What has been the most difficult or challenging thing for you to accept or even understand since you found rpw?

hostwithmost · 2017-10-26T16:40:36+00:00

When I started implementing red pill concepts successfully, the hardest thing was to keep my mouth shut about it. You know how anything that produces really good results has strong supporters? Like someone with chronic fatigue and pain found gluten free diet rids them of every bad feeling in their bodies and can't stop trying to proselytize? Yup.. luckily I never said anything too specific but the instinct was there. I started seeing self destructive BP patterns everywhere and it was hard to think maybe I don't know everything there's to know about others' relationship. Maybe what works for me wouldn't work for them and maybe they aren't ready for the change. It was challenging to find a balance of planting seeds vs saying 'there's a group of super smart women online that have the answer to all your problems on the sidebar of this sub Reddit'

Another thing was I judged myself harshly for being outgoing and not always being a 'proper lady'. I have a big personality, I sometimes make cheeky comments, I have a sexy style and like discussing untested fringe ideas in my social circle. I didn't know immediately that I don't have to change myself to fit my faulty perceived RPW ideal. We aren't clones of each other and as long as our men are happy & attracted, my loud laughter (insert anything else I thought isn't rpw) doesn't make rpw tools less available to me.

Rivkariver · 2017-10-27T17:27:53+00:00

For some people RP is basically their religion. As a Christian, I think RP is trying to grasp our baser natures. We have these tendencies, but admitting it is supposed to be the first step, not the end. I believe in free will, will to choose faith and cooperate with grace to rise above lower natures. So when I see fatalistic ideas and cynical attitude about men and women, it's a bit hard, because I think the point of RP is to get better, not become all depressed. That's more on TRP.

The point is to fight the bad tendencies and yes it's hard but you still try.

I also don't accept that submissive and feminine is acting girly and wearing pastels. I honestly think that's a misconception, but a lot of people seem to believe that's what you do.

SylviaToday · 2017-10-27T14:21:08+00:00

I sometimes have issues with the idea of not complaining about our men. I tjink RPW really discourages women from talking about their relationship problems to their friends and families, am I right?

On the one hand I really hate the culture of man-bashing and man-blaming that exists. I think I'm super lucky to have my husband and it's great to find other women who feel the same way!

But on the other hand, I feel like sometimes, sharing our complaints can be useful because it reminds us that nobody is perfect, we all live with imperfection and that is okay! Whereas when we are all trying to seem perfect, it can make us feel like any flaw is a catastrophe.

Camille11325 · 2017-10-26T14:44:24+00:00

Obsessed with this question! The hardest thing for me to accept when I first started reading rp/manosphere/de blogs was "All Women Are Like That" specifically when it came to me exhibiting female solipsism. It was easy to see AWALT when looking at everyone else, and it was clear when someone I knew or was talking to online was being solipsistic and self centred. But for me to see how my own biases and assumptions limited my perception of the world and ability to operate in it...that took some time! Obviously I knew that there were things that I didn't know, and that there were even more that I didn't even know that I didn't know. But "female solipsism" is basically something you'll have a hard time being aware of on your own, having someone else point it out is the fastest way to address it imo.

I'm not sure if it's possible to be 100% free of female solipsism, but that's not a goal of mine. I like my bubble haha I just am glad that I am aware of that blindspot, it's something we all have to work on all the time I suppose. I literally said the other day "I know that objectively everything in this list applies to me, but I don't feel like it's true so I don't think it's right". And then M gave me a look and I died of embarrassment lol!

littleeggwyf · 2017-10-26T15:21:45+00:00

Good question!

I think I found the idea of hypergamy the hardest to accept. In my head I really struggled to accept the idea that I could be tempted to branch swing. It's silly really, because I had no problem accepting that my husband could be tempted by other women but I trust him to resist that, but I sort of wanted to pretend that I would never even think that way.

MxUnicorn · 2017-10-28T03:56:51+00:00

I'm new here, and honestly? The idea that an RP-style relationship could be beneficial. That there are women who actually love it, since a lot of the RP stuff I see around Reddit is abusive.

phantasmagnolia · 2017-10-26T23:38:53+00:00

Fun question! I had a number of qualities that used to be cited a lot as unfortunate for women. Divorced parents, not religious, mental illness. I know they were just markers not destiny, but it did feel bad because they can influence me negatively.

StingrayVC · 2017-10-26T18:35:34+00:00

For me it was understanding that we live in an female centric world. It took me ages to see this, then when I broke through that wall, I could see it EVERYWHERE.

Title	What has been the most difficult or challenging thing for you to accept or even understand since you found rpw?
Author	Zombies_InTheSnow
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Date	October 26, 2017 1:53 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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