Why Cant I Keep Anyone?

MentORPHEUS · 2019-05-08T19:47:22+00:00

One of the better problems to have on AskTRP.

There's not enough information to go on here, and it'll be hard to calibrate advice if we don't know which culture you're working in.

Are women coming back for more sex, or ghosting completely after a bang or two?

Best_coder_NA · 2019-05-08T19:08:06+00:00

How old are you? At some ages (18-25) girls just don’t want to settle down

44361066 · 2019-05-08T20:12:53+00:00

If a girl doesn’t bond enough to you after sex and keeps things casual, then she’s not relationship material.

When she pushes for relationship though it’s your decision to take it or leave it. Never offer your commitment, make them earn it.

EdvardMunch · 2019-05-08T20:25:09+00:00

Same.

I think for me its been that im too self involved. But this is largely due to liking to discuss ideas and I don't like being too nice and invested because thats hurt me in the past. Tough balance.

It could be women don't want to be with a guy who is good with women and sex.

notdoreen · 2019-05-08T21:31:23+00:00

Trying to lock women into committed relationships will only repel them. Stop that bullshit and watch them start the "what are we?" game. Commitment is a feminine strategy. Sex with little investment is the male strategy. When you start using female strategies you come across as a woman. Women want men. You should read the Rational Male again.

FineCopy2 · 2019-05-08T19:25:04+00:00

HYPERGAMY

leftajar · 2019-05-08T20:47:22+00:00

A GF is just a plate who you keep seeing. Just keep banging her and occasionally do something more "couple-y" and she'll bring it up on her own.

mryoudontknowme368 · 2019-05-08T21:39:27+00:00

They probably don't think you are good bf material. You're too vain, or too stupid, or you ramble on annoyingly, or insert x.

Think of all the hot women you would sleep with but you wouldn't want a relationship with, or hell even want to be around for more than 10 minutes lol

If you can get ahold of any of your past hookups maybe just ask why they wheren't interested in a relationship. Their answers might be bullshit, but if any actually talk about your personality those are probably the truth.

innerspeaker88 · 2019-05-08T19:15:48+00:00

You don’t need an LTR to be happy + draining money out of your wallet (imagine how much money you spend in a relationship in 1 year), Save up that money to invest for a better future. Plate them, gain experience and have fun, you’re still young

DonJuan_69 · 2019-05-08T19:32:30+00:00

Same problem here bro. Do an introspection and find out how you really act around girls.

KingOfPomerania · 2019-05-08T23:59:00+00:00

How is this a problem?! LTRs are not good for men. If you're getting regular sex then embrace it and forget about relationships. Trust me, you'll be happier in your current setup than you ever will be in a LTR!

Casanova-Quinn · 2019-05-08T20:56:03+00:00

My guess is you're acting too much like a "player" around these girls. You have to give them at least a small amount of "nice boyfriend" behavior so they aren't worried you'll leave or cheat. But remember, you need to wait for her to ask for a relationship so she is the "chaser", not you.

imtheoneimmortal · 2019-05-08T22:45:30+00:00

Probably they got red flags you aren’t relationship material

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2019-05-08T23:51:54+00:00

Sounds like you've done a great job at being the 'alpha fucks'. Women see you as ONS material and not as a boyfriend. If you tweak your game and add a little comfort/beta mixed with the alpha you would probably do better with it

Nis_law · 2019-05-09T02:58:38+00:00

I'm curious, why do you want a relationship with all these women?

Auvergnat · 2019-05-09T05:48:42+00:00

Alpha fucks; beta bucks.

Women have a dual sexual strategy.

On one side they seek a man for the sexual excitement, the arousal. Instinctively, they crave the seed filled with the genes that arouse women.

On the other side, they seek a man for his providing capability and the wilingness to do it. Instinctively, they crave the security that a man will be at their side when they’re at their most fragile (pregnant, then with young child).

The two strategies are mostly mutually exclusive. The man who arouse all women who cross his path will not be very dependable.

In other words, you’re displaying too much alphahood. Girls seek you for sexual arousal but you do not show enough cues of being dependable, caring. You may be too good-looking for them to trust that you will stick with them on the long-term. The cocky assshole game you may be using that make them so wet also makes them think you will stray at the first occasion. You’re prime fucking material, which makes you terrible marriage material.

Additionally, girls nowadays provide themselves (with help from the govt) so their need for beta providing is somehow lessen. Why get stuck with a beta provider when you can provide yourself and that this will only prevent you from fucking the occasional alpha stallion?

To all my readers, if you still believe that « beta » means total loser, and « alpha » means total winner, you have not yet understood the sexual strategy of women. If you strive to be the ultimate alpha, you will most definitely struggle on the relationships side, as OP illustrated.

WiredT · 2019-05-08T19:36:22+00:00

“i get girls laid” automatically now suspicious by the way this was stated😂

BittyMitty · 2019-05-08T23:22:48+00:00

It also depends on the girls you are seeking.
Maybe you unconsciously go for girls that don't want a serious relation.

Noctis_Cloud · 2019-05-09T00:07:00+00:00

Think about the long term purpose of having a relationship. Does it provide security for your emotions? Is there a reason you want a LTR?

Secondly, you might be looking at yourself a bit too much. Maybe your not doing anything wrong, there’s a chance these women just don’t want to be in a relationship (and honestly you can’t blame them). If you are successfully fucking these girls you are obviously doing something right. I wouldn’t worry too much if that’s the case. When you find the right girl, you will click together like the Golden State Warriors. If it’s not happening, don’t put it all on yourself, Just keep going and let things happen. You don’t want to force a shitty relationship.

omega_dawg93 · 2019-05-09T03:23:22+00:00

OP... why are you worried about being in a relationship when the sex is coming at you regularly?

let her ask about relationships... you should be avoiding them, or at least ACTING like you don't want them.

if you're under 28, just stop. have some damn fun and enjoy your youth.

Sin-Silver · 2019-05-09T07:48:08+00:00

Sounds like your to dependent on the idea of a relationship, which is understandable. Just enjoy your time with them to the fullest, and don't push for a commitment. If things are going to escalate, then it should happen naturally.

Lambdal7 · 2019-05-09T11:09:44+00:00

Build a real connection, you don’t learn that on trp.

beachbbqlover · 2019-05-09T00:27:19+00:00

Do you talk like this? With short sentences. Only ever saying enough to get it done. Never more than that. Not very elaborate. Not intriguing. Not descriptive. No questions left unanswered.

You may be suffering from having the personality of a rock. Lacking the intrigue, personal skills, seductive nuance, and simply relying on being physically fit to overcome your shortcomings.

Men	Low SMV	High SMV
Low RMV	Orbiter, Incel	Chad, Alpha Fucks
High RMV	Beta Bucks	Monogamous handsome millionaire or Celebrity

Women	Low SMV	High SMV
Low RMV	Town Bike, true Femcel	Club THOT
High RMV	Faithful plain Jane	Faithful w/model looks

Title	Why Cant I Keep Anyone?
Author	innerspeaker88
Upvotes	64
Comments	78
Date	May 8, 2019 7:04 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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