Alright I'm (m37) new to this reddit thing and to this entire nmmng lifestyle. I say new to it as I am now getting an education as to the proper way to go about it. I have always considered myself as a strong masculine person however prior to reading some of the materials mentioned here I made some glaringly obvious mistakes. I take full responsibility for those and will continue to improve on them.
Pinned cut the shit questions Height/ weight/ BF% 6'0"/ 204/ 15% bf Lifts I dont max and have not for years as I would rather teardown and build than cause injury and miss a day. But currently on a cutting 4 day split with moderate cardio on off days. Dumbell shoulder press 55×40 dumbell bench 90×36 followed by dumbell rows 55×36 ,pull ups followed by dips 3×15 each, curls currently down to 35×40 from 45×40 due to elbow injury building back up slowly, deadlifts 225×40, Romanian deadlift 225×40, leg press 250 ×72, squats 185 × 20,18,15,12,10 stack,admitted leg days lifts that strain back are weak as fuck i have serious back issues that I nurse like a baby, leg extension 75×40 followed with leg curl 75×40. 20-30 minutes of rower on upper days 15 min hitt training on leg days. I switch back and forth between cuts and bulk every six months. Bulk weights are significantly higher with lower reps. Books Nmmng, 3%man, unfuck youurself, wisnifg,communication miracles. Testosterone levels have not been checked I did not think they were bad as I can still murder iron and recover nicely still eat and not put on the weight. But since this is suggested I will be making an appointment. Initations vs rejections I would say about 50/50 my game is more caveman in approach and need work admittedly Women I could call and chill this weekend One Last flirt beside wife Mollie Actively gamed on wife in last 15 days Poor show here maybe at best 5 times Makes me a good catch I am in fantastic shape, I can do anything in the mechanical or fabrication environments (fix anything), Usmc veteran, I portray security and confidence in my everyday life, cool head under stress, I'm a fantastic father of my two boys. If I did not have a wife and kids I would lift , shoot , go fish at the lake or go hunting same as I do now. Dread level is 1 and some planning as in 2 this is a new theory to me I am currently an attractive man with options
Current situation: My spouse an I have been to three separate counselors, two of which she refused to attend anymore. the third I have made a condition that she attend. I have worked on many of my own failures such as initiating date night, positive perspective and feedback, and positive affirmations to her. Most of these have been met with negativity, probably shit testing. In the meantime I have been dealing with a drunk, drinking before work, drinking and then driving children to buy more to drink, then add in some physical violence and drunkin biligerant behavior , and just all around bitchy behavior. I have suggested that she seek help to quit the achool with no success. I have begain to address and call out bitching and biligerant behavior. These actions have gotten me no where so I stfu and lift, work on myself. This process has been ongoing for just about a year and a half.
As I am new to this nmmng, red pill thing. I begain to look at my actions in an attempt to see how my actions may cause the situation to be worse or if my actions can improve the situation. My question is at what point do you cut losses? At what point does the relationship become a toxic one? At what point does the endangerment of the children become to high risk to continue to try and repair the problem?