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May 14, 2019
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Had this thing that became an argument, any suggestions on how to deal with this in the future would be appreciated.

GF is staying at mine, it's late and I finally come into the bedroom after doing some work and showering. I put on a shirt, get into bed. GF has been on the bed scrolling Instagram. Once I get into bed and get under the covers, GF starts undressing. She asks me to get her a sleeping t-shirt.

Now, when she asks me, I am comfortably under the covers. I would have to get out of the bed like an errand boy to get her shirt. I don't want to do that. My GF is standing by the bed, she knows where I have my shirts, she's gotten shirts before and nothing is stopping her from doing that again.

I say no, I'm tired, I tell her she's standing and is closer to my closet anyway. She keeps insisting that I get her the shirt. I recognize this as a shit test. At this point I'm fucking tired in general and tired of this shit. I slap her ass playfully and push her towards the closet. She resists and jumps into bed and gets under the covers and says "well now I'm in bed and I'm cold so you need to get me a shirt" etc etc. I keep telling her to go get it - I honestly had no clever comeback or wtv at that moment to direct the growing tension over this ordeal. We already had sex earlier and I really just wanted to sleep. I definitely did not detect any sexual undertone here despite her behind half naked, and I didn't want any sex and just wanted to pass out.

As this goes on, she goes from asking me with nicely to becoming more serious and asking me why I wouldn't just "do this little thing" for her. I laugh in her face, tell her how absurd this is since she's making this tiny thing into a big thing. She gets more upset. Finally, she went and got herself a shirt. She gives me the silent treatment (I wasn't trying to talk to her, but you can always feel the silent treatment) and I pass out without us making up.

Anyway, I'm not sure how I should've dealt with this. Any criticisms here are welcome.


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Title Get her a shirt
Author hellocs1
Upvotes 11
Comments 27
Date 14 May 2019 11:16 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/238342
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/bohks6/get_her_a_shirt/
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[–]Redpillbrigade1716 points17 points  (4 children) | Copy

The train has left the station probably months ago. When you first gave in to stupid little requests like that which are nothing more than silly attempts to slowly train you to be her beta errand boy.

The short term tactical solution to that is to completely ignore it. Act literally like she didn’t say it. Look through her like a psychopath, talk about something else, if you need to. You literally do not hear stupid things like that.

The longer term more strategic solution is to have a strong frame and to be so busy being you that deflecting these with true amused mastery comes very natural in the moment, or - and most importantly - she will stop herself before even saying it. She’ll know inside as her hamster would have told her: “he’s got more important things to do, I can’t possibly ask him that, if anything how can I serve him better to show my love etc.”

Good luck - and man the fuck up.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

“he’s got more important things to do, I can’t possibly ask him that, if anything how can I serve him better to show my love etc.”

This is what you want. She should feel stupid for asking you to do shit she can do on her own. Police officers are there to "Protect and Serve" but you don't see people rolling up to them and asking them to go inside and grab a latte for them at Starbucks. Being an errand piss boy isn't the same as leading even if there is a "service" component to the job.

Try to AA with something fun. I have been saying "Oh, your fetch boy would be so happy to go fetch something for you, what an honor." with a shit eating grin. She gets extra dominance at night for shit like that. After a few weeks of reminding her in a funny way that she thinks I am her piss boy, she stopped asking so much. Now an eyebrow raise is all that is required or sometimes "Your legs aren't broken, you can get it yourself."

[–]Redpillbrigade172 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Eyebrow raise = winner. Nonverbal communication direct to her hamster.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

My eyebrow game makes Emilia Clarke jealous. I can say so much shit with them.

[–]Redpillbrigade171 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Haha you had me google her as I had no idea who she was. Who needs to watch Game of Thrones when you can learn about it here at askMRP.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

I definitely did not detect any sexual undertone here despite her behind half naked

To resurrect an old technical definition of you at that point I think it's "a lunk".

If you pawed her and she started purring that's what it was about and go for round 2. If instead she hisses and jumps back...well then the kitty is closer to the shirt and a little more awake.

If she still comes back bitching and within arm's reach you repeat the process until the lmr goes away or she leaves you alone.

Other than that

  • Fake snore obvious and loudly.
  • IGNORE

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Your posts always make me laugh as I picture myself doing it. The fake snore is a classic go to. She gets all mad and usually tries to tickle me or wrestle, which ends up in fucking.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Visualize then grab them thighs...

[–]0io-Tsundere12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't overthink these things. Sounds like she was up for more sex, maybe, even though you didn't want it. You could say something like "I like you better when you sleep naked." Or you could just say something like "Top drawer on the left, I'm asleep." But you didn't really need to say anything.

Where you screwed up is getting into a conversation about it and telling her how absurd it is that she's making a tiny thing into a big thing. STFU would be a better option. STFU is almost always better than getting drawn in to any kind of pointless argument. Especially if you don't have anything playful or funny or clever to say.

Then she could be posting "I was in bed on Instagram and told my BF to get me a shirt but he fell asleep. Should I be mad at him?"

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sometimes a good old fashioned, "What the fuck is wrong with your legs?" does the trick.

Sometimes, "No thanks, you know where they are" also does the trick.

In the end, you felt bad because she was trying to get you to question your own actions. Once you get past the point you won't give a fuck when she's left standing there like an asshole because she's not smart enough to get her own shirt.

[–]redwall924 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

She gives me the silent treatment

Mission accomplished for the end of the evening. End of story. Nothing to see here. Move on. This isn't even a bump on the road.

At least that's what it seems like you wanted ... quiet, peaceful, sleep. But yet you came on here and posted like you wanted something more. What's missing here?

If you don't want to have a conversation about how you shouldn't be the king shirt-fetcher in your house, then STFU.

[–]JudgeDoom694 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This was a textbook Compliance Test, which is a low level shit test.

The correct response is "would you get me a glass of water while you're up getting yourself a shirt"?

Although she will act butthurt initially, it would be worse for her to lose respect for you and start seeing you as her errand boy.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Any unreasonable requests that my wife makes immediately get delegated to the dog.

Wife, to me: Get me a shirt

Me, to dog: Get her a shirt

[–]InChargeManRed Beret7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'll say it again, Auto-mod should see 1st post on askMRP and respond with:

STFU and sidebar

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

"I like your naked ass next to me".

"I understand you like to wear a shirt, I like your naked ass next to me"

"Yes, I know your ass is cold, but I like your naked ass next to me"

"I understand you want me to get it, but I like your naked ass next to me"

"I see you're upset, but I want my meat"

[–]BarracudaRP4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

"I see you're upset, but I want my meat"

+1

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

You DEERed like a prize motherfucker instead of giving her a good fucking and now you're wondering why she gave you the silent treatment?

[–]Captain_pants42 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t make an excuse as to why you won’t get her the shirt. Just sprawl out, close your eyes, and tell her that being a little cold while she sleeps is good for her

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I would have just ignored her and started sleeping

[–]thunderbeyond0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What could I do?

It's late. You want to sleep. You get some stupid test from your gf.

Broken record is your answer. Minimum effort, gets your point across. No emotion, just pure fact and assertion.

-Get me a shirt. -No I'm going to sleep. -C'mon get me a shirt. -No (and repeat as necessary)

EDIT: dont keep repeating as necessary. Get your point across that the answer is "no" and disengage. I dont mean that you should be keeping a stupid argument alive by continuing responding to her.

[–]donmcde0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Repeat after me class: That sounds like more of you problem than a me problem.

Honestly though, this isn't the first time this has happened. She learned to expect you to be the errand boy because that's what you've been doing for who knows how long.

Guys have this idea that they need to audition for a relationship and go above and beyond the call of duty. The rule is, if you can't see yourself doing it for the rest of your life, don't set the expectation that you will. Don't jump though hoops, that's what women do.

Set the expectation the first time things happen. I've left for events and left behind every girlfriend I've ever had because they're taking too long to get ready. I've only ever had to do it once. Once you've trained her correctly, you should be able to just stop, turn your head slowly and just stare at her with normal face.

[–]thatboyjeff0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why did you DEER?

“If you’re cold, go get your own fucking shirt.”

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Next post will be about how to deal with the dried out pussy

[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (3 children) | Copy

I'd give her my shirt.

Once I came on a tinder date I started seeing 'seriously' and she told me after I was in the bathroom pissing to get her a towel to clean herself up. I yelled into the room that it was in the closet right next to her, all she had to do was get up and get it. She kept on about it, I got in the shower, I kept laughing and telling her fuck no.

She's a school teacher, likes to boss 4th and 5th graders around. Acts like a kid A LOT so, I think to myself, enforcing this kind of behavior only leads to her expecting more. I constantly was expected to do things for her when she asked, though I hardly asked her to do anything 'for' me because the relationship is still new, and I consider the vast majority of that sort of thing co-dependent shit.

I tried to explain that to her, it was difficult for her to accept. We broke up, though it was difficult, the sex was amazing and though she was shitty at it, she did really 'love me.'

[–]SoggyTrainCucked by machines1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

So is giving a girl a towel to clean up the load you just blew inside her beta?

[–]redwall920 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I tried to explain that to her, it was difficult for her to accept.

Nope ... key is to use enough words to explain it to her how it's not.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No. It has a ton to do with how she asked. She wanted me to drop what I was doing to help her. If I knew on the front end she would want that, I could have tossed it to her on the way to the bathroom. That would have been the best but I didn't know. It was classic and constant that she would try to train me once I was busy on a specific path.

Just two dominant people pushing each other for control. She was desperate, she was getting old, getting fat. She was stubborn and broken.



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