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LTR and Video Games

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February 4, 2016

So I was wondering.. how would you guys handle this. my LTR has always been somewhat into video games , but it was tolerable , and not a huge distraction . Lately ( past year or so ) its really ramped up to becoming an all out problem.

So I feel like its just straight up Disrespectful and Lazy to play as much as she has been over the past year or so . Started with our former neighbors ( who she was friends with for a about 10 years before me) starting to play Black Ops online.. my GF started playing , but it wasn't extreme..maybe an hour to unwind here and there. over time it ramped up , to last weekend she put in a 10 hour day on the game.

Last weekend I had made plans with my Dad to head to the range and put some holes in paper . and I was gone for most of the day. I took our 2 year old with me for my mother to watch , told my GF that maybe it would be a good time for her to spend some time with her 2 children (10 and 12) ( yes I know redpill and single mothers.. etc..) anyway , off I go . get home around 8 hours later.. and no one has moved.. gaming still going strong.

Now I don't see any benefit to the game.. I think its just a waste of time. its gotten to the point where she will come home from work , sit down , and within an hour be on the game. I cant talk to her cause she's talking to the game. And im just then in charge of dinner/cleanup/children until they go to bed. Hell this week, I attended my GF's 12 year old's Parent-Teacher Conference, he's having a hard time in school. I think she should have gone , but when I got back , she didn't even want to stop playing long enough to listen to what the teachers had to say. Eventally I just had enough , put the toddler in bed and went to sleep myself.. she finally came in around 12:30.. looks like she finally got up and did the sink full of dishes that was there .

so yea ideas? thoughts ? the idea I keep having is just MAC filter the PS4 off my home wifi , and that will be the end of it.

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Title LTR and Video Games
Author Venge97RI
Upvotes 7
Comments 20
Date 04 February 2016 07:24 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy

the idea I keep having is just MAC filter the PS4 off my home wifi

Don't be a fucking pussy. Straight up tell her that this is unacceptable behavior for an adult. She can have her entertainment all she wants when she has earned it.

Putting games before her children, putting games before her health, putting games ahead of her responsibilities - FUCK THAT.

This bothered me much more than it should but I fucking hate neglectful parents. You need to lead your woman, maybe she doesn't know how to parent?

Someone needs to play the role of adult and lead this clan out of the shitstorm you are building.

[–]the_Zambony1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

While I agree with this 100%, I also agree that shutting down the wifi should be done in conjunction with the above kick in her rear end.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

In conjunction, sure if he chooses to, but not in the place of direct confrontation.

They should work together to reach the end goal, it doesn't have to be him vs her

[–]strategos_autokratorRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The key difference is to have it as a consequence of establishing what is acceptable. First, have the talk like a man. If she doesn't want to comply by herself, then, enforce this consequence. The action will tell her you meant business this way.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (13 children) | Copy

8 months.... 8 fucking months.

Let's sum up your time 'getting things back on track'

getting things on track

Basically reads like a guy who hasn't have his shit together in a decade. ok. first step? Stop being a step dad you reason it's because it's too hard, and hurts your relationship. then she teases how you aren't getting laid they bitch and moan when you take them out to events.

then, you bitch she doesn't pull her weight with HER two children

Now lets see what changes once you start with MRP

Things that make you go HMM

I've actually read all this, tried to find some kind of thread, but I'm at a loss here... You've almost had a year, it's amazing what one can do in a year. The only self improvement on your situation I've seen in all that bullshit is a half a sentance somewhere in there, where you admit browsing /r/marriedredpill.

What a waste. I'm pretty sure you space these just far enough that people don't feel the need to go through your MAP and bring it together, and I'm surprised no one has called you out sooner. thats on us.

She's a lazy, entitled, post wall single mom you wifed and childed up. She hooked you, and you went for it. she's lazy, rude and cunty to your parents, can't raise kids, has horrible choice in men (I'm guessing that the bio father noping the fuck out is a big clue there?) Finds any kind of activity to ignore you, or plays sick to keep you off of her.

And why wouldn't she? What do you bring to the table?

Can't keep your bills paid for 12 straight months. you guys aren't poor by any means, you're actually decently well off. Why the fuck are bills not getting paid? Why are cars getting impounded? What possible lessons have you learned and applied in the 10 years you've waited out bankruptcy? I'm not seeing it. where's the fucking money Lebowsky!?

Also, want to point out that you are posting all over the place. Generally, when people come here from relationships or deadbedrooms, they notice how that place isn't helping, and generally stick it here. You aren't, and still post your problems there. Not solutions, not what you've tried first, just your problems. And they are all about her. She's not this, she's not that... When you talk about your fuckups that you can't pass blame to her, you mute them until they are almost a footnote.

You aren't improving, you aren't even trying

You're a shit-tier man, with a shit-tier woman who actually has the upper hand on you. Fix your shit before those kids rob me in ten years.

  1. Since you've neglected the sidebar all this time, get the fuck on it, don't post another character here until you've finished it.

  2. one exception. Financially, get your shit together. Do whatever you have to do. PM me, or anyone here, and feel free to post even the most stupidly basic questions. Don't be proud here, you're playing the powerball and getting your car out of hock, while waiting out the bankrupcy timer. There's no illusion here, you're a financial retard.

  3. you are a pretty big guy, but 250 at 6.5 seems high to me, unless you look like the hulkster, in which case I guess you already lift. If you don't, consider that you weigh about as much as hulk hogan in the 80s, you're two inches off, and twenty pounds short.

  4. Don't even think about fixing that cunt. She's had nothing but time to see you as the example, and she's followed perfectly. Work on being a better examples before you start to fix her shit, your hands are full already.

  5. those 3 kids need someone to take care of them. step father or not, you signed up for it. start leading. I don't have one, so I'm not going to add anything here, but there's lots of dads here who are more than happy to give you a slap upside the head.

now fuck off until you can unfuck yourself

[–]mediamole1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Holy shit. This reminds me of the slap heard round the world.

[–]Griever1140 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Goddamn amazing.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy

dude. whoa.

You spent waay to much time there. Must have been angry.

Get a beer and chill. Or lift something heavier.

I am actually glad someone did this thorough of an analysis. Maybe we have a "shithead" flair that mods use for guys like this, so we don't bother responding.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

Meh, punched it out while waiting for breakfast on stove.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

How was breakfast ?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

Made Spanish omelette and pulled pork. Very easy when your power bills are paid.

Though the boys just sit around the house all day licking themselves, so my day is bad by comparison

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

my work wife made me lunch from home. I'm lazy like that.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Lol, I do breakfast, spouse does dinner

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

my spouse does dinner, sometimes I pack lunch , sometimes she packs lunch for me. most days girl across hall packs lunch for me

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

So what you're saying is you don't have her playing games all day ignoring you?

Must be magic

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

::: I got that magic stick:::

[–]midlifedick-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're baiting for a rage quit.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

You're the guy who was trying to rationalize dropping $100 on a slot machine, right?
Have you read any of the sidebar books? NMMNG, WISNIFG, MAP are mandatory.
She's not following your lead because you don't know how to set boundaries. Even worse, you haven't earned the right to set boundaries. It's fitting that /u/TrainingTheBrain has the top post in this thread because his blog has a theme, "Man up."

MAC filter the PS4 off my home wifi

That's passive aggressive bullshit. Read WISNIFG, practice the techniques.

sorry mommy's playing the game she cant help you now" when the 2 year old wants something

What the fuck is that? The 2 year old is your enforcer? Are you that much of a pussy? And have you considered what impact it has on a kid to be told that? You two are teaching your kid that mommy's games are more important. This isn't your kid's fault or your wife's - it's yours. That kid feels worthless now because of you. Internalize that.

GF says " I work 10 hour days"

If she can't handle her schedule, then you talk to her about the schedule. You're both hamstering that one away.

I attended my GF's 12 year old's Parent-Teacher Conference, he's having a hard time in school. I think she should have gone , but when I got back , she didn't even want to stop playing long enough to listen to what the teachers had to say.

That's because your codependent ass is enabling her shitty behavior.
Has there ever been a point in this relationship where you added value to each other's lives?

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

lol. you're starting to sound like me.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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