Shit test

FixYourselfFirst · 2019-04-17T21:28:17+00:00

First date from Tinder? You handled the question right.

boredathome19 · 2019-04-17T22:11:02+00:00

Great answer. Try to escalate though, you'll probably end up fucking. If she actually resists too much, don't be butthurt about it. You will most likely fuck her one date later.

thewobblywelder · 2019-04-18T01:14:22+00:00

When they straight up TELL YOU they ain’t fuckin.? They fuckin. On site almost in most cases. Shit test. Make out with her within the first 2 hours you hang out. She’ll suck that dick. Guaranteed! They all say the exact opposite of what they’re thinking. Especially when it comes to fucking. Pay attention to that brother.

nexther · 2019-04-17T21:57:07+00:00

You responded well

fender1878 · 2019-04-18T01:19:19+00:00

I’ve heard a ridiculous number of girls give me the “I don’t even kiss on a first date” line especially when we’re texting ahead of the first date.

Probably a 75% close rate on the first date. I feel like they give that line for plausible deniability. I’ve met very few girls that actually stand by it. It’s just anti-slut defense.

IsNOTlam · 2019-04-17T21:34:26+00:00

Youll know.

Dont treat her like a means to sex.

Treat her like a person.

See what you have in common.

If she is into your confidence and conversation then youll get obvious queues from her.

If she looks at her phone a lot and you feel awkward then she probably feels awkward too.

You either have chemistry or you dont.

If she says her neck hurts for example then she possibly would be receptive to you asking if she wants a massage. Some people are stupid and some people are manipulative. If she is trying to manipulate you into a situation which she doesnt want to initiate because of a subconscious fear of being labeled, then she gives these queues with her choice of what to talk about and how she acts.

But some people genuinely arent rushing things and you wont engage that person by trying to force something that isnt being felt. Different people have different sexual appetites and triggers.

Confidence and calmness are your friends. Be very observant, dont get stuck in your head. Engage her in conversation and try to get her talking more if possible. You dont need to do all of the talking etc.

Everyone has different game and qualities. You have to work on what yours are. What works for me and how I am perceived is different from the next guy.

DigitalDog0001 · 2019-04-17T22:20:57+00:00

Try, "don't worry, if I thought you were easy I would have passed on you right away". Then if/when you get her she'll at least think she's respectable even if she was easy. If she's a talker...that kind of approach could pave the way with other girls she knows.

TRP8myfeels · 2019-04-17T21:31:13+00:00

Yes.

asorals · 2019-04-17T21:32:26+00:00

top answer

walawalawa · 2019-04-17T23:29:30+00:00

You handled it well. But here's a better way that I use effectively:

Her: I'm not someone you just fuck..

Me: Whoa! Behave! Who said anything about fucking? You'll have to wine and dine me first

Her: blah blah blah

You: I'm the one who should be scared. I'll be keeping my eye on you...

dtyler86 · 2019-04-18T00:26:13+00:00

This could be a shit test from a shitty girl or since none of us have any idea what she’s like, maybe she really is a girl you do not just fuck and this is your unicorn that you wife up. Most likely the former and well played sir

BajaGhia · 2019-04-18T02:13:48+00:00

I like to talk in terms of food. Partially because I'm a cook, partially because it something everyone understands.

Build a stew.

She says " hey I'm not just someone you fuck" You say, " I'm just preheating the oven, you're mixing the ingredients."

Look, take it easy. You're in control, but she wants you to drive like she wants. So slow simmer that shit till she can't help herself. That means a bit of attending to the fire and making sure that heat is being applied in all the right places and a good stir happens. Mix sexuality and other stuff in alternating doses to heat it evenly throughout.

kaolin224 · 2019-04-18T00:52:33+00:00

"I'm not someone you just fuck."

Actually, that's not her call.

What you decide to do afterwards is your business. If the sex is mediocre and you ghost her, that's totally on you.

However, now she has your phone number and knows where you live, so that kind of sounds like a threat...

mushroom_overlord · 2019-04-18T00:48:24+00:00

That's fine. I prefer to give them a "woah there" rather than a "calm down" though, because the latter just straight up offends some people (not that you should never say it, just that it gets the opposite reaction from what you are literally asking for).

Of course, you have the right idea calling out that shittest with agree and amplify, and regardless of the wording that should get the right idea across.

jsperezgsp · 2019-04-18T07:17:42+00:00

Seems LMR/ASD

bluefingerblue · 2019-04-18T09:40:36+00:00

Good answer except for the winky emoji. Unnecessary. And also gay.

SocietalEngineering · 2019-04-18T12:09:51+00:00

“I’m not someone you just fuck” means she wants to have sex with you, but she is trying to bargain for more by making you feel bad about just getting the notch.

throwawaybpdnpd · 2019-04-18T00:24:02+00:00

Nobody’s perfect, you did you my man... keep it up !

swampbastard69 · 2019-04-18T12:29:08+00:00

sometimes girls just have rules that "i wont fuck until date 3" or whatever. Yes she has fucked guys on the first night before but she could be in a place where she is making every guy wait regardless of how 'alpha' they are. If you dont fuck her by the third date freeze her out.

Title	Shit test
Author	Throwaway5hfy88k99
Upvotes	98
Comments	45
Date	April 17, 2019 9:21 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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