This is probably one of the most retarded things you'd have read. But here goes.
Current gf was my best friend. We eventually started dating each other and our social groups have merged. As said she was my best friend and that feeling of best friend is what is making this hard. She has lately ignored me and avoids contact with me - unless I approach and talk to her, she usually replies but keeps the convo short.
If this was some random girl or something I wouldn't care. But it's because she was my best friend before. And it is truly painful. I'm dumping her because this is bad for me. I'm dumping her because the relationship is dying. The boat is sinking and I want out.
But it feels too painful at the same time. She was my best friend and I felt like she truly cared for me. And now here I am.
I am planning to ghost her and just cut all contact all of a sudden. I am not sure why she is acting so cold to me now, I feel like having a word with her would bring some closure to both of us. But I must do what is right.
This is one-itis, this is terrible honestly. This is killing both a friend and a girlfriend - the friend component is what is hurting the most.
Thank you for reading!
Edit:- Thank you for all the helpful replies. When my holiday starts, I'm going to shoot her a text saying the relationship is dead and that as a result I think parting is the best. Then I'm ghosting her. I thought she was my friend, but she isn't. The light-switch effect is a fucking harsh phenomenon. Iron Law #7. For anyone doubting redpill, just look at what happened here. If you want anymore proof, experience it yourself. This has been a learning experience and I'm glad that everyday I'm waking up more and more. Again thank you!
Edit2:- This experience feels like an actual redpill. I haven't felt pain like this in a while, but jesus have I learnt more about women. I don't regret this, but I do at the same time. But the pain is temporary. Again, thanks you guys are an amazing community!
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