girlfriend refuses to do give me blowjobs but she admitted she has done it for her ex.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-08-31T01:19:11+00:00

Since you are not married the solution is to find a girl who wants to give you blowjobs.

If you were married the solution would be to improve yourself to the point when you could get another girl who wants to give you blowjobs, give your wife some time to catch up, and then let the new girl go to work if the wife doesn't catch up.

LBEB80 · 2016-08-31T01:14:07+00:00

Just add "with you" to her rational/reasoning why she doesnt do it. Increase your SMV, or next.

2016-08-31T01:43:53+00:00

Yeah, you want a shortcut? Don't be lazy

chief_slap_ahoe · 2016-08-31T09:46:31+00:00

Find a new GF

Alpha_Rising · 2016-08-31T02:37:05+00:00

"You don't want to give me a blowjob honey? NEXT!"

onmyownpath · 2016-08-31T17:41:17+00:00

You want BJ's - she will not - next.

Unpluggedredmist · 2016-08-31T05:47:34+00:00

Just stick your cock in her mouth when you have her layed down playing with her pussy before you fuck her...ffs thought these are high school moves man. Dominate and lead. If she pars you off she is discusted by your beta self.

Skiffbug · 2016-08-31T06:55:49+00:00

What you should definitely not do is improve for the purpose of re-winning her.

That would be the exact opposite of what is advised on this sub.

2016-08-31T14:35:04+00:00

wait. she refused you something you think of as a requirement....

and you are still there after she tells you she has done it before... like more than once...

and you still think she is into you??

Improve myself to re-win her respect

hahaha

lol

p u s s y

druganswer · 2016-08-31T16:17:25+00:00

Don't try to rewin her respect. Just leave. Don't make it dramatic. She found her ex attractive and she doesn't find you attractive.

We think (some) girls magically don't like blowing guys... but it's all based on a spectrum of attraction.

http://i.imgur.com/EsOwgTg.jpg

Take that scale for example.. although it's a bad scale it works for this. Look at those girls and think about going down on them. Notice how some the idea repulses you and others you're on the fence and others you would be like hell yeah, lets do this.

Women work the same way. They have guys that going down on sounds disgusting. They have guys where okay if they're a little extra horny it sounds kind of hot. And they have guys that they would blow in the bathroom at work.

Which guy would you say you are to her? Have you ever been the guy that she would blow in public?

We know the answer to question one, but only you know the answer to question two.

If the answer to that second question is no, then you 100% should next her. Even if it's not, you probably should next her.

ex_addict_bro · 2016-08-31T16:41:34+00:00

Stop talking, start acting.

blarggggggggggg · 2016-08-31T17:09:21+00:00

You should probably get married as soon as possible. Once she feels a secure commitment you'll probably get a blowjob every night.

2016-08-31T18:58:04+00:00

I dub this post: blue baiting.

Yzerman_19 · 2016-08-31T22:25:15+00:00

How about just getting into foreplay. Pulling out your cock and putting it right by her face? Just sit and smile and see what happens?

Westernhagen · 2016-09-02T00:31:58+00:00

You know the second date rule for evaluating behavior? ("If she did this on the second date, would there be a third date?")

If she didn't give you a BJ on the second date, would there be a third date?

Your answer, apparently, was the wrong answer. =)

KyfhoMyoba · 2016-09-06T20:36:06+00:00

Improve yourself or leave her.

She's just not that into you.

Read "Saving the Best" on therationalmale.com

verily_rp · 2016-09-07T14:59:09+00:00

possibly leave (never date a girl who won't do sexual things for you she's done for an ex).

This is the option I'd go for. I would break it off and not tell her why. If she presses for answer, just say "You know exactly why" but never overtly state it.

She won't be able to use it as ammunition against you until she blows a crippling blow to her own ego first.

jigglydee · 2016-08-31T01:24:07+00:00

She either likes you a lot, or she is disgusted by you. She likes you: plays the nice girl, has her slut shields in full swing. Solution: bring the inner slut out of her. Start using sex talk, be more flirty, start ramping up the dirty talk, use fantasy amd get her to imagine her giving you a bj, be overt in your sexual needs.

She's disgusted by you: work on yourself. Lift, keep busy, start holding frame. You're not doing this to win her respect, you're doing this to be a better man, for yourself. The Natural effect to this is she'll be attracted to this better man.

Oh, and don't confront her about it either way.

J_Incognito · 2016-08-31T13:45:05+00:00

First, "improving yourself" is mandatory regardless. And you should do it for yourself, not to win anyone over.

The BJs are really symptomatic of the underlying issue. She feels no need to compete for you (likely because she's not attracted to you and/or has no concern about your commitment to the relationship). You want X - she knows you want X - she feels no need to please you by doing X.

What to do? Improve yourself, read up on dread (i.e., make her replaceable and you less replaceable).

anythinginc · 2016-08-31T15:07:43+00:00

We had a big argument, where she disrespected me (name calling, insults) and she just left the house without saying a word or saying where she's going.

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curious: would someone with genital chlamydia pass on the infection if they only perform oral sex?

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She IS searching him. People search their exes, who cares. Caught a glimpse of him in her search history before.

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She wanted to go to the park but I was busy. Then she goes "but you need to protect me from all the guys that will hit on me". Of course, I didn't mate guard and tell her that she's capable of doing that on her own and that I'm busy today (my time is valuable). She ups the ante by sending a pic of her in a bikini sunbathing at the park

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About me: I have a great career (doing a PhD in an applied field that pays 100k+), I squat 300lbs+, wrestler, not shredded but low body fat, very stylish wardrobe, average height.

If you had any abundance mentality you would not be putting up with this shit.

assured_destruction · 2016-08-31T03:49:27+00:00

yep start figuring the relationship is over and start looking for a new one. your girl should do things with you she's NEVER done with anyone else. and like it

Title	girlfriend refuses to do give me blowjobs but she admitted she has done it for her ex.
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Date	August 31, 2016 1:11 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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