaking out - not because another guy looked at your wife, but only because your wife said he looked at her.

My guess is that this guy has no idea who your wife is, but she's attracted to him and is fantasizing the whole thing. She mentioned it to you because she friend-zoned you a long time ago.

Griever114 · 2017-01-09T13:55:45+00:00

So I'm not surprised she's attracted, and I'm not too bothered, except for the fact that next weekend we're all going out (3-4 couples) for a night out drinking and dancing on the town. This will be the first time it's happened. Basically I want to go out, have a great night and shut this guy down in terms of him trying to be the AMOG.

Haha, bullshit. You are classic mate guarding right now.

Frankly, I think you have a better shot of bedding him than your fucking wife right now since you spent more time talking about him than your journey (and by that extension, progress with your wife).

You seriously need to back the fuck off and go back to step one since you clearly missed a bunch of steps. Mate guarding is a very low quality male thing to do and you clearly lack abundance mentality.

Make this guy a friend and maybe you have a shot at getting your life in a better situation.

Seriously, get your shit together.

jimbosmith21 · 2017-01-08T19:23:27+00:00

Who says he will do anything bro? Has he tried in the past apart from looking at her?

You have a very active imagination. Worry = negative goal setting

screechhater · 2017-01-08T23:35:39+00:00

Listen up.

She is not a 9/10. Clean off the goggles.

He is not an enemy. Chill the Fuck out with your shit Mate guarding is highly unattractive

Read up on how to make friends and influence people You honestly need to befriend this guy

Lift and read side bar

Edit- You must read and understand enough from sidebar to develope a IDGAF attitude and emit that you truly don't give 10 Fucks.

An example if that - I was at my bosses wife's house and a lot of big rollers were there. I had a lot of them telling me their stories of getting to where they were at. Funny part was my wife came by to find me and she stated "oh herd you are, I heard you were holding court up here". There were a lot of good looking high rollers there. But instead of acting out of fear of her being attracted to one of them, I was playing the politician as Jack has advised. It is very powerful to make friends with your listening skills instead of fear

jimbosmith21 · 2017-01-09T04:06:52+00:00

Basically I want to go out, have a great night and shut this guy down in terms of him trying to be the AMOG.

It's great to have ambition and all of that, but this sounds like a recipe for disaster.

But this would potentially create awkwardness with my wife.

Because you're in her frame, but that's beside the point.

there's no way I can compete with this guy for muscles but I have him on height and intelligence. Socially I don't know as I've never seen him in this kind of setting before. Maybe I go and hog his attention all night.

You're coming across as super insecure here, so your wife is likely to be completely suffocated by it.

Problem with this is the conflicting advice I read on here about mate guarding, with some saying it's alpha and others saying it's desperately beta.

Can you point us to where you've read that it's an alpha behavior?

spend all evening flirting with his wife.

The problem with this option is that, from your description, this guy isn't a pussy and will likely punch you in your faggot mouth for doing such a thing.

I just generally want some tips on how to be the AMOG in this kind of setting, how to dominate this guy socially.

You probably can't.

What to say if someone starts comparing our muscles etc

Your insecurity is coming through in an overwhelming way here.

You're pretty much fucked here, and your insecurity is a big part of it. Whose idea was it for all of you to go out drinking? I bet it wasn't yours.

Deraileur · 2017-01-09T05:41:15+00:00

Motherfucker. If you come out all alpha on someone like me (I sound like your "nemesis"). I'd probably make it my mission to fuck your wife.

Just be a fucking guy, for fuck sake. Any "fronting" will come off as spergy and try hard. Which will push both your 9/10:3 kids:>30 wife (yeaaaahhhhh...), me,and everyone else at the gathering away from your posturing ass.

This is all about improving yourself...stop looking at the neighbors. Ever occur to you that wifey would have NO reason to look elsewhere if you were taking care of business at home?

Self improvement.

freshona · 2017-01-08T18:07:42+00:00

Hold his pants while he fucks your wife. Since you're tall, I'm sure you'll have a good vantage point to look in on the action.

DarkAges1 · 2017-01-08T16:46:50+00:00

Seems like a decent enough bloke despite the fact he's been making eyes at my woman (loads of men do)

By this do you mean he's just "looking at" her, or do you mean he's making sexy looks at her. Its a huge difference and they way you phrased it makes it sound like he's overtly flirting with her.

GongShanks · 2017-01-10T11:26:04+00:00

Go and befriend him. Guy sounds awesome. You could probably learn a ton from him.

bainbridge_island · 2017-01-10T15:40:44+00:00

This could be a lot of fun. You could use this fella to spice up your bedroom. Like when you and your wife are messing around, incorporate this guy into your verbal foreplay...like "it would be so hot to see AlphaChad doing down on you" and stuff like that.

Or start exploring a MMF with this guy. I think your wife (and you OP) would really enjoy it.

Rocky_Bukkake · 2017-01-10T18:32:47+00:00

dude it's your wife

Xoaimango · 2017-01-10T19:29:45+00:00

Maybe try trusting your wife and believing that not every dude wants to sleep with her.

Mecha75 · 2017-01-08T16:55:10+00:00

Mate guarding is very beta. I wouldnt worry about as his wife will be there too. Unless she is into MFF threesomes. IDGAF and maintain your frame all throughout the night. I would also look at the night out as an opportunity to work your RP social skills. Always always reframe every group convo to your frame. You host the party and dont let him. If your wife still wants you, she will give you a great fucking due to your social dominance. This will increase your SMV and if you can effectively shut him down all night then he will lose some of his. Gaming his wife in front of everyone would be icing on the cake (but only if you manage to host everyone in your frame).

470_2_700_nm · 2017-01-09T03:15:19+00:00

I seriously doubt your wife is a 9/10.

Past that just play the game playa.

VengefullyY0urs · 2017-01-09T16:36:47+00:00

I agree with the other posters saying what you want to do in that time period is impossible.

First off, whatever you do, you better do for you, not to mate guard. If you want to be the life of the party, do it because you want to, not as a mate guarding tactic.
This guy is your best friend. Your wife may or may not want him, or may or may not cheat. Thats up to her, not you, and you trying to fight it, or find it out is a waste of time.
Sigh... if you really want a quick tip, and I believe this is in the sidebar: Fake it til you make it. Utilize the power of "if". If you were the alpha male of the group what would you be doing? You would be telling anecdotes, laughing, flirting with other women, being playful, joking, cocky, and would respect other alphas rather than fear them.

Another way to look at it is it is your night out, and they are all along for the ride. This means you push the bars you want to go to, lead in venue changes, plan the cabs/ubers and lodging at the end of the night if need be. Get out of your wife's or anyone else's frame.

Title	How to AMOG in a group setting?
Author	jimbosmith21
Upvotes	1
Comments	75
Date	January 8, 2017 4:17 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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