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What's next?

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April 25, 2019
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I made another post but the mod said I needed to post the full story of my life before getting anything approved.

I've been RP aware for 5 months but I'd say I was trending the RP direction for the last 5 years. I'm 35 and my wife is 36 and we've been married 6 years. I have a daughter from an ex-girlfriend and she has two daughters from a crazy ex-husband.

When we met she had a good job but was poor because single mothers always are. I had a successful business and a decent amount of money. After a year or so we moved in together and then 6 months later I bought a house. Six months after that we got married.

When I bought the house she quit her job because it was too stressful and she wanted to work on planning the wedding. After we got married she worked for my company although that wasn't always the best situation. Over the past year or so I encouraged her to find a new job because the work dynamic wasn't working out that well.

Over the years I've heard all of the standard stuff including ILYBINILWY.

She bitches a lot about stuff and likes to shit test and demean.

The sex used to be great but has slowly dried up. Every now and then we'll go through a hot spell but overall I'm not satisfied with our sex life.

Contributing to her low desire is the fact that she gained a lot of weight. She's 5' 2" and 165-170lbs. When I met her she was a little chubby but went on a diet and did some exercise and got down to 130 lbs. She looked amazing then.

Just trying to figure out where to go next.


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Title What's next?
Author themerovingian01
Upvotes 8
Comments 41
Date 25 April 2019 11:37 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/236505
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/bhfitb/whats_next/
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[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando29 points30 points  (5 children) | Copy

I made another post but the mod said I needed to post the full story of my life before getting anything approved

You haven't posted your full life story - just a snapshot of it. However, I've been here long enough and seen enough of these stories to be able to fill in most of the blanks and it's not pretty...

I've been RP aware for 5 months but I'd say I was trending the RP direction for the last 5 years.

Practically everyone who comes here first claims something along these lines.. "I'm red pill aware / I have alpha traits / I used to be alpha"... etc. Forget it. You're Beta. If you weren't, you wouldn't be here. Get that into your skull right now... you are Beta to the core.

How do I know that? Well, here's the evidence..

she has two daughters from a crazy ex-husband.

You hooked up with an alpha widow with kids. You vetted poorly.

When we met she had a good job but was poor because single mothers always are. I had a successful business and a decent amount of money.

An alpha widow who was looking for a Beta Bucks who doesn't mind being cucked. You vetted very poorly. Lemme guess... the sex was great at the beginning, so you decided to marry her, didn't you?

After a year or so we moved in together and then 6 months later I bought a house. Six months after that we got married.

Bang! Captain Save A Hoe to the Rescue. You signed over half your assets to an alpha widow who was looking for a Beta Bucks. So what did she do? Did she keep up her side of the bargain?

When I bought the house she quit her job because it was too stressful and she wanted to work on planning the wedding.

Did she fuck. Legal contract signed. Time for her to put the feet up and let Captain Save A Hoe be the plough horse for her and her kid.

Over the years I've heard all of the standard stuff including ILYBINILWY.

After a while, she realised that Beta Bucks wasn't doing it for her. Yes, you were providing for her and your cucks, but what's missing? The lifeblood that females cannot live without - feelz and tingles. So what did she do? What does ILYBINILWY actually mean?

Well, it means there's another man on the scene. Every single time. Women NEVER say this unless they have a branch ready to swing to. Someone who gives her the feelz and tingles she craves. Did she fuck him? Probably. Is she still fucking him? No idea. But she waved the biggest red flag you could get right in your face and what did you do, Mr. Red Pill Aware Man? Did you use your Red Pill awareness to your advantage?

She bitches a lot about stuff and likes to shit test and demean.

Did you fuck. You can't even handle a basic shit test, Billy Beta boy.

The sex used to be great but has slowly dried up. Every now and then we'll go through a hot spell but overall I'm not satisfied with our sex life.

So, as time went on, she became less and less attracted to you. She wasn't really attracted to you in the first place of course, but being red pill aware, you probably knew this. However, she's not stupid. Occasionally, when she's ovulating, she'll get horny enough to let you throw a lazy fuck into her just about often enough to keep her around and keep the money coming in.

Contributing to her low desire is the fact that she gained a lot of weight.

She doesn't have a low libido. She just doesn't want to fuck you because you don't turn her on.

When I met her she was a little chubby but went on a diet and did some exercise and got down to 130 lbs. She looked amazing then.

Yep. When she met you, she was on her best behaviour. She had a job, she took care of herself, she fucked you. She had to - she was an alpha widow with a kid, looking for a Beta Bucks provider. She HAD to be on her best behaviour. And you fell right into the trap. Once you signed the contract, she dropped the pretence and became fat, lazy and stopped fucking you. You accepted that and guess what? She has zero incentive to work, to not be fat or to fuck you.

Just trying to figure out where to go next.

You're married to a fat, lazy woman who has two kids that you are paying for. My guess - and correct me if I'm wrong (but I doubt I am) - you are either fat or fat skinny (either way, you are a weak fucker), you do not lead yourself or "your" family, you are lacking any real goals or mission in your life, you have poor social skills, you don't have any other options in the sex department, and basically - apart from your Beta Bucks provisioning skills - you don't have a whole lot going for you.

I'll also hazard a guess that you have some hidden problems you aren't telling us like porn addiction / gaming and are shit in bed.

So where to go next? There's only one way, dude..

OYS, Lift, STFU and sidebar.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I wish I could take you out for a steak dinner man!

[–]BarracudaRP8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

SBIII You are too good to these noobs, you know that? Fuck these guys, I learn something new from reading your replies even if they don't. Insightful stuff as always man.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Damn, even without thread history SBIII brings it raw dog

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s alwaus the same BS. That’s why he nails it

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Brutal..but necessary.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret8 points9 points  (4 children) | Copy

all of the standard stuff including ILYBINILWY.

That's not standard stuff. That's game over stuff.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Is there any recovery?

[–]nastynickdrRed Beret5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

There may be. But do you really want to? Is she worth all the hassle? What does she brings to the table?

you dont have any kids with her do you?

you fucked up badly, by vetting poorly, marrying a wall-hitting alpha widow with 2 kids and being mr nice guy captain save-a-hoe.

What I would do if I were you:

- Get the best attorney you can and divorce her the right way (lots of posts about divorcing the right way here, use the search). Make sure you wont have to pay child support for kids who arent yours.

- Work on being a high quality man. This is a lifetime commitment, it takes WORK and TIME, and yes its hard. Focus on yourself and your kid. Get better professionally, socially, mentally, phisically. Lift like your life depends on it. Read the sidebar and stop being mr nice guy. Become a real man. Get your SMV as high as you can.

- Dont even consider comitting to another woman for a good 2 years or more. Spin plates, learn game, fuck up, get laid, fuck up some more, go outside, have fun. Dont let women get to know your kid, dont get to know their kids.

- If you decide you want to settle down again, find a woman who is WIFE material, that means no post-wall-party-sluts-single-moms-alpha-widows, and find one 5-10 years younger than you, not OLDER like you did. If you really become a high value man it wont be that hard to find one.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

No I do not have kids with her thank god.

She's been a real cunt to my daughter lately too. She makes her feel unwelcome in her own home. Her kids are starting to be little bitches like her too. They repeat a lot of the same shit their mom does.

I agree on younger. Another issue we have is she's an old soul...she'd rather hang out with 50 or 60 year olds than people our age. Her best friend is like 65.

Just in case I did talk with a lawyer and I'm taking some steps to protect my business and other assets.

[–]symbologythere0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This bitch is a cunt to your daughter and makes her feel unwelcome in the home you pay for? Fuck. This. Shit. I’m pretty new here (about the same as you). But this would not fly in my house and I KNOW I’m a faggot. This is a big red line she is crossing, defend this line like it’s 38th parallel or just divorce her ass. I let women walk all over me in the past but nobody fucks with my kids.

[–]FereallyRedHard Core Red6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

You wifed up a wall hitting single mom who needed resources.

Then when she got you the sex and work ethic went away and the fat came back.

I have a really bad sense that she has been using you this entire time. Unfortunately unbelievably common.

The only thing you can do is decide to stop being a beta bucks, look inside yourself and wonder why you got suckered, then turn yourself into the man you want to be. Just like every other man on the planet.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

Just trying to figure out where to go next.

The fuckin gym with a copy of the national male in your hand.

Quit bitching and start acting, that's page one chapter one around here so put some tape over your fat mouth and get started.

Welcome to the party, your story is cleche around here.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando10 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy

National Male.. is that a gay porn mag?

I'm gonna have to bail on the steak dinner invite.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Ha! I'm leaving that typo, I own that.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Freudian slip. ;)

[–]screechhaterRed Beret5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Married to a non working land whale.

Fuuuck. Nooooooo.

Give her the house and move on.

No fucking way

[–]themerovingian01[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I should add she does work full time now. I had to find her a job and make her apply for it.

[–]HerukaArisen4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

There is nothing, absolutely nothing in your story we haven't heard hundreds of times before. Yes, your wife has been using you. But she has not been doing this because she is bad or evil. She has done this because she is a woman. It is in her nature. In a way, this is what she needed to do in order to protect herself and her children. And you have let her use you because you thought it would benefit you.

Now you are "Just trying to figure out where to go next." Guess what? Exactly where everyone of us has gone. You are not the least bit special.

So, start lifting, STFU and read the sidebar, several times. Do not expect quick results. Then, start building a frame and get abundance by gaming other women. Ramp up your SMV by every possible way because, let's face it, it's not worth much. And then finally, accept that women are, by definition, not like men and it is not your job to try to change her. Kill your oneitis, start living your life the way you want and see if she is a woman you want to share it with.

Anything unclear?

[–]themerovingian01[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just a few more details here.

I don't game or watch porn frequently.

I'm 5' 10" and 165 lbs.

I've been lifting for 3 years and have been getting good results. So much so that my wife's cutest friend was like damn...you got muscles. She also joked about wanting to give me a BJ and my wife was seemingly cool about it but promptly befriended her...we haven't seen her since.

In our home life I lead, handle all the finances, and make all the important decisions. I bought a brand new truck and she didnt know about it until I drove it up the driveway.

She likes to be lead and submissive but also likes to buck the trend every now and then.

When we worked together she would sometimes say she doesnt like me being the boss at home and at work.

I'm confident there's no cheating and she's well aware that's a dealbreaker for me. Her shit would be in the front lawn and the locks would be changed.

I need to work on STFU and DARE. Up until recently I would always engage and DEER her shit tests and tantrums. Sometimes it's easy to fall back into that pattern.

I also need to work on not being needy in the sex dept. That's an issue we fight about a lot. I have a high sex drive so its hard sometimes.

What's interesting is she's said things like why dont you get a younger girlfriend to meet your needs? She says that but when other girls give me attention or vice versa she goes batshit crazy. A few months ago we were at a nightclub and this cute blonde was talking to me for awhile. There was laughing and a little flirting. Little did I know wife was across the dancefloor watching and steaming. After the girl left wife promptly walked over and slapped me across the face. We did fuck like mad later that night.

Then there was another issue. I follow a local model on social media and she posted some lingerie pics and I commented something like "super hot." Wife saw this and completely lost her shit. Like I've never seen before. She was screaming and crying and was basically acting like I fucked this chick.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando2 points3 points  (8 children) | Copy

Just a few more details here.

Excellent

I don't game or watch porn frequently.

So you DO play video games and watch porn. I knew it.

I'm 5' 10" and 165 lbs.

I've been lifting for 3 years and have been getting good results.

3 years lifting + 165 lbs = very average results. Very telling. Coasting it in the gym means you're coasting it in all areas of your life.

So much so that my wife's cutest friend was like damn...you got muscles. She also joked about wanting to give me a BJ and my wife was seemingly cool about it but promptly befriended her...we haven't seen her since.

She cock blocked you.

In our home life I lead, handle all the finances, and make all the important decisions.

Well seeing as she doesn't work, that's the least I'd expect.

I bought a brand new truck and she didnt know about it until I drove it up the driveway.

Good boy. What did Mammy say when you showed her your new toy?

She likes to be lead and submissive but also likes to buck the trend every now and then.

So you sometimes let her lead while you be submissive. Ouch.

When we worked together she would sometimes say she doesnt like me being the boss at home and at work.

Nobody likes to be bossed around by a Beta.

I'm confident there's no cheating

LMFAO. ILYBINILWY means cheating. It's 101 stuff, mate.

I also need to work on not being needy in the sex dept. That's an issue we fight about a lot. I have a high sex drive so its hard sometimes.

She has a high sex drive too. Probably higher than yours. Just not for you.

What's interesting is she's said things like why dont you get a younger girlfriend to meet your needs?

She wants you to kill the puppy.

She says that but when other girls give me attention or vice versa she goes batshit crazy.

But she doesn't want to see you killing the puppy in front of her.

A few months ago we were at a nightclub and this cute blonde was talking to me for awhile. There was laughing and a little flirting. Little did I know wife was across the dancefloor watching and steaming. After the girl left wife promptly walked over and slapped me across the face. We did fuck like mad later that night.

Proof that dread / pre-selection works.

Then there was another issue. I follow a local model on social media and she posted some lingerie pics and I commented something like "super hot." Wife saw this and completely lost her shit. Like I've never seen before. She was screaming and crying and was basically acting like I fucked this chick.

She wants you to kill the puppy but she doesn't want to see you killing the puppy on social media where other people will see it.

Fuck dude. You have a lot of work to do. You don't understand the basics because you've not even glanced at the sidebar, let alone read it. And you're a long, long way from internalising it.

No one here is going to do the work for you.

Stop being such a lazy cunt. Start reading, start lifting properly, stop DEERing, STFU and stop living your life as if you're floating around aimlessly on a dingy. Build yourself a ship, sail towards a destination.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

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Good advice.

I do not play video games, never did.

She does work now after I found her a FT job a month ago. Getting her to work FT was like pulling teeth. She'd say shit like "well if I have to get a full time job what do I need you for?"

She doesn't say anything when I buy toys or other things. It's my money.

Regarding lifting, I started @ 150 lbs.

I know there's a lot of work to do. I've been working down the sidebar for a few months.

I'm already getting a lot more female attention but I don't think I'm ready to spin other plates.

I've been working on DAREing and STFU and I don't think she quite understands what's going on yet.

The other day she threw out the "you talk to me like your employees" line.

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

"well if I have to get a full time job what do I need you for?"

Ha. What exactly does she need to tell you for you to admit the truth to yourself?

[–]WesternhagenWinner6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

“if I need to get a full time job why do I need you”

If she's fat, mouthy, unemployed/barely employed, mean to your kid, and not fucking you, what do you need her for? Punt the cunt!

[–]coinbaserep3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

What more does she have to say to make you realize she’s using you

She’s not in love with you Wants you to get a younger girlfriend to satisfy you (as long as she stays in the house) Literally says “if I need to get a full time job why do I need you”

You should have said “ because a single mom doesn’t have many options and can’t afford a house working at ihop making minimum wage”

Why are you with her ?

Fuck sakes man

[–]themerovingian01[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I've told her that and she knows it. She's not an idiot. But I guess I am!

[–]coinbaserep1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ask Yourself this

Why am I with her ?

Seriously we would like to know the reason

And it will help you get clarity on your mission

Here’s why I am with my wife together 18 years and built a great life together She brings valve to my life , She has no drama , She’s not a social media validation whore She’s an amazing mother, She has no orbiters She’s submissive and prefers I make all the decisions She works full time and contributes to the one and only family bank account She doesn’t waste money
I do what I want , go where I want , and never questions what I was doing She fucks like a pornstar (need to work the frequency of that level and intensity using dread and my map) She’s beautiful She had my 2 kids and at 38 weighs 118lbs @ 5’4 and keeps herself healthy She doesn’t smoke or do drugs She keeps my house clean and my socks and underwear drawer full of clean ones

The list goes on

Let’s here your list

Edit: fuck mobile formatting.

[–]converter-bot0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

165 lbs is 74.91 kg

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

How many more kilos does he need to be before he actually looks like he's lifting weights?

Bet you can't tell me that, can you, you little fuck bot?

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I've been RP aware for 5 months but I'd say I was trending the RP direction for the last 5 years.

I stopped really paying attention right here. I read your post, but it was all meaningless. I don't really give a fuck about your wife. It's all the same women want to be better, they want to be like him, for him and with him.

Still your statement that I quoted. It's meaningless and it's your lie to yourself. you really don't get it. you hope that if you do X, Y, Z that you will get what you want or that you will hopefully FINALLY get all the pieces together. In your beta brain you are thinking...

gosh darn it, I am doing all these things for a long while now, but she just won't fuck me. I KNOW! I will ask the sub. I have been around a while they can show the iching of it all.

Only there isn't one. It's daily work. It's a grind. It's realizing that you have a purpose in your life and you make that happen every damn day. All I am reading is some schlub that goes about his day with nothing really happening. Where is this going? What is your mission? What passion do you have that wakes you the fuck up at 3am ready to face fuck the day?

All I see is a corporate drone going about his business complaining about a woman that lives with him. replace her, try to fuck her, get a plate or two. Doesn't really matter because there is no fundamental change going on in your life. Play dress up all you want. Nothing note worthy but another dude trying to get his dick wet.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Definitely not a corporate drone. I should have specified that I'm the CEO of my own successful company I started 15 years ago. Being the CEO I can do whatever I want, whenever I want. Every day is something new and exciting. I just bought a building for our new headquarters. Every year we have significant revenue growth. I very much have a mission and passion for my business and my life.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

k

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy

She didn't get fat and lazy (causing her low sex desire). You just aren't the husband that makes her want to better herself.

My wife never got fat but she wasn't beach ready. After 9 months of my journey she was rapidly trying to catch up because she had a husband worth keeping up with.... Not a husband to let go with

[–]themerovingian01[S] 2 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy

Part of the problem is she's embracing the body positivity movement.

She also says things like I want a fat husband so I can be fat too and not be self-conscious.

What do I say to that?

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Part of the problem is she's embracing the body positivity movement

LOL. Diet, struggle with hunger and go to the gym OR have more twinkies and hang out with other people who like twinkies. Alas, most people will go for the second option.

[–]An_Actual_Politician4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Crabs in a bucket.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

She also says things like I want a fat husband so I can be fat too and not be self-conscious.

What do I say to that?

"I want a hot, young sex machine wife so I can have sex all day and be proud of who I spend my time with."

[–]themerovingian01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well played.

[–]donmcde2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

What do I say to that?

Nothing, you laugh at the fat fuck and use it as fuel in the gym. If you weren't apussy, you'd start working on your exit plan. You'll probably elect to stay as the plowhorse and fuck women on the side since she gave you 'permission'.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I don't believe in keeping someone around who isn't bringing anything to the table.

[–]donmcde1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The medium is the mssage. The words you're saying don't mean anything. Your actions do.



You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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