Ltr friend

simbarlion · 2019-05-15T05:05:28+00:00

Personally i come from some weird dimension where she gets to make her own choices - And fortunately so do i (consequences).

In this alternate reality, the best result you hope for is for her to make a decision that matches yours, on her own. This ideal outcome eventuates when she values your decision above hers, or she miraculously came to the same conclusion (such as for example, that she would not want you to do the 4 day thing either).

values your decision above hers

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0io- · 2019-05-15T03:19:23+00:00

The friend is bad news. I don't know your whole situation, but in general your LTR should not be going out to bars and getting fucked up without you. She's going to get plenty of men trying to pick her up, which would be OK if she weren't deliberately putting herself in a situation where men are going to try to pick her up. To me that sounds like an open relationship, which is fine if that's what you want.

What I assume you don't want is for your LTR to have an open relationship with you where she can go to bars and clubs and Burning Man and hook up with hot guys while you're waiting around for her to come home. It seems naive to think she's going to go out and party with the married girl who hates her husband and not be hooking up behind your back.

If she's going off to some four-day drug party without you, you should consider her just a plate or FWB and dust off your tinder profile while she's out at her desert orgy party with her friend that hates her cuck husband.

screechhater · 2019-05-15T08:43:05+00:00

Been there, done it. It’s not good.

You cannot control anyone, and you should not try. You can control and set your boundaries when it comes to self respect

We have seen it here time and time again, and about all you can really do is set your standards and state “no SO of mine will be partying without me... traveling to fuckfests, etc .... “.

Lift. Read the sidebar

[deleted] · 2019-05-15T13:07:34+00:00

So based on your past posts. You are just along for the ride with this girl and also have a beta mindset. You've got no frame, game or fitness (yeah yeah, injuries..hopefully you are at least skinny-fat, better than fat fat). You have the low ground. No options.

she won’t answer my texts and I feel like shit

So she dreads you, all the time, and you respond like a girl should.

If this post existed in a vacuum and you were fit, had options, been doing this for a while my answer would be like this:

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I assume let her go and if shit goes down then next? Or do I just next period if she wants to go to the fest?

That really is a personal choice. Me, I'd not next if she goes, but bump her plate status way down and take her out of any serious ltr running while I get more girls to vet.

Some people believe in strikes first. Maybe let her go, see what she says when she gets back. Maybe she'll be the type that goes obliviously then comes back early "X started making out with every guy there , I just had to leave". And boom....right answer (if she's telling the truth...maybe she just got railed and ran like a train that night and really isn't up to any more riding of the c.c.)...who knows? Only her, and maybe your gut. Why roll the dice. There's an endless sea of women.

Girls qualify and disqualify themselves from being ltr material. If the type of girl you want to hang with doesn't go out on 4 day binges with friends-with-questionable-agendas, what an easy and self-creating process this is.

She gets bumped to a plate and create new and better options. "

BUT FOR YOU?

You are here because your ltr is dreading you, constantly. Has friends who hate their beta husbands they are looking to escape and she goes along to learn the ropes. Coming from that world, possibly the girls in that circle all expect to have beta providers they marry and complain about, and chads they meet out and bang to satisfy their itch.

Sometimes there's time for a beta male to change that saves the one they are with when they discover they NEED to change, sometimes there isn't. The plus side is you aren't married. Can go monk mode, really better yourself for the next time you start adding women in the mix.

Now again this is a personal choice. But if it were me in your particular situation, I'd see it as the handwriting on the wall that probably I'm coming to the game too late to save this one and just have to cut the line and let the fish go. Go back to the store and get a better rod, better bait, and start fishing next time when you are better prepared.

It's ok man. Better now than later. If you can divorce your brain from this particular chick you'll have a lot more downtime to really focus on you. That can be a recoup period that sets you up so much better for later on that you'll be laughing about how much effort you put into this girl now.

If you stick with her I see a long road ahead to change yourself and as a side product her view of you with a lot more obstacles.

With the right girl(s) and with an improved YOU... you won't have to ask or wonder about these situations.

Chump_No_More · 2019-05-15T15:51:11+00:00

All sexual encounters are about creating opportunity and all women know this.

A woman will not isolate with you if she knows sex is not on the table.

If a woman in a committed relationship goes to venues which create opportunities for sex to happen, then you have your answer... She must never hold a position higher than 'plate'.

This is 'LTR Vetting 101'.

red-sfpplus · 2019-05-15T11:55:50+00:00

4 day festival?

I would stock up on Vyvanse and Addy IRs. Probaby 40mg and 20mg of each. Will need at least 16-24 pills for four days for two people.

I would pack melatonin and a few Ambien as well. Trazadone to ensure if I have any spouts of anxiety, I have something for that

I would also get my Marquis Regent test kit out of the safe to ensure whatever X I purchased at the festival was clean. This is assuming I do not have time to get myself prior to the festival.

I would also make sure I pack more than enough of my vitamin stack and a bunch of pedialyte to dump into my camelback to ensure I stay hydrated and electrolytes stay good.

Do not forget sunscreen. Also, I use a anti chaffing cream “Butt butter” I think? I used to use it when did triathlons. My thighs rub together. Bug spray, sunglasses and

Do not forget lube. All that speed and X will dry you out and will need something to help stay wet during sex.

Comfy shoes that can get dirty!!!

Have fun.

donmcde · 2019-05-15T01:42:54+00:00

They're bad news for her because who the fuck wants to be friend with someone that complains all the time? You don't get to decide who she's friend with though.

If you meant for your relationship, you wouldn't worry if you had your shit together. Mate guarding doesn't look good on anybody.

rpsheepdog · 2019-05-15T12:44:02+00:00

Most here tend to be in the same contention that, it's her life and up to her to make her own decisions, you respond accordingly to her good or shitty decisions.

My take is you should have enough passive influence (read: dread) in the relationship to where she should come to you and genuinely respect your input/decision on the matter. You lead from the top down in the relationship.

Steve_rebooting · 2019-05-15T14:02:38+00:00

Who the hell are you calling violent gentlemen? I don't see anything violent about anything here. You must have stumbled on the wrong forum.

I spend 5-15 minutes a day punching, kicking, and elbowing a heavy bag and 0 minutes in my lifetime hurting someone outside of a sparring session.

Because you assume we are violent men i will assume you havent read shit about RP

ahackercalled4chan · 2019-05-15T15:16:07+00:00

So check it out, go with your LTR and this bitch of a friend and get her real drunk and let her cheat. Bang them both if you can. The only use for a woman that wants to take your woman out is to go with them and enjoy them both.

Don't give a shit about this chick's man, she's a fucking cunt and he deserves better. You on the other hand, deserve them both slobbing your nob at a four day festival.

Simbarlion has a great point, if your woman wants to go to these things, doesn't see anything wrong with going, and doesn't want you to come, or is alright with you not coming, these are single woman actions and thoughts. She's not ready to LTR and that is alright. You shouldn't be with a woman that doesn't want to include you in any situation where she might compromise her relationship with you.

This is more difficult the younger you are, because women and men both are raised pretty fucking naive. If you go out without your woman, and an old flame shows up drunk and literally throws herself at you, and you know it's never going to get back to your partner, would you fuck her?

I would, so I don't put myself in those positions. I bring my wife, not only is she super fucking fun and a great person in all situations, she also pays for shit, allows me to have someone I can say anything to, and gives me someone to walk home drunk with, or sleep it off in the car with or whatever.

LTR's are rare quality things or they are shit and you are just half assing being a single dude that can't take the idea of being by himself. Tons of people are like this so it's not a horrible thing, just a basic dick thing. Women are the same.

People don't want to be alone, so if you want to keep being with a woman that's obviously still acting single that's fine, you should act single too. You just have a roomate or friend that you fuck and see all the time and love. You know the same people and you probably have met each others parents. It's not going to last forever, or probably wont and that's cool. Sometimes you might bang other people but it's no big deal because you are young and most the time they are good to you, they brush after they suck random dicks and keep everything STD free.

No way to know someone is following the rules, so really, it's always an open relationship, you just make up bullshit promises to each other and hope the person you hardly know [3 year or less relationships] who might change in a moment while you aren't looking [life changing events happen all the fucking time] or might be sadistic and just using you. Or you could be doing all those things to her.

The world is fucked up, expect it and enjoy it anyways. Don't worry about trusting something, just worry about how it acts when you are with it, and protect yourself at all times. Don't be co-dependent and don't be a bitch. Life is long, you work hard and work out and you might find yourself able and willing to trade up and start fucking those 9's you see every so often. This one isn't the best one, and you aren't your best self.

Keep working and don't fucking worry so much about the now.

SteelSharpensSteel · 2019-05-15T10:36:35+00:00

Boundaries. You have to have them.

idigbbw · 2019-05-15T14:02:16+00:00

Why not go out with her? Be someone she wants to hang out with. Alpha up and make her friend the third wheel. You might even bag the both of them.

or, Lift and up your dread, and start doing the same thing shes doing to you.

LongRoad_518 · 2019-05-15T14:13:03+00:00

Set a boundary if you want that's for you to decide, not us, but be prepared to enforce it.

violent gentlemen

I'm not sure you understand this sub...

Why not go to fuck fest 2019 with her?

Rogue68486 · 2019-05-15T05:00:23+00:00

Misery loves company.

What does your LTr want to do regarding event?

Wtf is your background? Give us some details homie

tap0988534 · 2019-05-15T20:48:24+00:00

You've misread the situation. One goal of this sub is to teach men to become the prize. There are no options here where you are the prize. If you are needy and controlling, you are not the prize. If you secretly cry yourself to sleep while she is getting intoxicated with a bunch of hot guys in their tents, you are not the prize.

Whether it is with this girl or not, your pain only goes away when you become the prize.

For argument's sake, lets assume she's devoted and true. So she goes, gets hit on by a bunch of hot guys, and because of her undying devotion and faithfulness, nopes out of the love tent after a few back rubs and some attempted necking. And then she comes home feeling elated but hungover, and you turn to her with red-rimmed eyes, swallow the giant frog in your throat, and sob "I missed you so much!", while she pats you on the back wishing she'd let Tyrone, the skater with the lower abs have his way with her. Whatever was left of her desire for you shrivels like a raisin in the sun.

To become the prize is a long-term journey. But in the short term the only prize-like thing you could do is to be unpredictable and have a ton of fun and success doing things outside of your usual comfort zone while she is gone. When she comes back, you should feel great at all the fun and success you had, and she should be intrigued and jealous of the great time you had without her. And then you can start calling on her less often.

eddielovett · 2019-05-15T22:48:09+00:00

Sexy, feminine women want to be bossed around and told what to do. It’s in their nature to be submissive. If she tries to put herself in a situation where she has to fend off the fuck boys it’s a clear shit test since both of you know that’s not appropriate.

Title	Ltr friend
Author	Somelier1234
Upvotes	10
Comments	27
Date	May 15, 2019 1:26 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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BUT FOR YOU?